One week old baby- husband won't discuss a name.

I mean, if you can't even discuss this with him there's no real relationship left. He's insisting it's his way 'or else '. That's bullying. Tell him communication has clearly broken down and you don't really see a way forward with a man who refuses to parent his daughter or discuss a name. He is not a good father and, of capable of ignoring a newborn like that, not a safe one either.

Call her what you like. He does not want to be a part of her life. He makes this clear every day he ignores her and disrespects her mother.

As simple as what? I just said that it took as a lot to find one we both liked 😂

I'd be with your DH though, I love Irish names too (we're in Ireland though) If it were up to me both my children would have Irish names as it happens though my son doesn't have an Irish name because even though my DH likes Irish names we couldn't find a single Irish boys name we both liked

Much prefer Angela to Nansi!!! Its awful.

@AryaStarkWolf I get where you're coming from but relationships and real life often aren't as simple as we'd like. Marriage and relationships are about comprising. I'm pregnant just now and me and my husband have very different tastes (I'm more about recognisable names that people can pronounce, my husband likes Gaelic names that I can't say or spell so our child will stand out!)
When it comes down to it neither will get our first choice because we love and respect each other. I really like Bryony as a name, my husband hates it. My husband has previously mentioned that he likes Bean(!) as a name for a boy 😂 I will not have a child called Bean

Angelica.

YABVU.

It's his daughter too. He has as much right to have a name he likes as you do.

He's wanted Angela since the first DD which means you already got your way and he gave in.

You absolutely should let him have Angela as a middle name at the minimum if it means that much to him.

Mumsnet has such double standards, I don't get it sometimes.

I still think it's bad that your mother let him choose a name she didn't like.

With my son, me and DH went through so many names and until we found one both of us liked, I discounted loads of his choices first and he discounted loads of mine, it would be horrible to call your child a name one parent didn't even like

Just take the baby to be registered when he's at work, if you are married he doesn't need to be there. Register the birth, tell him the name once you've done it. He's being an arse.

I'm not keen on Angela, could you go with something similar IE Angel, Annie, Amy? Otherwise maybe try asking another of his family members to have a word and tell him to wise up.
My dad was set on a name for my sister but my mum hated it, compromise was that he got his second choice name (mum still didn't like it but better than first choice). Is there no other name your husband has mentioned liking?

That would make her just as much in the wrong, surely? Mothers don't get a monopoly on names.

Just to add I agree Angela is a horrible name, but as a middle name it’s fine.

Well then you aren’t really better than him
here, just choose one that will go with it. By saying it doesn’t go with the name you like so you can’t have it as a middle name either, you are also not compromising are you. I’d book an appointment to register the baby, tell him the date and say if he doesn’t discuss a compromise by then youl be going yourself and putting the name you like. And then if he will discuss it you both need to compromise and find a name that will allow Angela as a middle name if he wants.

Angela is a terrible name for a newborn in the 2020s.

He sounds like a dickhead @busymamaof2 Good luck spending the rest of your life with him.

Did you know you were having a girl again this time?

The name stuff is irrelevant. The problem is OP's husband feels it's okay to behave like an entitled dick.

I agree that you should each choose 3 names, then each rate them, top combined score wins (or two if you want a middle name).

That's what 2 friends of mine did, but they chose 5 names each, and were allowed to veto any name proposed by the other that they absolutely hated.

They ended up with quite ordinary, but nice, names. Which was lucky, because this was the early 70s, the parents were hippies, and the rejected names included Wolf and Rainbow.

You have to each have a right of veto when choosing names! It’s just not fair otherwise. I sympathise because my DH has a rather grey rock negotiating style, ie just stating what he wants over and over. But even he recognised the need to be able to veto each other’s choices (good job too, he suggested some ridiculous names).

For DC1, DH’s preferred choice became a second middle name. My preferred choice went on the back burner when he was born as it didn’t suit him. We ended up with a name we both liked.

Angelica is quite sweet. Would he compromise with Angela as a middle name?

Also I agree Angela is a horrible name, it would be a hard no from me too

You can't call your child a name you hate, that's a hard no. Most people have to compromise on names, if one of you hate a name the other likes it has to go

As someone who is still struggling to have a conversation with DH regarding a name and baby due to be here in less than a month, I'd say that you should just aim to register the baby on your own with the name you like.

If he honestly can't bring anything else to the table in terms of names, just take the decision away if he knows there's no way you'll go for that one.

megan has many of the letters in Angela

Angela Scanlon! Young (ish) TV presenter, very funny, very fashionable dresser and Irish! A great inspiration for new baby Angelas.

Evangelina is awful, so is Angela.

Stick Nancy/Nainsí or compromise on something else.

FWIW I love the name Orla. Am I right in thinking the Irish spelling (or one of) is Orlaith?