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Did you take your family’s opinions on board when you chose a name?

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MilesOrOscar · 07/07/2021 08:56

Hello, DH and I appear to have very opinionated families when it comes to naming our first baby!

If they don’t like a name we are toying with, they will make it v clear they aren’t keen, like saying ‘oh it sounds like …….. and then adding a word that rhymes or sounds like the name. They are so overly opinionated / controlling.

It’s doing my head in! I’m carrying the baby, giving birth to it, etc etc. I think the name I give my baby is up to no one but me, and DH of course! I have seen posts on MN where someone says they wish they had called their baby the name they loved but went with the majority vote, which may have meant choosing a name they aren’t totally in love with.

Curious to know if I’m not being fair and I should take close family’s opinions on board.

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BunnyRuddington · 07/07/2021 09:18

I didn't tell mine anything about names until the DC had arrived. With our second, "D"M still had a face like she was sucking lemons when we told her and made some bizarre comments. She had to be reminded that she'd chosen mine and my DSis names, now it was DH and my teen to name our babies.

WavesAndLeaves · 07/07/2021 09:14

My DH told his parents and grandma the name we were planning on. I was cross as I wanted to keep it between us. Luckily his family loved it (or at least told us they did Grin), but he was under strict instructions not to mention it to my family, as there would have certainly been Opinions that I was not in the least bit interested in

Yellowmoons · 07/07/2021 09:09

Definitely don't discuss it with them. I have this time around and it has put me off a couple of names, so I've definitely learnt my lesson! Just go with what you guys like.

NeedNewKnees · 07/07/2021 09:04

Hell no!

Don’t tell them until you’ve named the baby and they can’t say a damned thing.

bananamonkey · 07/07/2021 09:02

Why are you telling them? They’re being rude but you’re inviting comment by sharing with them. Go with what you and DH like, no one else gets a vote!

MissMissTorrance · 07/07/2021 09:02

My Mum said she did not like the name I was planning for DD.
Turned out it was the name of some woman she thought my Father fancied a million years ago.
I called my DD that name.

PixieKitten · 07/07/2021 09:00

You're an adult. Why can't you make the decision without running it past family?

GreenCrayon · 07/07/2021 08:59

I thought everyone knew by now that the only person you share name ideas with is the child's other parent.

No good ever comes of sharing prospective name ideas with other people, they have named their own children they don't need to have any imput in naming yours.

SmidgenofaPigeon · 07/07/2021 08:59

God no why even discuss it with them?

freelions · 07/07/2021 08:58

I don't recall discussing names with anyone other than DH until DC were born and names were announced

If you discuss names with anyone then it is natural for them to offer their opinion

If you don't want to hear their opinions then don't discuss names with them!

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