Have you ever meet someone who regrets their kids name

I must admit I do a little bit regret one of my children’s names. I wanted to name him a short version of a longer name but everyone said I should put the long version on the birth certificate.

I was hesitant as I really didn’t see the point in naming him something other than what I actually wanted to call him but then I found a longer version that I did really like. However, everyone else including ExH and ExMIL much preferred the other long name so I gave in and went with that thinking he would never be called it anyway. For example, imagine I wanted to call him Al or Alfred but everyone else said no go with Albert.

Problem is school and professionals always use the long name! And it always feel weird to me like they are referring to someone else’s child. I wish I had gone with the other long name as I feel it would’ve suited him much better.

I mean Y is ok

My Mum changed my name to my middle name when she married my Dad and he officially adopted me....She said she was never sure about my name and grew to dislike it more as I got older.
I was 3.
I’ve spoken to several parents who regret name choices in my line of work over the years..... I remember one lady saying to me.....’ if I lived in London I would have called him x but because I live in ( a small northern market town) I called him Y’......she said X is ok but I will never love the name.... I thought that was sad ☹️
Another lady gave her DD by her Mums name.... then she later fell out with her Mum and changed baby’s name at 14 months ( DGMs name was then relegated to middle name) 😁

I'm trying to think of a name associated with a wife beater

I know some who called their kid Molly then changed to polly when she was 2.

[quote Elisemum]@KohlaParasaurus are you serious? They called a chilled Niger? How was this even allowed? I thought offensive names aren’t allowed to be registered?
And then they changed it to Nijah? Like almost a Ninja? 😂 how are these people ?:)[/quote]
Yes. This was in the late 1980s, and there was no intention to give the little lad an offensive name. As I recall, his mum had an ancestral connection to Niger, the country. We lived and worked in an ethnically diverse area and I can't imagine anyone being fazed by Nijah as a first name.

How to spell Niger - the consensus seems to be Naija.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-11447252

Oh sorry @Jossbow yes I was reading as Nigger.
Still what is an obvious difference to adults won’t be as obvious to kids! God that poor kid’s life would have been destroyed in school

[quote Elisemum]@KohlaParasaurus are you serious? They called a chilled Niger? How was this even allowed? I thought offensive names aren’t allowed to be registered?
And then they changed it to Nijah? Like almost a Ninja? 😂 how are these people ?:)[/quote]
Nothing wrong with Niger, not so far from Nigel.

Named after the river maybe

Or are you reading the name as Nigger?

@KohlaParasaurus are you serious? They called a chilled Niger? How was this even allowed? I thought offensive names aren’t allowed to be registered?
And then they changed it to Nijah? Like almost a Ninja? 😂 how are these people ?:)

@SherryPalmer was it Isis by any chance? I also know a young woman with this name, she now calls herself Iris.

I have a relative who changed his name as soon as he could. We are sworn to secrecy to never reveal his original name he hated it so much. His mum struggled at first to accept his new name but accepts it now. Blames the name on exh who chose it!

I feel bad for Karen’s and Alexa’s everywhere. It’s awful when names end up associated like these

Many years ago I had a colleague who called her son Niger, after the country. A perfectly lovely name in itself, but as school age approached she got cold feet about what his classmates might do with it and he went on the school register as Nijah.

There's an Alexa in DDs class. Born pre-amazon Alexa. The mum has told me she very much regrets the name now.

One friend changed her son’s name when he was at primary school when it became clear he was always called the long version not the diminutive.

Another friend of mine regrets her son’s name as it’s a version of her DH’s name and there’s endless confusion. (I did warn her).

A friend recently let me know she’s changed her son’s name, he’s 6 months.

A few people who chose very popular names over the years (Eve, Emilia, Arthur) having believed they had picked names that were relatively unusual. Not deep regret, but annoyed with themselves they didn’t do a bit of research.

I know someone who regrets their child's name. They are a single parent so can't even blame their ex-partner, who had no input in to the name!

Tbh I didn't like it when it was chosen, but I got used to it and didn't comment on it.

I think they just think it's a bit faddy, and went off how it sounds. Not sure what they wish they'd chosen instead.

I knew an Isis whose parents changed it to Issie.

An Elsa born just before Frozen.

And an Alexa pre-Alexa being a thing.

@Olga03
Sadly not-he’s 24 now
He doesn’t know I hate his name-it’s part of who he is but I just live with it

I think another issue is that the names are the sort of names that people expect from a teen mum and so my friends feel that they're always sort of judged even when much older

I knew a couple of girls at school who had babies young (very young, around 16) and regret their names. The names are Kadey (baby born around the same time as Mean Girls) and Crystal, which, although not my taste, I think are fine but maybe not as classic/timeless as they'd like.

All the parents of children named Delta probably regret it, yeah

I knew someone who gave their child a beautiful name only for it to develop very bad associations out of nowhere before their child was even a couple of years old. Almost as unlucky as it would have been to name your child “Corona” in 2018. We’re no longer in touch so I don’t know if they changed it but I definitely would have done.