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Changing surname, initials ASS?

30 replies

QueenOfCatan · 08/03/2021 08:27

Husband wants to change his name, our children have both of our surnames double barrelled. Currently our eldest's initials are AS-C (has a middle name beginning with L but not certain that the initial for that would be used?!) but husband is thinking about using his mother's surname which begins with S so eldest would be AS-S or ALS-S.

Would we be setting her up for a life of name misery?! Or would the middle name be used and all would be fine?
We have thought about a new family name but can't think of anything that we like much!

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QueenOfCatan · 08/03/2021 08:52

He doesn't want to have just mine, he has the same thoughts on that to me having just his.

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dementedpixie · 08/03/2021 08:52

What if the kids want to keep their own names? That's part of their identity

QueenOfCatan · 08/03/2021 08:50

We'd all change to have the same, he's keen for the kids to not have the original surname and I don't want it either hence not changing mine to S-C when we married.

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ILoveStickers · 08/03/2021 08:48

Agree with PP - your husband can change his name (or double barrel his new name and old name?) without it affecting the children's name.

Or, if he wants to use a family name but not the one he has now, why doesn't he change his name to yours? The children could keep the double-barrel or just use yours, either by changing it formerly or just by using one only in daily life.

So,

Joe Cooper
Jane Smith
daughter Amy Smith-Cooper

Just all become Smiths - job done!

dementedpixie · 08/03/2021 08:36

Why would changing his name affect your children's names? Surely the children keep their existing names