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Original poster

My sister kind of stole my baby name :(

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Captainchaos8 · 01/11/2021 22:20

I told my sister a few months back that I really liked the name Judah for a boy. We were both expecting boys but she was dead set on calling her baby boy River so I thought I was on safe ground telling her my choice. Anyway she just came out of hospital and announced out tof the blu that her baby was to be Jude. I am completely gobsmacked and quite upset to be honest but I'm not prepared to cause a massive fuss and a fall out over a name. Anyway just wanted some advice, would you still call your baby Judah if your sister had named their baby Jude? Or do you all think I should just bow out graciously and go with my second choice which is Josiah or my hubby's first choice which is Theodore/Theo/Teddy?

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Beautiful3 · 02/11/2021 07:02

Hmm I know no-one owns a name but your sister?! She was naughty becits not like you can both name your boys the exact same name, is it?! You could pretend to, to get your own back?! Make her sweat for a bit! Honestly jude is really popular around here, I like the name Josiah better.

Angel2702 · 02/11/2021 06:58

I would go with Josiah it’s a lovely name as is Theodore but Theo / teddy / Theodore are very very popular at the moment.

PanicBuyingSprouts · 02/11/2021 06:45

Perhaps Judas, after your sister?

Yusanaim · 02/11/2021 06:43

Judah is so like Judas - I don't think I'd risk it.

And short name for Josiah is Jo/Joe

bangonthedoorgroovychick · 02/11/2021 06:42

Josiah Theodore sounds like a lovely name together

TheWayTheLightFalls · 02/11/2021 06:40

Perhaps Judas, after your sister?

I much much much prefer Josiah.

PanicBuyingSprouts · 02/11/2021 06:34

I totally understand you being upset but both Josiah and Theodore are nicer names.

NessieMcNessface · 02/11/2021 06:31

What a nasty thing of your sister to do. Nothing would stop me having the name I wanted if I had thought of it first and was justified in doing so. So even if your sister had actually called her child Judah I would call mine the same name. I don’t know how she could possibly be miffed by it if you had told her that it was your chosen name. Not keen on Josiah but love Theodore ‘Ted’.

UnsuitableHat · 02/11/2021 06:18

Call your child whatever you want. Sounds like you have some nice alternatives to Judah though.

thewhatsit · 02/11/2021 06:04

Josiah is an awesome name!

(Can’t say the same for Teddy though. Theo is nice.)

THisbackwithavengeance · 02/11/2021 06:02

If Judah was your first choice and you told her that, then I honestly would just use it.

If she doesn't like it, tough.

What does it matter really, unless you live very close and the boys are going to be bought up together. Even then, just shrug and say it was your name first. Call her out on it.

WaltzingBetty · 02/11/2021 05:53

@DifficultBloodyWoman

I’ve always thought of Jude as a girl’s name, like the song, ‘hey Jude’.

Your husband’s choices are all much nicer.

The song written about John Lennon's SON you mean?

Oh yeah. Classic example of Jude being a girls name

WaltzingBetty · 02/11/2021 05:49

@yoghurtdaily

Omg I'm loving the previous poster replies!

Definitely laugh and be like "I find Judas awful I just said it as diversion. Josiah Theodore was always my top pick!"

So you're suggesting slagging off the name of an actual baby to its new mum? Nice.

I doubt very much she's named her baby with the sole intent of spiting the OP

WaltzingBetty · 02/11/2021 05:46

Josiah is likely to get Josie as a nickname
That's tough to pull off

Theodore is lovely

WaltzingBetty · 02/11/2021 05:44

she cares about it.
why be insensitive?
In what way is it insensitive to offer a direct personal experience of the situation the OP asked about @ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

How do you know the Op cares what Mischance's grandchildren are called ? Or are you deliberately misunderstanding her very clearly and well intentioned post as an excuse to stick the boot in on a baby names thread?

Capferret · 02/11/2021 05:39

@yoghurtdaily. So sorry about your little Elijah.
Your sis is pretty low imo.

NotMyselfWithoutCoffee · 02/11/2021 05:39

Those two second choices are both beautiful, although josiah is very unique.
Maybe honour your husbands choice and do Theodore josiah?
I think she's actually done you a favour as judah sounds a bit much like judas to me.

Capferret · 02/11/2021 05:35

When fathers names were passed on cousins often had the same name.
I have an Uncle Bill who’s cousin is also Bill.
If you want Judah then have it. If you’re fairly low contact no one will even realise outside your immediate family.
Theo and Josiah are great though.
As for your sis naming her precious dc out of spite rather than love. Words fail me.

MoggyP · 02/11/2021 05:30

Your DSis has been weird - though I suppose it might have been on their list as well.

Josiah is a lovely name, much nicer than Judah IMO

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/11/2021 05:16

I’m loving the suggestions that you named her baby and Judah was a ruse. I agree it’s too similar to Judas and much prefer the name Josiah. And / or Theodore shortened to Teddy/Theo.

@yoghurtdaily what a callous thing to do to you.

PennyWus · 02/11/2021 05:11

Theodore and Josiah are fantastic names. She did you a favour!

DifficultBloodyWoman · 02/11/2021 05:10

oh for the love of everything that is Beatles

"Hey Jude" refers and was written to Julian Lennon, John Lennon's first born son.
the song title has nothing to do with any girls.

Jude is a boys' name.

I think you are confusing it with Judy

No, no confusion about the pronunciation. Just thought it was an abbreviation for Judy.

And I also think I thought it was a girls’ name because in the book of Bridget Jones’ Diary, it was sung at Judy’s wedding.

And… I don’t really like the Beatles!

TheWestIsTheBest · 02/11/2021 04:27

@penni00

There is also the issue of the song 'Hey Jude' which could be used to mock a child endlessly in school.

Unlikely. It never happened to my now grown-up son anyway, although he does hate the song. We call him Judy to annoy him sometimes though, he just laughs.

Yogaandcocoa · 02/11/2021 04:05

I really like Josiah. I don't like Judah but Jude is ok.

I don't like Theodore but that's just me.

I have a feeling Josiah is popular atm. It was on my list and I've seen a thread about it a few days ago.

You shouldn't have told your sister the name but for all you know it was on her list anyway.

Boudiccasback · 02/11/2021 04:02

@hotmeatymilk

Josiah for your baby, Judas for your sister

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