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Brother for Nirvana and Jude

263 replies

Zoomer122 · 07/06/2022 18:05

We are looking for a brother name to go with older sister Nirvana and older brother Jude.
I am in love with both dc’s names,Nirvana was initially named after the band that me and dp both really love but when we looked into the meaning it just settled it for us, and with Jude we got inspiration from the beetle song

these are some names that we like but can’t use:
Hendrix-we didn’t love the nn options and we weren’t quite feeling it
Fender-we loved the connection to Fender amps and guitars but it didn’t feel like a complete name for us
Bowie- dp top choice right now with possible longer name Boden but we already have a Beau in our family who often gets called Bowie
Blues-family don’t feel like it’s a proper name to use
Indie-my top choice and I’m trying to convince dp
Fox-this is my second choice but don’t like the nickname possibly of foxy

We are quite settled on the middle name options either Michael or Beesley after my late grandfather

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ladydimitrescu · 07/06/2022 22:27

Jackson is lovely, Enzo is ok.
Jude is amazing - no one here was judging Jude. It was Nirvana and a sibling called Fender/Hendrix/Blues/Bowie that was raising several eyebrows.

LilyMarshall · 07/06/2022 22:07

Zoomer122 · 07/06/2022 22:01

After thinking about it for a bit me and dp have found the name Enzo and we think it works well with the other dc

Enzo is a great name. Loved enzo in vampire diaries.

RenegadeMatron · 07/06/2022 22:04

Your children are people in their own right.

They’re not just a medium through which the parents can express their interests or hobbies.

You love music. Great. Most of us do.

It doesn’t mean we get to lumber our kids with names that they have to deal with for the rest of the their lives.

I would go no contact with my parents if they called me Fender, Blues - or indeed if they have me the name of a 90s grunge band.

Beesley is fine as a middle name. Go as wild as you like with the middle name, especially if it’s honouring an important family member. It’s not good as a first name.

Original poster
Zoomer122 · 07/06/2022 22:01

After thinking about it for a bit me and dp have found the name Enzo and we think it works well with the other dc

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Hippopotas · 07/06/2022 22:00

Nikki
Sixx
Mars
Eddie
Taylor
Hunter
Gunner

Blackcountryexile · 07/06/2022 22:00

Atticus Michael is nice. Are you fans of To Kill A Mockingbird?

MissNothing1991 · 07/06/2022 21:51

Zoomer122 · 07/06/2022 19:43

My Children’s names have never been thought as,as weird like it’s never been mentioned and it’s almost been a decade!
nirvana loves her name and gets called niv and varnie most of the time and has never been picked on because of it
Jude has always been my top pick for a boy and i think it goes lovely with nirvana’s name
I have so many options and I’m not close to choosing any I think our top 5 right now are
1.jaxon beesley
2.Atticus Michael
3.blue Michael
4.Indigo - indie beesley
5.fox beesley

Poor children. And I'm sorry, say what you want, maybe people don't say to their face, but they definitely will behind their back

TabithaTiger · 07/06/2022 21:48

TabithaTiger · 07/06/2022 21:46

If you loved Nirvana, do you like the Foo Fighters? How about Taylor (for a boy or girl) After Taylor Hawkins?

A few others...
Lennon
Otis
Harrison
Joel
Stevie
Allannis

Sorry, just seen you said boys names.

MissNothing1991 · 07/06/2022 21:47

Zoomer122 · 07/06/2022 19:01

I didn’t realise my kids names were that controversial!!😳
Me and dh both love there names and so do our family’s and I have no regrets
Nirvana wasn’t just named after the band!hahaha
she was named due to the concept in Hinduism, Nirvana means "bliss" or being in "a transcendent state free from suffering”
And as for the spelling mistake on the Beatles totally my fault forgot to proof read

You admitted you originally picked the name Nirvana because of the band 🙄

TabithaTiger · 07/06/2022 21:46

If you loved Nirvana, do you like the Foo Fighters? How about Taylor (for a boy or girl) After Taylor Hawkins?

A few others...
Lennon
Otis
Harrison
Joel
Stevie
Allannis

berksandbeyond · 07/06/2022 21:46

People try way too fucking hard to be cool. These are humans, not toys.

Mumofgirls2017 · 07/06/2022 21:45

Nirvana, Jude and

Lennon
Lennox
Rocco
River
Levi
Ezra
Otis

ODFOx · 07/06/2022 21:39

Nirvana, Jude and
Trent (Reznor)
Coby (Cobain)
Balonz ( goes with everything)

BellaVida · 07/06/2022 21:34

Jude’s a great name, Nirvana is a certainly different.

My top pick would be Lennon nn Lenny

Bournetilly · 07/06/2022 21:30

Jude is not a controversial name at all, it’s actually quite popular now (I know of a few children named Jude) and a normal name!
I think people are more likely commenting on the name Nirvana.
Please give your child a proper name to go alongside Jude. At least Nirvana can be shortened.

Minimalme · 07/06/2022 21:27

Nothing wrong with your dc names - Nirvana is unusual but lots of names are.

But you are poking the bear with 'Beesley' and 'Fender' surely? And insisting on a music connection for all three kids is just making your life harder than it needs to be.

Figgygal · 07/06/2022 21:26

Please not Jaxon its truly truly awful
And that is in context of some other names that have been suggested here

worriedaboutmoney2022 · 07/06/2022 21:23

ladydimitrescu · 07/06/2022 18:59

Please don't use any of those names.
You cannot have children called nirvana and Hendrix.

I used to work with the hospital paediatricians (NHS) and I'll be honest some of the names were ridiculous and staff in hospitals and schools do have a giggle 🤭
Please consider your kids and their future potential careers

TambourineOfRepentance · 07/06/2022 21:19

Zoomer122 · 07/06/2022 20:45

why should I have to stick to society’s norms
I can give so many examples of other peoples more unusual names.Just because you wouldn’t name your children Nirvana and Jude dosnt mean you have to make me feel like I’ve burdened my kids with bad names.My kids are healthy and happy and that is all that matters,all I wanted wise a sibling name for there baby brother!

You don't have to. You can name them near enough whatever you like, be it Bono, Adolf or Keith. It's a free country.

I find it somewhat hard to believe that you've been unaware until this thread that Nirvana might be a contentious name- your family and friends must take a far more tentative approach than mine- but that's rather beside the point.

No name is objectively bad- they're just collections of letters etc etc
It is, however, a collection of letters that your child (unless they change it themselves) is going to have all their life. On every school register, at every job interview, whenever they introduce themselves to a person. And, however wrong or unfair it may be, some of those names are going to put a child (or adult) at a disadvantage or even just become an annoyance.

This isn't a case of "You aren't ever going to get an orthopedic surgeon called Alabama." Because of course you could. But having every other person you meet going "Wait what?" Or "like the state?" becomes irritating. Having to explain to people that it was your dad's love of Alabama 3- a band you have no particular love for - that resulted in you having a name that has kids at school laughing when they hear it gets old pretty quickly.

Just because it shouldn't necessarily be the case doesn't mean that it isn't. There are many societal norms which could do with being broken, but children not commonly being named after their parents favourite band/music genre isn't really one of them.

Beelezebub · 07/06/2022 21:17

Beesley makes me think of Max Beesley. Actor now but for me will always be one of the musicians on one of Take That’s 90s tours.

please avoid Slash. No one wants to be named after colloquial terminology for going for a piss.

MintyMoocow · 07/06/2022 21:17

Brian
Kevin
John
Arthur.

Poor little mite!

Luredbyapomegranate · 07/06/2022 21:07

Oh OP…

Seriously not Fender. Seriously. Or Hendrix or Blues. They are not a collection of musical smurfs.

Blue is Ok I’d say. Or Fox if it’s a boy.

LilyMarshall · 07/06/2022 20:58

Zoomer122 · 07/06/2022 20:45

why should I have to stick to society’s norms
I can give so many examples of other peoples more unusual names.Just because you wouldn’t name your children Nirvana and Jude dosnt mean you have to make me feel like I’ve burdened my kids with bad names.My kids are healthy and happy and that is all that matters,all I wanted wise a sibling name for there baby brother!

Jude is a really normal ordinary boys name. No idea why people are thinking that is unusual or weird.

Cheesesteak · 07/06/2022 20:55

Ian (Curtis)
Brain (May)
Roger (Taylor)
Dave (Grohl)

HereIAmBrainTheSizeOfAPlanet · 07/06/2022 20:53

Sue