One week old baby- husband won't discuss a name.

Oh & agree with you over Angela, it's not awful, but it's dated & the 2 teens/early 20s I know both go by Jelli, a nn given to them, rather than chosen & one I personally hate

This. You’re naming a person, not writing a poem. The middle name is rarely said out loud anyway.

Wtf?

No one cares what names you like, it’s not your baby.

Orla Megan would be sooo lonely 💜
I am firmly of the opinion that mothers choose.

Angela is t a horrendous name, it was extremely fashionable for a while there but what matters is that you dislike it.

Megangela?

Seriously though Angela isn’t horrendous, could you go with it but actually call her Annie/ Ann/ Ang?
If Angela is your DGM name, does DH have any names on his side that would be worth considering, it might be a way of getting him to at least discuss it?

If he won't discuss it, fuck him & go register your name choice.

When DH was like this, I took so much & then took control & telling him that he has a say in the name, but if he's going to be a dick about it, as I actually give birth, the final say was mine whether he liked it or not, he soon sorted himself out then.

Take no shit

Oh no, he is causing you stress when you just have birth. He's got obsessed with this I wonder is he often like this or is he having mental health concerns any maybe needs to see a therapist. Perhaps he is stressed but this isn't an excuse, just possible explanation.

I would say, I just have birth to a baby. This is a huge deal. I am tired and uncomfortable. You need to be kind to me right now. We will pause and not name the baby for another week until you can be a kind person.

For now it will have a nickname - choose nickname that definely isn't a name. Give him time to reflect on his behaviour.

I personally don't mind the name but that isn't the point is it. The point is you shouldn't be put under this pressure now. I'm hoping he'll realise and put it in perspective. If he does and is civil ask him what is wrong, why does this mean so much that he gets his choice of name.

Nansi is that not the Welsh spelling?
Megan isn't an Irish or Scottish name either 🤷🏼‍♀️

Angela nn Ella?

I'm not mega keen on Angela but you could at least consider your husband's feelings rather than following the 'advice' to just name her yourself.

I mean, you want to call her Nansi. How ridiculous.

What a wanker this man is being.

• Angela! The cat Niger my hand!! Give her your choice of middle name and she can choose when she's old enough but she's better off with Angela than your three choices.

@Pbbananabagel, Megan is Greek not Welsh, but is used in Wales

Orla was typed as Oral in a pp.

I prefer his choice. Megan and orla are so common and Nanci is a world of pain for the child!!!

I don't love angela but it's ok, if he's had his heart set on it then why not let him make her, I know a few Angela's and it's nice.

For all saying just go and register her with your choice!!!! Can you imagine what your reactions would be if a man did that. Double standards!!

Let him call his daughter Angeowcw

Angela is a horrendous name, orla, Nancy and Megan are lovely.

I love the name Angela but the issue is your husband is a dickhead manchild and I'd probably move this to Relationships.

To be honest, names aren't that important. Me & DH spent months agonising over our firstborn's perfect name that had heritage and meaning and we loved. He's a teenager now, hates it and wants to be called John.

Tell him he can choose the name but you have to like it.

Agree with this! Fair enough for him to have a bit more choice/influence this time ... but you still have to pick a name both parents like. Obviously.

I dislike Nancy/Nansi and Megan is Welsh and also v dated.

Angela, is a bit meh, but doesn't evoke a strong emotion in me - but it clearly does with you, so find another name. Anna? Alissa?

I think you have a very big husband problem here, not just a name problem. Good luck OP.

Nansi is awful and not Irish or Scottish
Megan is welsh
Orlaith is the correct Irish spelling

Angela is better than Nansi. Living in Scotland I know quite a few Angela's but no Nansi.

Angelina

How is Nancy(Nansi) any better than Angela?

I dont hate Angela, but he has wanted the name for a long time, so its not like its a new idea.

Reading how awful he’s been since you gave birth- not looking after the baby at all- I imagine this is just one bit of a bigger problem.

You need to set a deadline that by the end of the weekend you have a name you both agree on. It might not be either of your favourites but you both need to like it.

I'd start by each writing down 5 names. See if you're lucky enough to get a match.

Delete 2 from each list and work from the 6 left to try and get an agreement.

I don't like Angela. It seems very middle aged to me. Angel is nice though.

I mean is it any different to two Irish/Scottish names then Nansi? Or Megan?

If it’s his turn to choose a name then fine - but you still need to both agree.

He’s being such a dick!

Tell him he can choose the name but you have to like it.

Are you both being as difficult as each other?
It sounds like your set on certain names and he’s set on certain names and you’re both being stubborn.

I like the name Angela but hate the name Nanci (especially spelt Nansi).
If he doesn’t like the name Nanci either then you both choose something else.

You can’t call a child a name one of you doesn’t like.
Any ones either of you don’t like take off the table and look for ones you both do.

I wouldn’t choose Nansi or Megan if you’re trying to reflect Scottish or Irish heritage. Nancy is ok although not my taste at all. It sounds like basically neither of you will compromise - you won’t even allow Angela for a middle name that nobody will ever ever use. And I can see why he’s not keen on Nansi. Outside of being Welsh it just looks misspelled. And even if you wanted a Welsh name I’d go for a proper one rather than choose an English name that’s quite popular and spell it differently.

Personally I’d call the baby Megan Angela and have done with it. Or sit him down and say ‘come on now, seriously. We either need to choose a name we both like otherwise I’ll have to register her with the one I want.’