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Astrid or Phoebe?

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feb1982 · 19/04/2022 00:00

Please help! Our beautiful DD arrived almost 2 weeks ago and we named her Astrid Phoebe Rose. We're now wondering if we got the names the wrong way around and she is more of a Phoebe than an Astrid. But is this the sleep deprivation talking? We love both names and just can't decide! Generally we've had very positive reactions to her name (although I know that my family prefer the name Phoebe).

Have you been in a similar situation? If so how did you make up your mind! Grateful for any thoughts on each name too.

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AmericanStickInsect · 19/04/2022 10:51

Astrid is beautiful. If you're unsure call her one name for a couple of days then the other.

PraiseBee · 19/04/2022 10:29

Astrid Star

boronia · 19/04/2022 10:28

Love Astrid.
Phoebe might make people think she was named for the character on Friends.

Purplepalm53 · 19/04/2022 10:25

Both good names. I personally prefer Phoebe but Astrid nice too

OrangeAndYellowAndBlue · 19/04/2022 10:02

Both great, can't go wrong.

Try out both and see which you prefer calling her.

elfran · 19/04/2022 09:54

I love Astrid, it's beautiful.

Flow-wise, Astrid Phoebe also works better, as in Phoebe Astrid, the vowel ending of Phoebe runs into the A of Astrid. I end up smushing the two into one mangled name when I say it aloud.

So I'd say you have it perfect and not to second guess yourself!

(In the days following my DD's birth I also second-guessed our decision a fair few times, does she look more like our other choices, etc. I think it was just overflow emotions from months of name discussions! So happy we stuck with our gut as I can't imagine her as anything else now. 😆)

ThatshallotBaby · 19/04/2022 09:43

I much prefer Astrid. Hold your nerve Grin

UpInTheAttic · 19/04/2022 09:11

Astrid is much nicer IMO.

thewhatsit · 19/04/2022 08:38

It doesn’t matter which way “flows” better because you won’t be calling her all names. She will be Phoebe or Astrid so which one do you prefer?
Personally I prefer Phoebe but Astrid is perfectly nice.

ThePoint678 · 19/04/2022 08:37

Astrid is great.

Bumpsadaisie · 19/04/2022 08:31

I think they're both good names. Astrid and Phoebe are both smart and nice girls, with good friends and a slightly quirky / creative streak to their personalities ( in my view)!

WhoppingBigBackside · 19/04/2022 08:28

Drop the Rose, it adds nothing.

I prefer Astrid but also like Phoebe

Sparkl · 19/04/2022 07:56

Astrid is lovely

RuthW · 19/04/2022 07:51

Phoebe is lovely. Astrid isn't

NETSRIK · 19/04/2022 06:17

Astrid . Phoebe is so popular. Astrid is beautiful and different.

LaTangerina · 19/04/2022 05:59

I love Astrid & you don't hear it much

Aorh · 19/04/2022 05:41

Love Astrid!

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feb1982 · 19/04/2022 05:31

@toastofthetown my husband is definitely leaning more towards Astrid at the moment and thinks that it's a strong name to grow into.

@DramaAlpaca our surname begins with a P so I think if we went with Phoebe as a first name then we'd change around the two middle names (so Phoebe Rose Astrid) to avoid the initials PARP 🤣

Finding it helpful to get people's views so thank you!

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DramaAlpaca · 19/04/2022 02:11

I agree with calling her Phoebe at home for a few days and see how it feels. You'll know if it suits her better.

I think I prefer Phoebe Astrid Rose, as long as the initials are OK with your surname.

urbanbuddha · 19/04/2022 02:06

Astrid.

toastofthetown · 19/04/2022 02:02

I don’t think the flow of the name matters as much as what you want to call her every day. Personally. I prefer Astrid, though both are good names. What does your husband think? Could you try calling her Phoebe at home for a few days to see how that feels?

ImustLearn2Cook · 19/04/2022 01:40

Astrid Phoebe Rose is beautiful. If you switched Phoebe with Astrid then her initials would spell PAR. My initials spell a 3 letter word and it sometimes annoyed me.

I have met a few people who use their middle name as a first name. So, if in future your daughter prefers her middle name then she can choose to be called by it.

MrsEricBana · 19/04/2022 01:33

Astrid for me. Not at all common, nice, strong v Phoebe which often seems to become Phoebs/Feebs

Kanaloa · 19/04/2022 01:30

I would choose Phoebe over Astrid. I think it’s just much nicer and less harsh.

thesnaleandthewhail · 19/04/2022 01:27

I know two phoebe roses and dozens of girls with the middle name rose so personally I'd keep the Astrid as it's less common. I prefer it to phoebe personally.