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So annoyed with DHs attitude to names.

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KeepSmiling89 · 21/04/2021 11:29

Nearly 10weeks pregnant so still early days but DH and I naturally discuss possible names for our little one. He is SO fussy though...here are his requirements:

  1. Can't be anything Disney related so with more and more Disney movies coming out our list will be VERY short. Gutted as I love the name Aurora (with Rory as a nickname)
  1. Can't be a name that's already in the family...even distant family. I suggested Alexander and he said it was his ex GFs dad's name and an uncle on his dad's side I'd never even heard of! It was also my dad's best friends name but I don't care! I like the bloody name!
  1. Can't be anything our friends have called their children, even if those children are in teen years etc.
  1. Can't be linked to anything negative in his past. I totally get this one. I always loved the name Andrew but his school bully had this name...our friend also recently named her 2nd son this so it was out the window anyway. However, why not use the name and make some new happy memories so it's not tainted?
  1. Can't be anything he might struggle to spell...like Eilidh or Niamh. Here's an idea...give our child the name and you'll get used to spelling it! I love Eilidh and am NOT giving it up so easily if we have a girl.

Every name I suggest, he says "oh, I know 3 Hannahs" for example. I'm like, "and your point is...?"

This is just a rant but wondered if anyone else's partners are fussy with names. I love him but he's just so bloody stubborn! As long as it goes with our surname, I'm happy!

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KeepSmiling89 · 21/04/2021 12:02

@Skiptheheartsandflowers I'd never even heard of this uncle until I mentioned the name, which I'd why it irritated me so much!

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Skiptheheartsandflowers · 21/04/2021 11:59

2 has to have some limits on it. How is an ex girlfriend's dad 'part of the family?' If it's a distant relative and someone you don't see other than at birthdays / Christmas then I think should be fair game.

TatianaBis · 21/04/2021 11:57

Ask him to be the one who comes up with the lists.

GlencoraP · 21/04/2021 11:55

In my experience a lot of men are very difficult about names, not sure why.

However, I think condition 1 is very easy , cannot think of a single Disney name that you would use except perhaps Anna . Conditions 2 and 4 are reasonable although I wouldn’t draw the circle it quite so widely. I would also seriously consider names which are spelled differently to their phonetic sound as your child will spend a lifetime spelling out their name ( I speak from experience )

OloBo · 21/04/2021 11:48

I think 4 and 5 are totally valid, and unlikely to budge on. Maybe ask him to suspend his concerns in the others until you have a list and then narrow it down later using the criteria? He might find some of the no-nos grow on him

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