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Family strongly dislike baby name

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Abc986 · 06/05/2022 18:33

Im 30 weeks pregnant with my seccond, its a boy again, which my family made it very ovious they wanted a girl and was disapointed when i revealed its a boy.

After weeks and weeks of discussing names with my partner we finally settled on Reggie a couple of weeks ago, kept it to ourselves untill we knew it would stick and now its stuck we have been telling family.

Very few family actually like the name and my family have been very strongly against it. Saying its a drug gang name, i cant name my child that. Then going on to suggest other names. I firmly tell them no Reggie is what we have settled on and that will be his name. To which i get the response you will change your mind when you see him so what about this name.

Its really upsetting me and im due to go to a siblings birthday party tomorow and i really dont want to go as i know the topic of names will be brought up.

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ladygindiva · 06/05/2022 19:36

Reggie is very cool. Ignore your family. If someone starts about it just loudly cut in with " not up for debate" and change the subject.

USaYwHatNow · 06/05/2022 19:26

Eurgh I feel your pain. Some of my family were instantly 'disappointed' that our baby will be a boy, not a girl. I've then deliberately not told them the name we like because I cba with any more of the drama. I think Reggie is cute.

SharonWattsCrispyExtensions · 06/05/2022 19:26

It's none of their business. Tell them they get to name their kids and you get to name yours. And shut the topic down.

Perfect example though of why you shouldn't reveal your baby's name before they've arrived. Much easier to diss the name of an as yet unborn baby, than a real life farting and gurgling one.

Spaghag · 06/05/2022 19:23

There's absolutely nothing wrong with Reggie. Unless, as a PP said, your older child is called Ronnie.

It sounds as though your family are ill mannered joy thieves. Stealing your joy about having a lovely baby boy by expressing their own disappointment & then, as if that wasn't bad enough, stealing your joy at announcing your perfect name by telling you to pick something else.

I'm so sorry they have behaved so appallingly.

Partyof2 · 06/05/2022 19:22

I had this after my daughter was born and we announced the name. To be honest I think it sent me into a bit of a spiral of pnd and extreme anxiety that I had made the wrong decision. Now she is older and I adore her name. Stick to your guns!

Apple333 · 06/05/2022 19:17

Love the name reggie - ignore them all. Congrats 💙

canyoutoleratethis · 06/05/2022 18:51

And this is why you must never tell people the name of your child before it's born! Seriously OP, you were just asking for trouble. People tend to not give you such negative reactions if you hold off announcing until after the child is actually born - few people would be so rude to an actual baby. The damage is unfortunately done now, so it just depends on how much you love the name - if you do, tell them that their opinion is not relevant and you will not be changing it. For what it's worth, I love Reggie and think you should stick to your guns!!

heartofgoldcoins · 06/05/2022 18:36

Unless your first born is Ronnie then they can stick their opinion where the sun don't shine