My daughter is 7 months and although we'd picked a name before she was born we weren't decided on the spelling. I preferred the more common spelling but it has various pronunciations, however the phonetic version seemed less pretty and more unusual so neither option was perfect.
I went into labour early, had a traumatic birth and was high on morphine after an emergency c section when DH pressured me to make a decision so he could make announcements. I chose the phonetic spelling.
To cut this long story short, I've been obsessing over it since. The name itself isn't incredibly common and I feel she's going to have a lifetime of correcting/spelling her name. I wish we'd picked a less unique name and one she wouldn't struggle with.
When she was 4 months we tried a nickname, a sort of shorter version of her name which I still really like however it didn't stick- none of the other family members used it and DH basically just avoided using her name all together.
DH thinks I have PND and need to get help, however I really don't know if that's the case or if it's just name regret that I cant get past. Every time someone struggles with her name it triggers me, I cant sleep and just have this horrible feeling of dread because of it. But I also feel if we change it, DH will never forgive me and we'll also feel some sadness over the name she's had for the last 7 months.
I really don't know what to do.