How do you feel when you see your child’s name mentioned?

The name is often described as a naughty boy's name

@Birdsnesting, the name I was thinking of was not Luca, or Italian.

I don't wish to say the name as it is the name of an acquaintance's DS, but FWIW it's of irish origin.

The acquaintance is a professional and married to someone in a vocation.

Their DS is a little horror and they beam at him, saying things like 'Oh, he's a little devil'. Their DD is 'feisty' and also has an irish-origin name.
The parents have no irish heritage.

Both the names are nice and maybe the children will grow out of it - I certainly hope so, but there is no sign of it yet

Usually when I see it it is definitely class based with people looking down on names that are associated more with working class people, rather than more ‘classic’ or traditional names.

DS2’s name is ‘wet’ apparently. Which is probably one of the last words on this planet I would use to describe him!

It definitely isn't about class @Kanaloa.

I can think of ghastly children with names not linked to a particular class

The parents might be well-off or not but their little darlings don't get told off

Well I'm named Karen so I wouldn't worry too much...

So there is an entire group of people who have no class similarities but all choose similar names and parent badly?

Why pretend this isn’t about class? It so obviously is and that’s what annoys me about the naughty boy name threads.

parents'

Background could be what sort of homes they are from, not cultural or socio-economic.

The names I'm thinking of aren't particularly indicative of class.

Naughty children aren't naughty because of their class, culture, economic background, but they may well be because their parents parenting style leaves something to be desired

[quote Sboncen]@Kanaloa, no but similar people will have similar tastes, so their parenting styles may be similar

Naughty boy names IMO might be ones that either age badly or are from a different culture, or are celebrity/tv inspired

I don't think that a name will affect a child's behaviour but they can indicate the background.[/quote]
Right but if those people who you judge as having low tastes and bad parenting styles will still have that style. It won’t make any difference what their child’s name is.

Indicating the background won’t make a difference if the implication you’re trying to make is that children who are from a certain background are badly behaved because those same children will be from the same background no matter what their name is.

@Birdsnesting, I meant different culture to the parents.

Something like an Italian name if you have no connection whatsoever with Italy, never been there and don't speak the language

[quote Sboncen]@Kanaloa, no but similar people will have similar tastes, so their parenting styles may be similar

Naughty boy names IMO might be ones that either age badly or are from a different culture, or are celebrity/tv inspired

I don't think that a name will affect a child's behaviour but they can indicate the background.[/quote]
That makes no sense unless you think everyone from 'a different culture' parents similarly enough to have their children turn out similarly badly-behaved, or that people liable to use TV as inspiration have particularly badly-behaved children. I'm not sure what 'ageing badly' would have to do with child behaviour.

@Kanaloa, no but similar people will have similar tastes, so their parenting styles may be similar

Naughty boy names IMO might be ones that either age badly or are from a different culture, or are celebrity/tv inspired

I don't think that a name will affect a child's behaviour but they can indicate the background.

[quote Sboncen]@Kanaloa, so someone posting what they think is daft?

I'd say some names are a bad boy's name, mainly based on having met badly behaved children with that name.

Not every child with that name will be badly-behaved but the association will remain[/quote]
Well yeah if they think a certain name is a ‘bad boy’s name’ and that’s a reason not to use it. It’s daft because a child isn’t naughty based on their name so it has no real bearing on deciding to use it. The child won’t be naughty or good depending on the name used.

@Kanaloa, so someone posting what they think is daft?

I'd say some names are a bad boy's name, mainly based on having met badly behaved children with that name.

Not every child with that name will be badly-behaved but the association will remain

It’s funny when people say “MN thinks all children should be called x, y, z” as if it’s some kind of cohesive hive mind.

My dc have two ends of the spectrum- DS has a boys name that I’ve seen described here as everything between “boring and wet” and a favourite classic.

Dd has one of those unpronounceable Irish names, which is either loved or hated.

I don’t get offended- why would I? Names are so personal, and when I saw that some people hate my dc’s names I could differentiate between people disliking their names and who they are as individuals.

If you’re planning on being a permissive parent to a naughty child or possibly having a child who might have additional needs and behavioural problems, it really won’t make a difference. No parent is relaxing on their phone at soft play while their child terrorises the place then remembers their child is named Louis Amadeus so they better go and remind them they don’t have a naughty boy name and so can’t be naughty.

I commited the ultimate sin on here of giving my DS a top 3 name! We liked it, it suited him - didn't care how popular it was. We don't come across that many either.

My DDs name isn't as common, we hardly ever hear another girl with the same name (think it got described as boring, bland and 80s on here )

I've never understood the obsession with how popular names are - my name was unusual growing up and I hated that, always wanted to be a Claire or Sarah! All DD ever says is mummy why is there never anything in gift shops with my name on?!

My daughters name comes up regularly and generally it’s very positive Ie it’s a classic and beautiful with a few saying it’s dull. Which is fine by me

My own name is seen as dated but many like it and see it as ready for a come back, so nothing hugely negative there either.

My husbands name is seen in less positive light, dated but not in a good way 😂

My daughter has a “prostitute’s” name apparently. She’s 10 so I’ll have to update in maybe another 10 years my other 2 have acceptable names apparently.

@Birdsnesting, several reasons.
The mangled name usually sounds awful to me.
When people get my name wrong, they use a different name that is very old fashioned and a bit frumpy.

In the medical receptionist example, it would be mangled by each person who said it, so it might be about six people in one day, and it's not just the mangling, they will struggle to find my notes etc, probably because they don't really listen.

It gets misspelt on things like prescriptions, mail etc, which is an inconvenience

It's not the actual name but let's say it was Agnetha, but they'll say Ag-neth-a, Agneetha, Angeta, Aneetha, Anita, Agnes, Agnhild, Agatha, Annette etc

Nothing nice about being told you are saying your own name wrongly by an english monoglot

I really like my name but not when they get it wrong

My DC's names usually elicit 2 responses - either they're good, strong, classic names, or they're boring as hell. The latter doesn't bother me because they're usually from the posters who are obsessed with their DC having names that no-one else's child in the country has (usually because they're shite).

Why does it bother you so much, @Sboncen? I similarly have a first and surname which a foreigner is unlikely to be able to pronounce unless je or she has some familiarity with my home culture's language. Mispronunciation by a medical receptionist doesn't bother me in the slightest -- why would it? There is no reason they would be able to pronounce it. It's not any kind of slight.

@Serin she's called Astrid but apparently the As is enough to condemn her to a lifetime of bullying (except here in Sweden it's a common name).