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Family strongly dislike baby name

108 replies

Abc986 · 06/05/2022 18:33

Im 30 weeks pregnant with my seccond, its a boy again, which my family made it very ovious they wanted a girl and was disapointed when i revealed its a boy.

After weeks and weeks of discussing names with my partner we finally settled on Reggie a couple of weeks ago, kept it to ourselves untill we knew it would stick and now its stuck we have been telling family.

Very few family actually like the name and my family have been very strongly against it. Saying its a drug gang name, i cant name my child that. Then going on to suggest other names. I firmly tell them no Reggie is what we have settled on and that will be his name. To which i get the response you will change your mind when you see him so what about this name.

Its really upsetting me and im due to go to a siblings birthday party tomorow and i really dont want to go as i know the topic of names will be brought up.

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BaaMoon · 06/05/2022 20:38

SpiderinaWingMirror · 06/05/2022 20:03

Honestly, you will have to hoik up the big girl pants and ignore them.
You and dh like the name, it's not like you are calling him Gary.

What's wrong with Gary?!

PrettyMaybug · 06/05/2022 20:38

Not a fan of 'Reggie' sorry... Sad I am with your family.

quietnightmare · 06/05/2022 20:35

Your choice. Don't worry about it

AllyCatTown · 06/05/2022 20:33

The kind of people who express disappointment at the sex of the baby are unsurprisingly also going to give you their opinion on the name. But you’ve told them so nothing to do but tell them not to be so rude. They should shut up when the child is born.

Greyhare · 06/05/2022 20:23

I think Reggie is fine for a child but would he be taken seriously as an adult introducing himself as Reggie, it just seems twee and childlike.

pinklavenders · 06/05/2022 20:10

You and dh like the name, it's not like you are calling him Gary.

Personally I prefer Gary to Reginald/Reggie... but that shouldn't matter. YOU have got be happy with your choice!

Bunce1 · 06/05/2022 20:08

pinklavenders · 06/05/2022 20:05

Mrs Hinchs baby boy called Reggie?

Ronnie

Same thing though isn’t it. Reggie Ronnie potato potAAAto 😂

Skelligsfeathers · 06/05/2022 20:05

They're right, it is bloody awful.
But you should never tell anyone tour baby name until the baby is actually born!

SharonWattsCrispyExtensions · 06/05/2022 20:05

I have no idea who Mrs.Hinch is but I do know a young Reggie whose parents are very middle class. He has a sister called Stella.

All those Alfie/Freddie/Reggie type names seem to have been adopted by the masses.

pinklavenders · 06/05/2022 20:05

Mrs Hinchs baby boy called Reggie?

Ronnie

SpiderinaWingMirror · 06/05/2022 20:03

Honestly, you will have to hoik up the big girl pants and ignore them.
You and dh like the name, it's not like you are calling him Gary.

pinklavenders · 06/05/2022 20:03

I don't like Reginald or Reggie personally

But what matters is that YOU like it, regardless of your family.

ChazzaGirl · 06/05/2022 20:02

I honestly wouldn’t dream of voicing my unasked-for opinion on a baby’s name. It’s quite shitty of them but please try not to get upset about it - it’s your little boy and your choice.

For what it’s worth, I think Reggie is a really nice name.

Bunce1 · 06/05/2022 20:01

CheshireCats · 06/05/2022 19:58

@Bunce1 So what class is Reggie??Personally, I don't associate it with any class...

Working class. Obviously. Why take offence?

I suspect that’s why family have taken such a strong dislike to it. It’s a strong name. No getting away from it. Mrs Hinchs baby boy called Reggie?

Yahyahs22 · 06/05/2022 20:01

My brother and dad hated the name of my second son, now he's here and 3 weeks old they say nothing about the name (before it was digs, 'are you still settled on the name?' And 'you'll change your mind when you see him') the name seems to have grown on them both and it's a very unusual name

CheshireCats · 06/05/2022 19:58

@Bunce1 So what class is Reggie??Personally, I don't associate it with any class...

pictish · 06/05/2022 19:57

Well I don’t like Reggie…but it’s hardly offensive or out there. If you like it, use it. Your family will get used to it.

TabithaTittlemouse · 06/05/2022 19:56

This is why you don’t tell people the name before you give birth.

Kite22 · 06/05/2022 19:54

And this is why you must never tell people the name of your child before it's born! Seriously OP, you were just asking for trouble. People tend to not give you such negative reactions if you hold off announcing until after the child is actually born - few people would be so rude to an actual baby

This.
By bringing it up before the name belongs to an actual person, then there is an unspoken 'thing' that there is still time to change it. By waiting until the baby is born, and you deliver the lovely news that the baby has arrived safely and that you are going to call him / her X, it is fait accompli and people are much less likely to share their opinions.

BaaMoon · 06/05/2022 19:54

What a horrible family you have I'm so sorry x if it were me I'd just shout at them and blame the hormones but that probably isn't the right way to go about it.

inappropriateraspberry · 06/05/2022 19:51

Never, never, NEVER tell anybody your name choice u til the baby is born.
Unless you have a child called Ronnie and/or your surname is Kray, Reggie is a perfectly acceptable name. Ignore them, stick to your guns and they'll soon get used to it.

Bunce1 · 06/05/2022 19:51

It’s a class marker name, in the same way Octavia or Crispin are.

You love it, use it.

Names are totally subjective.

RogerThatBravoOne · 06/05/2022 19:46

She was *

RogerThatBravoOne · 06/05/2022 19:46

I had this from my family. Stick to your guns. It really upset me when I experienced what you are. My family love his name now he’s older and think he suits it. I didn’t make the same mistake with my second, he was born and they were simply told what he was called. I do think my mum looks back and sees how much of an arsehole he was at the time.

KirstenBlest · 06/05/2022 19:36

Reggie is ok. Be prepared for people asking you if you are/were disappointed DC2 isn't a girl though, and have a stock reply to nip it in the bud. Do not say yes.

My stock answer was that as a DD2, I had always liked having a DSis, so two of the same was great