Baby surname wobble

Ah sorry missed that. Give the baby your double barreled name then.

DH and I did double barrelled for the dc.

We have names from our different heritages (Welsh and Irish language) and I wanted that reflected in their surnames. Their surnames are the equivalent of Rhys-Ó Suileabhain, and we’ve both agreed that if they decide to drop one later in life that’s entirely up to them.

I'd even consider double barrelling myself but then he moaned about being the odd one out if that happened.

He can double barrel too! Simple.

I'd double barrel personally.

Go double barreled or yours and agree to change once married If you want to

He can always double barrel his to match...

I think some people confuse double-barrelling (with a hyphen) and using both surnames. DS has both our surnames (no hyphen) and uses both (as is increasingly common -- I reckon a good one third of his school class have both (married) parents surnames).

Nothing in the least unusual about using both surnames if parents are married -- I think it's a long time since it indicated unmarried parents, and I only ever see the occasional comment about that on here (usually from some bosom-hoiking type with socially conservative views) about it indicating 'skanky' unmarried partnerships.

I would give both names with no hyphen in your shoes, and would go in the order Yelena Dobrowskyj Smith.

Husband is 4th generation of his double barrel and our kids are generation 5... no issues so far.

Double barrel all the way.

FWIW my surname is a double barrel with smith. I changed my name on marriage and my husband is the 4th generation with his surname. Sometimes people do assume we're not married and that one of the names was mine. It's easy to correct them.

Either is totally fine and common (as in not unusual). We've done it the other way around (husband's surname as 2nd middle name) as we're not keen on double barrel names, so that's another option as well.

Double barrelled.

I'd go double barrelled.

I am in exactly this situation although my name is just an unusual British one - it's phonetic but people seem to really struggle with spelling and pronouncing it. We are married but I've kept my name as it's part of who I am. The two together are a right mouthful so I've given baby my name as a second middle name. I don't think my husband wouldnt have minded baby having my name, ive just arranged it so baby what I consider to be the nicest and easiest version of the name. Double barelled names are a faff and in my experience a lot of people drop one of them anyway as they get older. It's very common though so noone would bat an eyelid, it's just personal preference.

I'd go for double barrel. I used to think they were clunky but you get used to them and they no longer seem that way.

As for what you do with the next generation if you have a double barrel name then that's up to the next generation.
In Spain it's tradition to have two surnames and your child just takes one surname from each parent - granted it's patriarchal with the father's surname coming before the mother's and that being the one passed on to the child, so maybe not the best example.

Double barrel your surnames that seems the fair option imo op.

I think double barrelled surnames are silly. What happens in the next generation? James Smith-Jones-Brown-Johnson? And the one after that? Just choose a surname and don’t over complicate things.

I'm in your situation and we went for a double barrel without the hyphen. So she has both of our surnames for "official" purposes like school, passport, doctors, etc, but the freedom to only use one socially if she wants to later in life. We both have quite unique names (and yes I really do mean unique, in the UK at least) so it is a bit of a mouthful and I understand she might not want a double helping of that in all situations.

Oh, and I think a few people misinterpreted the OP's post - she's not using her name then a second middle, but her name would BE the second middle, in her example.

I'd go for the double barrelled surname. It represents you both equally. I did and am so pleased I stuck to that decision. I remember worrying the names didn't go as ours also contains a foreign name but now I love it, I just needed to get used to it.

Either your name – babies traditionally take their mother’s surname – or double-barrelled.

Also, I know these aren’t the real names but why give your baby the drab blah of “Smith” when they could have “Dobrowskyj”! I have a forrin surname no one can spell or pronounce and it makes my name stand out, I love it.

Double barrelled!
Incorporating it as a middle name loses it completely.

Either double barrelled or your name