name regret

I think you need to go back to your DH. If you’re at a point you dislike telling other people her name then I’d be concerned about your dd picking up on this (no matter how much you try to hide it, people pick up on this stuff) and causing her some confidence issues.

I think it’s a really good idea to seek support definitely, but you’re unlikely to change your tastes and start loving the name. Keeping it as a middle name seems like a good compromise. For everyone’s sake I think it’d be much better to have a name you’re all happy with.

@thisfridayfeeling I really understand how you feel as I feel almost exactly the same. I dread saying the name out loud to others and when I hear people call their DCs names out I feel almost envious (even though they aren’t a name I would choose!!). I also feel like I’ve let my DC down for the same reasons. Please do speak to someone as it could really help, although it might not change how you feel about the name it might just help you get your thoughts clear.
Perhaps speak to your partner again and really explain how it makes you feel. I’ve done that with my DH (who also loves the original name) and he now understands a little more about how the name makes me feel he’s said we can consider changing it. If we do decide to we’ll be keeping the current name as a middle name.
The legal side of things is extremely easy, it’s the “telling the world” part that’s hard, but when I’ve spoken to people about it they’ve pointed out that while this is huge for the parents, it’s really not that big to other people who all have their own lives to worry about.

If it’s Oakley I’d change it tbh

If it's one of these, please do keep it:

Sky / Skye
Willow
Rowan
Autumn
Brook / Brooke
Linden
River

If it's River there is a girl in the school I work in! It's a lovely name, boy or girl.

I like all the names mentioned and agree that the child defines the name not vice versa.
I like by DD name as it's uncommon but not that unusual. She suits it. We only know 2 others who ironically are similar.
I'm still not 100% about DS name and he's 11. But we have a wierd surname so it was the best compromise. And it totally suits him 100%

I feel totally opposite to Greyhound
It just proves that it's horses for courses OP. Only yours and partners opinions count.
My sister had the same problem with her first baby. She stuck it out and it suits them so well. She loves it 4 years on.

I hope it's Rowan, which is lovely, and not River which is REALLY not

Have you spoken to your partner? Is it because you don’t think it suits her or worried about other opinions?

If you really hate it change it, she’s still young enough.

I had a slight wobble with my first even though I never considered another name.

Best advice I can give you, never ever let anyone else pressure you again when it comes to making decisions about your child. Your child, you take as long as you need.

@Myfirstbornisacollie
RoMan has absolutely boomed more than practically any other name. Been fastest rising name many years in a row. Not a local blip.
Here's graph of official statistics 📈 📈📈look at that explosion!

names.darkgreener.com/#roman

I think River and Wren work well on both boys and girls and are not try hard

My first thought was river and if it is I actually
Much prefer it for a girl it's lovely

What does your partner say?

Can you find an acceptable nickname? Or double-barrel her name? Or use her middle name?

You liked it earlier, what’s changed?

It's an unusual "nature" name and mostly used for a boy I think. That probably gives it away. I've got it into my head that it's too much of a try-hard name (this was obviously not our intention!) and a bit skanky!

Why don't you just say what the name is??

Rowan is a beautiful name
I don’t think Roman is that common, sounds like a local blip!
Hope you come out of this happy whatever you decide to do

My friend gave her daughter a skanky name (same, her partner really liked it), and everyone was commenting with raised eyebrows at the time. But now, the daughter is older and is a lovely child, the opposite of skanky and she has simply redefined the name. We all like the name now because it reminds us of her.

Is it Wren? I know that name can be used for a boy as well. If you really want to change her name, whatever it is, I think you should if it's causing you to doubt yourself this much.

@Fridaynightatlast, don't regret it in account of what people on here say. People are blunt on here because it is anonymous, and some love names that others dislike.

Old fashioned on here is probably ones that others will consider classic.
The trendy names will date

Is there a name you prefer?
I think it's normal to have some doubts about a name but regret is different and deeper.

How would your partner feel about you changing it now?

I also assumed River or Rowan as they're the main nature names I can think of that are more male but also used for girls. I think both of them are much nicer for girls if I'm honest.

I felt exactly the same for months OP. I now love my DDs name. I also suffered from PND and I think this was a symptom.

You chose it for a reason. Remember that

I think it is a normal feeling . My ds has a fairly traditional, but not in the top 100 names . I love the name and always wanted it . However , it didn’t “fit “ for a long time . He was in special care for 8 weeks and it really felt odd when I said over the intercom that I was ....’s mum . After a year it was totally him . He is now 6 and I couldn’t possibly imagine another name .

It really.doesnt matter what we think. Whether we all love it or all hate it, how do you feel when you say it? No name will be loved by all. What name do you like?