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Name regret - too much pressure for a miracle baby?

84 replies

FFSparenting · 31/05/2022 16:48

I keep obsessing about my baby's name and wonder if anyone on here felt the same. Maybe it's common to feel this way but this is my first and most likely only baby due to a long journey with fertility issues, multiple losses and failed IVF. I then found myself pregnant naturally out of nowhere after having accepted I would be child free. I now have an amazing baby son who is lovely and doing really well. He is my miracle and the miracle of our family as he is the only grandchild on either side.

We could not decide on name throughout the pregnancy, I had many girls names I would have loved but could not settle on a boys name. Not one that really sparkled and felt right.

We could not decide even after he was born and were getting close to the deadline so settled on a name that I thought I wouldn't regret because it is solid and classic. But perhaps because of my fertility issues the name had to be so special that it was impossible to find one that felt right? I get quite 'meh' responses to his name which I find quite gutting and I find myself not using it and using silly nicknames instead. Does anyone else feel like this? Am I over thinking it?

The name is Jack. I can't help feel there was something better for him and it's casting a shadow over what is an absolute miracle given all our hurdles to have him.

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FIZZYTEDDY · 31/05/2022 20:40

Jack is a great solid name!!

FIZZYTEDDY · 31/05/2022 20:39

MsTSwift · 31/05/2022 17:07

My sister had a friend who literally said her dc were more precious than my sisters big standard babies as they had been born via ivf. Think that’s one of those thoughts to keep in your own head!

Sorry WHAT? what has that story got to do with the OP? Where does the OP say that her baby is more precious than another's "bog standard baby"?

This is simply a new mother looking for some feedback on her new little baby's name..a baby who she feels is an absolute miracle to her!

Honestly don't know why some feel the need to post nasty comments to someone looking help/advice

Minniem2020 · 31/05/2022 20:33

Jack is a great name. I wanted it for one of my DS but I have a SS with a name that is too similar so couldn't have it unfortunately

MrsLighthouse · 31/05/2022 20:26

Jack is lovely . Maybe just call him Jackson, Jacky or just Jay ( J ) how old is he ? If your husband agrees just change his name. You need to be enjoying him, not fretting.

SquigglyOne · 31/05/2022 20:24

Jack is a lovely name - it definitely would have been on my list if it wasn’t my exes name 🙈🙈😂😂

MadKittenWoman · 31/05/2022 20:15

Jack is fine. My only IVF /ICSI DS is a Matthew. His class was full of Jacks and Matthews. Good, solid names and timeless with it.

AcceptYourself · 31/05/2022 19:59

It's a great name!

And all the Jacks I know are lovely

EverNapping · 31/05/2022 19:59

Jack is a lovely name, it will suit him at every stage of his life and no matter who or what he becomes.

Congratulations

toastofthetown · 31/05/2022 19:58

Congratulations on your baby! Jack is a solid name and one which is unlikely to cause him any problems in life. But if I met a baby Jack, I'd probably give a 'meh' response as well. It was the most popular boys name in England and Wales from 1996-2008 and is still the most popular name in Scotland and that level of popularity means that it's just not as objectively exciting. Though on the flip-side, it's less polarising. If you had called him Lysander for example, you'd probably have more 'oh wow, I love that!' type reactions but also a lot of 'errr, that's... interesting' as well.

obsessedwithsleep · 31/05/2022 19:58

Jack is a lovely name. You don't want a name that people react to!! I think you're overthinking it because of all the trauma of getting to this point.

I actually regret not calling my baby son Jack!

Kanaloa · 31/05/2022 19:56

Are those people still your friends? They sound like a bunch of nasty little primary school girls. I’d not have been listening to any of that type of poison/mean girl talk.

herecomesthesun31 · 31/05/2022 19:54

My nephew is called Jack. Everyone loves it. It's a strong classic name.

One of my friends recently had a boy and called him "Orlando" everyone in our group commented on how AMAZING the name is and how lovely and it's so great that it's so unusual..

When she left with the baby they all started laughing and saying how pathetic the name was 🥴 so moral of the story - you can't trust what people say to you or what their reaction is. Who cares what people think.

Personally I like classic names & I do think jack is a lovely name 😃

Joystir59 · 31/05/2022 19:47

Less can most definitely be more

Joystir59 · 31/05/2022 19:47

You couldn't have picked a more solid strong sound name for a boy. It's lovely.

UrsulaPandress · 31/05/2022 19:43

Love Jack.

I have a nephew. I sometimes lengthen it to Jackson.

Holly60 · 31/05/2022 19:42

Jack is gorgeous - excellent choice mama. I had mild name regret that I DIDN'T call my son Jack - genuinely.

As PP have said, it's a name that he can take anywhere. Classic, sweet, strong etc.

FWIW if I'd met you and you said his name is Jack, I would have enthusiastically said 'aww LOVELY name'.

Congratulations on your beautiful miracle boy.

DisforDarkChocolate · 31/05/2022 19:41

Jack is a wonderful name. It's the name of my much loved Grandad who was honestly a truly special man.

Your son is special, his name doesn't have to be.

iPud · 31/05/2022 19:38

I am not a fan of top 100 names, let alone top ten, HOWEVER, I make an exception for Jack. I absolutely love love love it. Enjoy your darling boy. I hope you can feel better about his name.

HairyBum · 31/05/2022 19:36

Is classic name, timeless

Hugasauras · 31/05/2022 19:35

Trinacham · 31/05/2022 18:34

😐 seriously?

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That poster was correcting a typo in their previous post, not saying the name was bog standard.

Kanaloa · 31/05/2022 18:39

@Mischance

I don’t think people are saying ‘meh’ to the child’s name. I think op means their reaction is ‘meh.’ Like they’re not acting excited/wow to the name. But of course most of us are probably like that!

Trinacham · 31/05/2022 18:36

I don't hear of many baby Jack's anymore, last one I know is now 8! I would stick with it. I did have a wobble about my baby's name after some 'it's meh' or '_ is SO much better' here on Mumsnet. Not everyone is going to love your choice but so what.

Trinacham · 31/05/2022 18:34

MsTSwift · 31/05/2022 17:07

Bog standard

😐 seriously?

Topseyt123 · 31/05/2022 18:31

Jack is a fantastic name. I'd have seriously considered it if we had had a boy (had 3 girls instead).

TabithaTittlemouse · 31/05/2022 18:29

Jack is a gorgeous name! Huge congratulations!
I thought you were going to say something really dull or awful. Jack is a strong, classic name that is always going to be popular because it’s such a great name.

I think that maybe you had such a massive build up to becoming pregnant, being pregnant and now he is here it’s suddenly all a bit of a blur. He is incredibly precious of course but maybe for the first time in a long time you are able to relax and enjoy your little one but can’t remember how.

If you had said Penfold I might agree with you 😂