Overthinking names and going crazy..

How about Eliza?

Lovely list. Listen to what your heart says, not your head and pick that. Congratulations

Matilda is lovely. The dildo thing is a stretch too far. I don't see the connection to be honest

Marnie?
Delilah?
Audrey?
Jemima?
Clementine?
Verity?

I prefer Elsie out of them all.I find Matilda really clunky and hard sounding although I like Tilly as a nn

Love the name Lydia

Maia/Maya/Mia is everywhere!
Lydia is way better

Could you have a trial of calling her each name for a day and decide after that?

Somewhat outing but I have a Lydia Elsie! I couldn’t decide which name to use for the first name and which to use for the second right up until the last minute!
Nobody has ever mentioned the chlamydia reference to me...

I have a Matilda. We call her Tilda. Well, she gets called Teabags by us quite a bit! We’ve had nothing but nice comments (I’m sure people who don’t like it just don’t say anything!!)
I vote for Matilda, it’s a well known but not over used name, multiple nicknames can come from it, no pronouncing or spelling issues.
Come join team Matilda!!

My Auntie Elsie was 103 when she died.
I definitely don’t see it as just a child’s name.

Lydia - lovely old family name, but what about chlamydia, Aunt Lydia and it being a bible name - it's biblical but not as obviously as Samuel or Hannah; I think you're massively overthinking the fact that it happens to rhyme with chlamydia. It's a lovely name.

Maia - my dh's favourite, but all the endless spelling and pronounciation issues - I love it but would always want it to be pn my-a so probably wouldn't use it

Olivia/Lily/Amelia - nice but can't use since too common - but they are lovely. If one is your favourite then use it!

Elsie - lovely and vintage, but also a nn and only suitable for a little girl? - I love Elsie and as your child grows up there will be thousands of Alfie, Freddie, Albie, Milly, Poppy, Maisy type names. She will not stand out at all. Having said that I adore Elspeth and would totally pick that.

Matilda - gorgeous strong and old name, but also don't like any of the obvious nicknames, she would be called Tilda which I heard could be 'dildo' in high school - overthinking it!

Vivian- too masculine and Vivienne too feminine - Vivien is the perfect compromise then!

Matilda is lovely.

Lydia is lovely - I have a cousin called that and she has never been teased about chlamydia or it being an “old” name!

Lydia Matilda or Matilda Lydia is gorgeous.

Which name is your “gut” choice, OP? Which do you really want?

Have always loved Lydia, doesn't matter what the name is, kids can find something to tease them about so really wouldn't worry about that.
Love elsie, I see it as a name on its own.
Really like matilda, I don't get the connection between tilda and dildo at all 🤔 anyway there's always matty or tilly as nicknames.
Just go with what you love

Congrats on the arrival of your daughter btw

Had no idea there was a Lydia in the bible.

Also, Re Matilda, there are probably a lot of Tillys and Millys atm not to mention about 3 different spellings of Lily are in the Top 100.

How about:

Lucie
Polly
Heidi
Francesca
Louisa
Marie
Marina

Vivienne/Vivien would be my pick

Olivias, Lilys, Amelias, Elsies & Matildas - are everywhere atm. There are tonnes of them. Unless you LOVE Olivia or Amelia etc. why choose names that seem to be given to 67% of 0-8 year olds?

I would go with Lydia or Vivienne.

My grandma was Elsie and it wasn't short for anything?

Elise is nice and obv similar.

I really like Maia and tbh there are only two ways to spell it, I'm sure people would get the hang of it!

Lila, Leila etc instead of Lydia perhaps?

Matilda is ok, Tilda for short.

Elsie could be short for Elspeth

Christ you are overthinking.

Lydia is great, it’s getting quite popular so not an old lady name. I’d go for that.

Maia will be a PITA as 3 different spellings and pronunciation, it’s as common as the other names you cite and is v blah. Matilda is nice too but Again has been v popular - can assure you the many Tildas knocking around are not called Dildo.

Vivien is the usual female spelling (or Vivienne)

I had two of those names on my final list.

I still love the name Lydia! Even though my Dd is 18.

I spelled Vivien with an e as I think that looks feminine but not frilly.

I like Elsie, with full name Elisabeth or Elspeth. It will sound like a 'grown up' name in 20 years time; it won't be unusual to meet a young woman called Elsie by then.

I also like Lydia and Olivia, and the suggestion of Claudia above.

Melissa
Sofia
Cassia
Lilia
Natalia

It sounds like this is causing you a lot of anxiety. It's so tough in the whirlwind of the newborn period.

On the plus side, please reassure yourself that all your options are absolutely fine! None of them will ruin her life. There is no magic name that everyone loves and has absolutely zero negative connotations to anyone.

I could tell you what I'd pick out of your options, but I don't know if that's really helpful if you're feeling so anxious. Just pick - she will grow into her name, it'll be great.