Regret my daughter’s name Phoebe

What’s a marmite name?

I know a few little & bigger girls called Phoebe all lovely little girls, never seen or heard any problems with the name. Ignore other people, you can turn almost any name into a horrible nickname if you really put your mind to it x

We have a Phoebe. It's simply beautiful. (she does get called Feebs sometimes though!)

I have a Phoebe!

She was never given a bad nickname from it - she's Bee to everyone.
(Well, she's often Catastrophebe from her family, because we're rotten gits )

I used to call her Feebs, but she trained me out of it.

I know I'm biased here, but it's a lovely name, certainly not one to regret, you have lovely taste in names.

I love it, & wanted to call my DD Phoebe. (didn't in the end as it doesn't' work well in H's husband's language)
Have no regrets

I have a Phoebe. I still love the name as much as I did when I first named her. She's a teen and seems to love it too.

I really wouldn’t worry.

I would have loved to call my daughter Phoebe but our surname began with a C and her dad was a policeman ................................🙄

Is it beefy because phoebe in friends is phoebe buffay?

It's a lovely name.

I wanted a Hebe but husband didn't like it

All names are marmite! No such thing as a universally liked name.

I have never considered Phoebe/Beefy, but it's just reversing the syllables, isn't it? Fee-bee; bee-fee. I've never heard anyone do that, though, and I think Phoebe is a lovely name.

I don't usually come on baby names as my children are now grown ups, but this thread has appeared near the top of Active. One of mine is a Phoebe. If it's shortened or nicknamed, it's usually Feebs, Feef or Feefee, she's never reported Beefy! She actually spent her first two weeks as something else which became her middle name when we finally did the birth certificate, that name was a perfectly nice name but just wasn't 'hers', whereas her sister fitted her name perfectly from the beginning.

Don’t get the Beefy link. Wouldn ‘t have thought Phoebe is a common enough name to have a particularly weird nickname linked to it.

I have to say I think it's a lovely name, it's simple and elegant and in my mind sounds quite posh!

I hear what you're saying about the name regret though. Unfortunately I had the same with my son, though thanks to the pandemic I am getting over this (I think as a result of not going out and interacting with people and strangers much!).

It wasn't a name I chose myself but it was one that was important to my partner so I decided to go along with it though I actually disliked the name (very old fashioned and not in a good way!!). I also had some really crappy comments after my son was born from strangers which were said in jest but actually really hurt me and I started overthinking things. I actually didn't want to write his name on SM after he was born (and didn't) which looking back now is really sad.

Thing is with names they come in and out of fashion and they mean different things to different people. I haven't had any negative thoughts about the name for a while, perhaps thanks to the pandemic and social isolation on one hand but also because my son is now older and I feel that he is really growing into his name, and I love hearing his sibling say his name too. I think the best thing to do for us both going forward is to accept the name and see it as an extension of our daughter / son rather than associate it with what some randos think of it. What I have found nice is also to associate it with cool people from history or contemporary society that I admire. Hope that helps!

It’s a lovely name and one which we very possibly would’ve chosen when we had our babies, both were boys though so we were unable to use it.

Lovely name

It's a beautiful name. Lovely for a little girl and not silly for an adult.

I know a little Pheobe as well, she's adorable but the misspelling makes me wince a bit. As a teacher I also came across a Rubeun and a Charlot.

Kids find a nickname for every name
Mine was I own a pony
Because I was fat and my name is Iona

I've had a Phoebe for several decades and never heard beefy! She suits it beautifully.

I don’t think phoebe is a marmite name. Of course some people won’t like it but that is true for any name. I like the name!

I'm not keen on it myself but have taught a few Phoebes and never had other children make fun of it or make up weird nicknames based on it. So if you like it I wouldn't worry about it.

I like Bee or Bibi as a nickname.❤️

It’s not a marmite name, it’s just a name like any other - some people will love it, some won’t. And that’s okay. I don’t think there’s any name in the whole world that’s universally loved.

It’s not a stupid, ‘younique’, made up or misspelt name, so you’re perfectly okay. Is there maybe something else you’re actually worried or sad about and this concern is how it’s manifesting?

I don't have a Phoebe but think it's a lovely name. I really don't get the beefy thing and it's really not hard to spell. Naming is so subjective that I'd say most names are marmite and it's better to be marmite than dull and forgettable. Honestly Op you are over thinking this.

I am a real name fusspot and I really like Phoebe.

Very pretty, classic but not old fashioned, not tied to any era/class/character, everyone can say it (even if you get the odd spelling issue).

Yes not everyone is going to like it but that's the case for every name on the planet!

It's a lovely choice of name. Fee is also a good short form for child or adult - it's friendly.

I don’t have a Phoebe but I think it’s a lovely name, not hard to spell (it’s much easier that there is only one way to spell it compared to say Catherine, Amy, Sophia etc) and I think beefy is a real stretch!