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Help - struggling with pnd and baby has no name

58 replies

ActonBell · 20/12/2021 18:48

Title says it really. DS is 2 weeks and has no name and I’m really finding it difficult. Have severe PND - I’ve been here before and I am getting help. He doesn’t sleep unless being held and I’m beside myself with tiredness.

Really want to decide on a name before Christmas.

We’ve been mulling Aidan, Arthur, Charlie, Henry, Rory (though DH doesn’t like Henry). Looking for two syllables or more. Feel in such a fog and terrified of giving him the “wrong” name.

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SlowBoiledFrog · 29/12/2021 20:04

Just sending you Flowers op, hope you have had a restful Christmas

VanillaAndOrange · 29/12/2021 20:00

Benji is awful

If it's good enough for Benjamin Zephaniah (I read that that's what his nearest and dearest call him) then it can't be all bad!

I love Arthur and Rory and like all the others, although I like Harry better than Henry.

Theblacksheepandme · 22/12/2021 17:00

I like Aidan. I think the name Rory is getting too popular.

JaneyJimplin · 22/12/2021 16:43

Rory!

Pamlar · 22/12/2021 16:42

Just wanted to send Flowers
Hope things start to get easier.
It's so hard and no sleep is horrendous.
Glad you reached out for help. Really hope you find a name you like!

ThirdElephant · 21/12/2021 23:30

@Buddhabowl

Do you like Benji? I know a Benjamin who is always Benji
Benji is awful.
Buddhabowl · 21/12/2021 22:04

Do you like Benji? I know a Benjamin who is always Benji

mogschristmascalamity · 21/12/2021 21:04

He doesnt like henry and you dont like Ben so they are both crossed off the list. Thats easy enough.

Out of the remaining names i qould choose rory or aiden. Because i cant pronounce my 'th s' and arfer sounds awful.

I shortlised DDs name by yelling it loudly and imagining calling it across the park. If i sounded like a fishwife it was chucked off the list.

UpintNorth · 21/12/2021 20:59

Sorry that you are suffering. Take all the support Flowers

I like Arthur (Artie? Bert?), Charlie and Aidan.
Could offer Austin/Austen as another idea?

LesLavandes · 21/12/2021 20:56

I have a Ruairí and am happy with his name

FuggyPidding · 21/12/2021 20:54

Aidan is lovely.

Congratulations OP!

FallonCarringtonWannabe · 21/12/2021 20:45

Aidan and Rory are my favs. Benjamin could be benji.

Original poster
ActonBell · 21/12/2021 20:39

DH really likes Aidan and has now thrown in Benjamin.
I don’t love Ben but maybe I could get used to it.

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Mumofgirls2017 · 21/12/2021 17:42

They are all lovely names. My favourites are Arthur and Henry but if OH doesn’t like Henry then Arthur it would be.

Other suggestions:

Harry
Tobias/ Toby
William
Frederick/ Freddie
Alexander
Albert/ Albie
Alfred/ Alfie
Finley/ Finn
Theodore/ Theo
Edward/ Teddy/ Eddie

FAQs · 21/12/2021 14:45

I like Aidan and Rory, also Ethan as suggested by someone.

I had dreadful PND, it's a temp situation in a permanent new start.

caringcarer · 21/12/2021 13:29

Cross off Henry, then delete one name each week and see which one is left in a month. So sorry you are having to deal with pnd a second time. Grab all support you can and don't push yourself or punish yourself.

hopingforabrighterfuture2021 · 21/12/2021 12:59

All lovely names OP. I promise you won’t make a wrong choice, you can’t go wrong with any of them. Flowers

IKissedSantaClaus · 21/12/2021 11:33

I'm just out the other side of a similar experience. DD was born in October and I could not work out which name on our shortlist to call her. We settled on one and then people kept saying it 'wrong' and I'd burst into tears every time... I was awake at night obsessing over it until I hated all the names. We eventually had to register her and gave her all 3 names on the shortlist but I was in tears at the registry office. It was a mess.

She's now 11 weeks and we've stuck with our first choice and got used to it and I am so much better (Sertraline has also kicked in).

You will get there but I can recommend choosing a few names and reminding yourself that if the first choice doesn't suit him in a few months time, you can use his middle name?

Your list is lovely and Aidan is my favourite from that. Would suggest Fraser, Cormac or Dylan?

Good luck.

strawberrymilk7 · 21/12/2021 11:12

Sorry to hear your not feeling great. My favs are Charlie and Rory

emmathedilemma · 21/12/2021 08:54

They're all good "sturdy" names that will age well. Drop Henry is your DH isn't keen.
Thomas
William
Oliver
Oscar
Benjamin
Rupert
Robert
Jonathan
Jamie
Alistair
Callum
Connor
Daniel
Edward
Freddie
Frankie
George
Gregory
Isaac
Adam
Matthew
Nathan
Patrick

SportsMother · 21/12/2021 07:17

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Anaximedes · 21/12/2021 05:58

You won't go far wrong with any of those names. I also like Aidan and Rory best of your list.

Just check that they sound nice in combination with your surname both with and without any middle names, and that they have a nice flow to them. Check that the initials (again with or without middle ones) don't spell anything onerous or that people, especially children, will find 'hilarious'. And that the names don't run into one another such as Charlie Easton or Aidan Norwood as they can be indistinct when spoken quickly eg 'Charlie Ston' or 'Aida Norwood'. Those tips are from a baby book I had when naming mine. Will also help you to rule things out so you can narrow down your choices.

Flowers for the PND.

Sansa717 · 21/12/2021 04:35

Congratulations ! I love Henry and Rory. If your husband doesn’t like Henry then my vote goes to Rory.

Sorry to hear you’re suffering Flowers

Chunkymenrock · 21/12/2021 04:00

Charlie and Arthur are nice. I really dislike the 'roar' sound in Rory. It's an ugly name. Good luck, OP!

urbanbuddha · 21/12/2021 03:11

In order

Charlie
Rory
Arthur
Aidan

I don't like Henry much either, although I do know some lovely ones.

Congratulations on your baby.
Flowers