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Bram.

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Tillygetsit · 02/05/2021 23:28

My friend is considering calling her baby Bram. He will be known as Bram but she's wondering if he should be Abraham on the birth certificate.
Bram is actually the mn of my baby who died. I'm really touched that she wants to use it so for disclosure, I'm on the side of the short version.
What do you think?

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Tillygetsit · 05/05/2021 22:53

Thank you all very much. Her dp has suggested that baby needs his own first name which I totally agree with so he'll have Bram as a mn.
I have 3 other rascals to keep me busy...and the good wishes of you lot so Im doing ok. ❤

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IHaveBrilloHair · 05/05/2021 20:10

I'd usually go for full name too, but I think that Bram and Abraham are just too different.
My Dd has a short first name, but a long middle name with many shortenings, so that could be something to consider?

TatianaBis · 05/05/2021 17:25

A friend of mine called her baby Abe, full name Abraham. But she found everywhere - school, doctors etc he called was Abraham, which she had never intended.

So if she wants him to be Bram, he needs to be Bram from the start.

minniemomo · 05/05/2021 17:22

I would go with Abraham, gives options to the child. Eg Abe as another alternative

YoniAndGuy · 05/05/2021 17:06

So sorry for your loss.

I'm usually all for the full name, but not this time. Bram is fantastic, and Abraham, while nice, isn't as good - and if he's Abraham, there's a good chance he'll choose/end up as Abe, which is so totally different... and I imagine your friend will be gutted.

You can't control nicknames/short forms, so if she wants a Bram, just call him that.

ShoppingPrecinctPrincess · 05/05/2021 15:41

I love it. Bram sounds like someone who'd be wise and calm and have very strong arms.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son Flowers

IHaveBrilloHair · 05/05/2021 14:14

I absolutely love it it made me think of the Character in "Love Simon"
Gorgeous name and lovely tribute to your son.

MimiDaisy11 · 05/05/2021 14:06

Sorry for your loss.

I'd stick to the original if it's meant as a tribute. Plus middle names are rarely used so I don't really see the argument about giving the child options (I do see that argument for the first name that they'll be known by but not middle names). Plus I like Bram.

steppemum · 05/05/2021 10:28

I love the name Bram. But I do like having a full name alternative.
And Abraham is a cool name.
If you like the nn and manin name to start with same letter, then I think Bramwell, as mentioned up thread is a very cool name, and seems closer to Bram somehow.

MercyBodle · 05/05/2021 03:27

I would just stick with Bram on the birth certificate.

BlackCatShadow · 05/05/2021 03:15

Bram Stoker was actually Abraham, but I think these days it’s common to have “nicknames” on birth certificates, so I think it’s fine.

IamnotwhouthinkIam · 05/05/2021 03:10

Sorry for your loss @Tillygetsit Flowers

merrymelody · 04/05/2021 22:47

My nn for DS during my pregnancy was Bram. For Bramley apple. Because he began as the size of a "pip".Smile I liked the name so much that I wanted to call him Bram when he was born but H wasn't in favour.

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Tillygetsit · 04/05/2021 22:39

Thank you. Bram was my baby's mn. I'll pass on your comments.

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IamnotwhouthinkIam · 04/05/2021 22:31

Love Bram - one of fave uncommon boys names. I think that Bram stands up very well as a given name in it's own right (it's very popular in the Netherlands for example, although I think it's pronounced slightly differently).

Abraham is nice enough, but because Abraham isn't very common now, I don't think that many people would be aware that Bram is a shorting or make the assumption that Bram has a longer name (it's not like Tom vs Thomas or Sam vs Samuel for example).

Cbeebiesrehab · 04/05/2021 22:05

I would just go Bram, I prefer it when a diminutive starts with the same letter as the BC name as it avoids initial confusion.

Sorry for your loss, OPFlowers

Bobbybobbins · 04/05/2021 21:40

I like both but would probably go for Abraham to give more options

elfran · 04/05/2021 21:37

I love Bram, it was on our list but ended up with a DD. I like it as a stand-alone name, though there is also Abram if Abraham is a little serious but your friend would like a longer version.

TomorrowsPrincess · 04/05/2021 20:53

@HerRoyalRisesAgain
Whoooaaaa...... didn't read that bit!
No need for the C word!!!!

Apologies OP.

Ilovemaisie · 04/05/2021 20:53

I knew a Bram but it was short for Bramwell so if she wanted a longer name but not Abraham that could be an option.

Chilldonaldchill · 04/05/2021 20:52

I'm a fan of full names in general. But I think Bram is enough of a name (Bram Stoker?) that it's not just perceived as a nickname. And I think it's much nicer than Abraham as well!

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 04/05/2021 20:49

Middle name*

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HerRoyalRisesAgain · 04/05/2021 20:47

I'd go for Bram. I don't see the point in naming a child something you never intend to call them.

TomorrowsPrincess · 04/05/2021 20:47

Stokers Dracula?? 🧛🏼‍♂️ 😂