Do you want your kids to have names that go well together?

I literally couldn't care less and think it's the strangest thing. Why do their names need to 'go together,' it just doesn't make sense to me

I know siblings called Alexandra, Henry and Hayley. I always think Hayley got the short straw.

Sort of. I had an Emily and wanted to call DS Elliot but then realised they both began with E and wanted more children and didn't want to be stuck in a theme. Then changed to Harry and wanted to call DC3 Megan but at the time Prince Harry was marrying Megan (I actually posted on here about it 😅) so changed dd name!

Like most replies, I think it depends what you mean.
I don't like 'matchy' names, that seemed to not treat the dc as individuals, but I do think that when you like a certain style of name, then it is highly likely all your name choices are going to be from that sort of style, so it isn't that likely you will get David being the sibling of L'Shawn.

Yes, because I wouldn’t want one to fee shirt changed.

I know a family who have a Jake and a Ziggy and I think how Jake might feel like Ziggy got a cooler name or Ziggy might feel he got a ‘silly’ name.

I have a Luna. I think it would be a bit odd for her to have a sister called Kelly. Of course it doesn't matter, just so different.

For example, twins called Frank and Robyn just sound like they go together to me, neither bame seems out-of-place. But receiving an invitation to "Frank and Diamond's"?.

Idk. It's jarring to me.

Not to say it's wrong but it bugs me. Likewise, matching middle names to first names. So I always loved Alice Josephine & Violet Ramona as a teen (not so much now), but I wasn't as keen in Alice Ramona and Violet Josephine. Reason? The colours I associate with the names don't march as well that way. Alice and Josephine are both pastel colours to me, whereas Violet is violet and Ramona makes me think of brown and dark green (hence why Violet Ramona works in my head because they are jewel like colours and also the flower in the earth image).

I don't associate all names with colours, some are associations of mood or time-period. Maude to me is a very sad name, a bleak name, and makes me think of the 19th century.
Sonny, on the other hand, is a bright name, a happy name, it's yellow (sun) and makes me think of the late 20th century. Maude and Sonny would clash.

Probably won't bother the kids but it really irritates me.

Yes

All my DCs have the same type of name, classic and nothing overly popular but not anything too odd. I'm not even sure why it was important to me.

I know a sibling set called Lilly and Blue which just seems odd

I think it's important. We've just had a daughter and she's got an unusual Welsh name (in Welsh but we live in England) I'm already trying to think what will match!

We didn't want matchy names for our dcs, but we definitely wanted them to feel right together as well as reflecting the wider family heritage. Their names go well together and even now, as adults, they are both complimented on how well each of their names 'go' with their middle names.

I think it’s strange when siblings have wildly different names eg Sarah, Antigone, Emily, Jessica.

I knew a set of sisters with names similar to the above, in that exact order and I always wondered why the parents went out there with the second daughter but choose totally average names for the other three.

I know a very religious family who were friends of my family growing up. The 2 children were called Joseph and Mary. I kid you not....As adults both now use their middle names.

Depends on what you mean by "going together"... I don't like rhyming names or obviously themed names, or giving all the children names that start with the same letter, Duggar style. But at the same time, I'd like the names I choose to seem at least somewhat cohesive in style. I just think it would be odd to name one child Margaret and the other Ariana, even if hypothetically I liked both of those names. But I agree that in the long term, it doesn't really matter.

No because they are individuals not a band or a brand.

Me and my brother have matchy matchy names and I find it kind of embarrassing that my mum tried to give our very existence a style or design. It feels so contrived.

My childrens names absolutely don’t match, although I do like the sound of names when they are of the same type/vibe but it didn’t happen for us. We were definitely the couple who each loved a name and both liked the others choice enough so went with both and you would never think they are in the same family. But actually both their names really suit them and I actually love the vibe of blake lively and Ryan Reynolds Childrens names, James, Inez and Betty - all lovely, not too popular, but don’t necessarily go together. Each to their own.

I think short term it's quite important that the names aren't wildly different as PP have said, because every christmas card or whatever refers to you all as a family group and I think it's weird if a name sticks out. Not the most important reason in the world but I do think it matters. Long term, less of an issue as people grow up and live their own lives.

There is an 'influencer' type family in the US with kids Spurgeon, Henry, Ivy and Fern. I find it so weird they went really out there with Spurgeon for baby one, kinda normal with Henry, then went so matchy-matchy on Ivy and Fern (who are not twins).

I like more out there names than my DH but feel like if we go a bit more unusual for DC1 (who is en route) then we set a bit of a precedent, so will probably end up playing it a bit safer.

I didn't consciously look for names that 'made sense' together, but I was aware of how they sounded together. I have 3 DC and find myself writing their names together quite regularly and obviously saying their names throughout the day etc. I wanted them to sound lovely as a trio, because as much as they are individuals, they are also siblings and I wanted that connection with their names.

I think my DCs' names sound good together in that they don't rhyme, don't merge into one another and were a similar popularity when the DCs were born (although one of them has risen up the popularity charts over the past ten years). The names have different origins but both have multiple nickname options and both were more popular in the late Victorian - WW1 era than they are now. They are names DH and I liked as individual names though so they weren't chosen because they 'go'.

I do find names really interesting and do notice things e.g. families where all the children have been given a name ending in 'ie' because the parents' do, where the DD's name is a feminine version of her Dad's and the DS has a masculine version of his mum's (Josie-Joseph, Michael-Michelle), where the same letter/sound features in all the names e.g. Eileen, Maureen, Colleen or where siblings have names from very different eras e.g. Christine and Jessie. I admit to finding it strange when siblings, especially twins, are given similar names e.g. Kylie and Kyla, Claire and Clara - I've taught a few sets of identical twins with very similar names and would love to know if it's just that their parents loved one name so much that they wanted to use it for both children.

How many people think of their own siblings' names and fret because they don't match their own? @Hollyandlilac sounds like she doesn't really like her name, rather than wishing it matched her brother's.

It wouldn't bother me per se, but I might worry about how the siblings would feel if they had wildly different names if one had a popular name vs one with a terrible name. Evangeline and Ann wouldn't bother me. Nor would River and Noah. But Oedipus and Jack would.

Yes - my kids' names will have to match. DD has an old-fashioned religious name along the Margaret/Dorothy line, so I wouldn't call her sibling Justin or Gemma, for example, even though both of those are saint/religious names. The moods don't match because they were popular at very different times to DD's name. John or Elizabeth, on the other hand, would be fine.

I would avoid obvious differences in style. Especially if I had 2 or more DC with that style.

E.g. If I had Josephine, Evangeline and Alexandrina I wouldn't name a 4th DD Ann. I would worry Ann would feel the odd one out. Or the other way round - Ann, Tess, Ruth and Alexandrina.

Similarly with origin. If I had 3 DC with Welsh names I wouldn't give the 4th a non Welsh name. This happened in my family - think 5 siblings named Eira, Siôr, Llŷr, Tesni and Malcolm. Malcolm stands out. Malcolm is the one who gets questions about whether he has a different Dad to the others/jokes about 'the milkman'.

I think even the people saying no probably do have kids names that are similar-ish because you're usually drawn to the same types of names. I'm thinking of siblings I know and I can't think of any that don't go with each other. Agree with pp that it would also a bit odd to call e.g. one child Persephone and one Ann - the weight of each name needs to match.

No, but I just assume most people like similar kinds of names whenever they are deciding on one so they will inevitably be similar. I don't know if my two are matchy in that way. One is seen as a bit 80s I think but is actually ancient Greek and one is Roman but often suggested on here as a "wet" name for a boy.

I've only ever heard the word sibset on here and it annoys me disproportionately