Bilingual parents pronouncing name differently

Bilingual family, names pronounced differently in each language, it's never been an issue.

I think it would be absolutely fine. Our friends are Chinese and their little girl has two totally different names. If mum is speaking to her in English she calls her by her English name and if they speak in Cantonese she calls her with her Chinese name. The little girl isn’t confused and she just says she has two different names, she knows they are both her name.

Same here - DS has a Welsh name, and over time I've gradually drifted towards a slightly more strongly Welsh pronounciation of it while DH (English) has gravitated towards a slightly more anglicised one. I don't think DS (now a teenager) even notices.

Welsh/English household here. Their Welsh speaking dad says their names slightly differently to me and none bat an eyelid.

I don't think it matters at all.
I know one couple where their daughter is called Elizabeth by one parent and Elizabetta by the other - I have no idea which is on her birth certificate but English people call her Elizabeth (which is most people as they live in the UK) and the Italian family call her Elizabetta. It doesn't seem to bother her.
I know another family with 4 children. The oldest and third have name pronounced the same (think William), the second has a name which sounds a little different in dad's accent but it's more or less the same. The baby is Gabriel. Mum says GABE - Ree - uhl the "English" way. Dad says GAB- ree-ELL-ee. No one bats an eyelid.

My children's names are said one way by me, another way by DH and his family, and a third way by friends and classmates in the country we live in. Not to mention nicknames! They're not at all confused

Parents with different accents pronounce names differently, I think it’s fine. As the child gets older they may decide they want to stick with one pronunciation or be happy with two.

We're a bilingual family and purposefully picked a name that is pronounced the same in both languages.

At my work we either speak English or Dutch depending on who is present and my name is pronounced completely different on both languages. My colleagues use the pronunciation of whatever language is spoken at the moment and that is fine.

From personal direct multilingual family experience this is simply linguistic anglicisation modifying foreign words, names, and phrases to make them easier to spell, pronounce, or understand in English. Young infants with native multilingual backgrounds will not have issues with any words or variations of names in their particular default mother tongue languages. Many well known international names naturally includes using phonetics to translate original English into other languages too. To illustrate this the globally well known non Anglophone origin corporate Samsung in original Korean is 삼성 Samseong or Chinese Hanja (as Korean originated and developed from Chinese) 三星 tristar or three stars, combined representing powerful eternity.

Iris is pronounced so differently in English (Eye ris) than in most languages (Eeris), I don't like the English pronunciation so that would put me off.

*he's, not here's

It won't be an issue at all. My in-laws pronounce William as Weel-yam. Here's never even noticed.

Completely normal and fine.

OP didn’t ask about names that have a slight difference in pronunciation, she asked about ones where the name sounds extremely different.

But then the example she gave was just a pronunciation difference. (Eye sound as ee which is common). Some names change massively from the English version in other languages and that's ok too.

It’s really fine. We’re a bilingual family. I pronounce her (very short!) name one way, her dad another and, thinking about it, her Welsh keyworker another and her best mate (Northern) another. And half the time I use a nickname . She’s three and totally fine.

OP didn’t ask about names that have a slight difference in pronunciation, she asked about ones where the name sounds extremely different.
Which is why I specified that we had chosen a name which sounds completely different and didn't have any problems!

Not a problem here at all. DH and I have different nicknames for the DC too and speak to them in different languages. Neither is scarred at all!

The cutest thing ever was my 2 year old calling his older brother by a different name depending whether he was then going to speak to him in English or French.

Both boys introduce themselves with the right pronunciation depending the language used, as do I.

We decided it was more important to have the same spelling rather than the same pronunciation.

I think it's fine. My daughter's name is pronounced slightly differently in her father's language. I don't think it matters at all it's just a quirk of being in dual national
family.

This, you'll just have to accept it
If not her grandparents then other people she'll meet of that nationality. Surely she'll learn their language too? So it'll make sense

@Sometimesonly I was raised in a bilingual household. OP didn’t ask about names that have a slight difference in pronunciation, she asked about ones where the name sounds extremely different.

It's not a problem.
We are a bilingual family and pronounce our daughter's name differently. It's not as if she doesn't know what her name is as a result. She also does it. If she's introducing herself to someone in dp's language, she uses his pronunciation.

Of course it's fine I'm Scottish and DC's dad has a cockney accent and their grandparents a foreign one. We all pronounce their names differently. In fact when dd 1 was at nursery abroad the staff completely altered/added a sound in the middle of her name as the actual sound doesn't exist stand-alone in that language. There's nowhere been any confusion. Things sound different in different languages or accents and that's and ok lesson to learn

Ds likes it NO clue where the nods came from.

We pronounce our dc's names differently according to language. It’s still their name. Some names are very different.