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10 month old, struggling with name choice

27 replies

SingtomePaolo · 19/08/2021 11:15

Hi! I feel so embarrassed writing this but I really don’t know what to do anymore. I keep obsessing over it every day.

It took 3 months to decide a name for my 10 month DS. We were so certain we were having a girl but also boys names were very hard. I made collages with his pictures, I tried calling him different names from a list, I even recorded myself saying them. In the end, we had to quickly decide on the day we were registering him.

Now ten months on, I still cannot call him by his name. I’m from a European country and my husband is British. My other children have English names. My family pronounce his name differently to my husband, which I like the sound of. But when my husband or his side say his name I cringe so much. I tried to pronounce his name like my family but it doesn’t go with my other children’s and comes out all wrong in I speak in English.

His middle name is my husbands favourite name but I didn’t like the way my family pronounced it. I tried to call him by his middle name but it feels wrong too. It’s keeping me up at night and to make matters worse my husband feels exactly the same way.

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justheretohelp7 · 19/08/2021 11:26

Hi OP,

It'd be useful if we knew the name and the pronunciation so we can suggest things that are similar?

WashableVelvet · 19/08/2021 11:24

Hi, are you looking to feel more comfortable with the choice you made, or what?

Fwiw I don’t think different pronunciations is a huge problem. I have a name from a European language but am British. Different people pronounce it differently. I wouldn’t call any of the pronunciations ‘coming out all wrong’, it just comes out in the way that suits the speaker’s accent and language.