Did you take your family’s opinions on board when you chose a name?

I definitely discussed it with my family (and friends actually too), and if they were bored by me they hid it well. People definitely ask if you’ve any names when you’re pregnant!

I’m surprised at how militant so many people seem to be about only discussing it with their partner. The baby names board on MN always seems busy, so it’s fair to assume that people want input on their ideas and why not have that input from people you know and trust?

We mentioned the chosen names and they either liked it or not. Didnt care as we stuck to our choice.

They have all asked!

and when they do you say 'not too sure, nothing really decided yet' and leave it at that.

Worked with both of ours.

No because I didn’t discuss it with them.

Even if they ask, so what? You don’t have to tell them. Or make up something horrendous to shut them up.

Absolutely not. Told them when she was born.

They have all asked!

That’s a bit odd!

DH was quite blunt with his parents that we won’t be discussing names. They were fine with it, his mum said they’d expected as much, and they didn’t discuss names with their parents either. It hasn’t been mentioned again since.

Might work for you, if you’d like to stop the conversations

We didn't even tell our families what we'd chosen for our babies names. They found out when they were born.

My mother seemed to think she had the final say on my babies names
Every bloody name she liked I ‘had’ to call my baby-her mate liked a name so I ‘had’ to call him that even though her mate had called her own son something different
I ignored her and by the time I got to baby no4 I just ran it past my bestie and she liked it so I named him that (my dad hates the name but has wisely kept his trap shut)
By the time I got to number 5 we didn’t find out the sex but had names for either sex
She didn’t speak to me for a week as I hadn’t asked her ‘permission’
I wish I was joking when I say she had to be told by her mate that it was a lovely name and she went round telling everyone she’d chosen it!
She had her time of naming babies-stuff her
(I’m now nc with her)

@DiaryofWimpyMumm that's a shame.
they are not pronounced the same way.

My mum & I suggested untranslatable Hungarian names like Gyöngyi, Megyer, Ozsvát, Csenge and Ajándok to DH (he's English) to wind him up.
I also suggested Táltos, which means Stallion 🤣

Yes my mum put me off Ethan she said it sounds like Ethane in her accent. Still yo this day I wish I'd went ahead with it

I'm currently pregnant with DC3 and have chatted about names with my mum in a more abstract "I like these kind of names" way rather than "we are thinking of calling the baby this" way.

Dd has told my mum what we're calling the baby if it's a girl but as it's a done deal my mum just said "that's lovely" and later told me she had looked up the meaning and it was really nice. She knows better than to say anything negative once my mind is made up. 😂

We have deliberately not discussed boys names as we are still deciding and don't actually want family input.

With DS my DH did mention to his family what the name would be for a boy and his nan said "oh that's horrible why not call the baby David if it's a boy" I just replied that we weren't looking for suggestions as if the baby was a boy that would be their name.

Obviously DS was a boy and he now has that name, she might still hate it for all I know but that's not my problem as she had a chance to name all her kids (names I would never choose so we obviously don't have similar styles) and now it's my turn.

We won’t discuss it with them, we’re not inviting opinions. MIL has a very different taste in names to me and hates anything that can be shortened, so she’ll probably dislike the name, but she’s unlikely to dislike the baby when they’re here!

I wouldn’t talk to them about it; in all honesty.

My family were very opinionated on my daughter's name. They hated it and I spent a couple of weeks mulling it over. In the end I went with what I wanted.
My mum absolutely denies she ever said she didn't like the name. My dad has never mentioned it since. My DP's mum refuses to use the name and calls her something else. We don't see her though, so it doesn't really matter.

Go with what you like.

Not really. MIL had got wind of son's name (after her father) and had expressed she didn't actually like the name much, but though it is what he is named officially, he's known by a shortened version day to day, and when we told her that would be the case she liked it!

No, we didn’t share anything in advance.

My mum and I had a few discussions about names we liked just because it’s fun, but I had my poker face prepared and it wouldn’t have done anything to change my mind (unless she’d happen to raise a really big issue I’d not thought of)

No one else gets a say on it other than the parents.

We didn't discuss names with family members for this reason.

We didn't even tell anyone face to face what DD's name was once she was born. She was nameless for a couple of days so everyone was sent a group text with a picture announcing the arrival of "DD's name" once we had decided, she has an uncommon name and our families are quite traditional so I really couldn't be bothered with the drama.

We didn't give anyone the chance. If asked about names, we just said we hadn't decided/couldn't think of ones we liked and when MIL was suggesting names I remained non-committal.

As it was, I decided I didnt like the name we picked the day before DD was born so she wasn't named for a couple of days!