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Whose name choice is best? Please help us pick a name!

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lgfh07 · 24/08/2021 23:18

My husband and I completely clash on names. He likes names which I class as 'naughty boy names' (I'm a teacher) and he is completely indifferent to any of my suggestions but says we'll eventually find one we both love... I'm starting to worry that we won't!

We really struggled to name our little boy but eventually went for family names and called him Edward (nn Teddy) Arthur. I found it really stressful naming the baby after he was born and would like to be a bit more prepared this time!

We're expecting our second baby in October and it's another boy.

My husband likes:

  • Max (too bland?)
  • Luca (I worry this is a popular Italian name and we have no links to Italy)

I like:
Leo (too popular?)
Jude (a couple of relatives have told me this sounds too feminine for a boy)
Zachary (a bit boring?)

I'd love some opinions to help us narrow down our choices!

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IamnotwhouthinkIam · 24/08/2021 23:41

Edward is really classic so I feel like Max (or Maximilian) works best with his brother if that matters. Similar style to me would be names like Henry, James, William, Alexander, Samuel, Thomas, Frederick type names. Or being a teacher, if those are too popular for you then maybe something outside the top 100 but still traditional sounding like Hugh, Owen, Nathaniel, John, Robert etc

BikeRunSki · 24/08/2021 23:40

Lucas or Luke instead of Luca?
Felix
Evan
Ewan
Amos
Kester
Silas
Seth
Toby
Rex

AdaColeman · 24/08/2021 23:36

Maybe look at more traditional names, similar to Edward, such as Vincent, Nicholas, Rafe or Laurence?

AlmostSummer21 · 24/08/2021 23:35

I think if you keep looking you'll find one you both like

Nate/Nathaniel
Matty/Matthew
Benjie/Benjamin

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lgfh07 · 24/08/2021 23:34

@LocalHobo That's my worry too but I'm not keen on the longer versions of those names. Ideally we'd to pick a longer name with a nice nickname but haven't found one we both can agree on.

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RickOShay · 24/08/2021 23:34

Really like Luca and Zachary.

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lgfh07 · 24/08/2021 23:33

@Synchrony No I don't think Max and Luca are 'naughty' boy names either - I've just listed the names he's suggested that I quite like too. I haven't heard of the Kinder app - I'll check it out. Thanks for the suggestion.

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BashfulClam · 24/08/2021 23:31

Jude is feminine in my mind, sorry. I prefer max out of them all.

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lgfh07 · 24/08/2021 23:31

@DramaAlpaca Yes good point - I love the classic names but we've found it hard to decide on one which we both like and that works with our surname.

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LocalHobo · 24/08/2021 23:27

I love Teddy/Edward and I'm not sure any of your choices go well with that? Maybe Leo/Leonard or Max/Maximilian?
Having said that my DC1 has a very traditional name and I got much braver with 2 and 3.

Synchrony · 24/08/2021 23:25

I don't think it matters if I prefer his or yours, as I think it should be a name on neither list that you both like.

Fwiw, I don't consider Max or Luca to be naughty boy names. I also know a Max and Teddy sib set.

Your taste seems similar to each other tbh. I was expecting him to like Jaxon/Brayden type names and you to like Tristan/Sebastian or something!

Recommend trying the Kinder name app?

DramaAlpaca · 24/08/2021 23:22

Actually, I don't think you're too far apart as the names you've listed are very similar in style. I think you'll be able to find common ground.

You could go with the style of your first son's name and choose another classic, there are lots of great underused ones around.

Cissyandflora · 24/08/2021 23:20

Luca is beautiful. Doesn’t matter if you’re not Italian. It’s my favourite name ever.