Fae - can it be a nickname?

The two lovely women I know called Fae use it to avoid their given name - Euphemia. Not due a comeback anytime soon.

Felicia
Ophelia

My name is Fay. I spelt it Fae for a long time. It never gets shortened unlike a lot of names.

It really is very confusing when you change your name part way through a thread, OP. A lot of people have the OP's posts highlighted so that can be sure they are following any updates.

However, back to your question, like so many others, I can't understand, if you want your child to turn / look up / come to you when she hears the sound "Fay", then why not call her "Fay" ?
Giving her a known names, with a made up spelling, is just giving her problems for the whole of her life. Why would you want to do that?

With Fae, Faeryn or Faerune, I would assume you're a fantasy fan, though I guess with your usernames that isn't much of an issue. I think double names could also work.

I think the thing that upset people was:
So, kid can have unusual name, but if kid's well spoken, that's usually all it takes for bully to ignore him/her.
also, when it comes to things bully wants to joke about on something, unusual name is thing bullies pick up last.

and then telling people who've experienced bullying that people just misunderstand jokes - it's a bit inappropriate when someone says they were the victim of bullying to dismiss that out of hand as children joking: the audience decides the joke, not the person who thinks they're a comedian.

Children tend to pick up on the derision from who and what is around them - media, their peers, adults, and so on - so if any of those mock people who are/"act posh" and characterise that by particular odd names or being well-spoken, then yeah, a child who fits that may experience bullying based on that. If the derision is towards people with traits associated with "oiks", "yokels", "chavs", "those who can't take a joke", whatever... what causes a child to target another for abuse depends in large part on the culture around the child. What's easy pickings in one place won't be the same as another.

My DD1 has been experiencing abuse for the way she speaks since Y7 and is now Y9 years now, mostly verbal remarks, having people scream in her face about it, and once being chased home. There was actually an issue at her school for a bit as there was a common idea with some adults that children don't bully for being well-spoken or an American accent and it took her being called a mongrel and that she couldn't be British to get the school to step in properly. The fact it took the bullies moving to xenophobic attacks disappointed me, I'd hope professionals were better trained in this.

Oddly, my DS1 has a stammer, struggles to be 'well-spoken' and that seems like it would be easy pickings -- but he doesn't get remarks about how he talks beyond occasional remarks about his accent (he attends a different school). The things children attack others for varies widely, it's not as predictable as many on baby name threads and even some professionals sometimes think.

What??

Seraphina

We have Fae as a middle name. Wanted Faith but it was too much of a mouthful given the surname. Got a bit jumbled up. I've always like led the 'ae' spelling and had a friend when younger who was Mae.

I also think you should just name her Fae. Theres literally no such thing as a 3 letter, one syllable name being too short.

However, as another suggestion, you could do a double barrel name?

E.g Louisa Fae.

Some of the above are too close to Fellatio for my liking.

Frances has all the letters in the right order.

I think if I heard it was a shortening I’d assume Faith.

Tiffany? Seraphina?

Morgan!

Faith

Faelicia
Faelatia
Faella
Faebella
Faetania

Fabienne?

Faela is nice

Feyre

Faene? It means 'Shining' supposedly.

Fae-maria
Faeanne
Faemma
Faemogen

anyway, I don't really care about this discussion anymore. It's obvious you don't have any experience with bullying, and I came here asking for longer forms for Fae, so this isn't something I'm interested in discussing with someone who wants to burden all kinds of bullying with name jokes.

[quote imalmostthere]@MoonlightMagic your views on bullying are frankly very concerning, inflammatory and diminishing to those who have suffered bullying.

"Not every joke is bullying"
If every joke is at the expense of the same person, and is clearly upsetting them - then yes, actually, it's is bullying. It's very concerning you're working with children's mental health If you think being well spoken is your ticket out of being tortured through school. [/quote]
My posts are actually really realistic. But I guess you don't like when actual facts are presented, and it contracts what you believes might be correct, so you just listed various adverbs to describe my "views". You are far from right and correct, anyway. Most importantly, your words are wrong, because I spoke very little. What exactly did I say before that warrants that strong reaction from you?

Bullying is something that happens over period of time. One time joke is something unavoidable, and can happen over various reason, like in disagreement or heated argument. Banter exist, you know.

www.bullying.co.uk/general-advice/verbal-bullying/
Is it bullying or banter?

I marked important part for those who don't
It can be confusing for someone to try and work out whether the name calling is banter or bullying. A young person going through something like this might feel intimidated or feel under pressure not to make a fuss because others are saying it is just a joke. If it is a one off incident then it may be that it is banter. However, if the name calling becomes persistent and regular, then this is bullying. It is equally about how you feel too, if it makes you uncomfortable and you have told them to stop but they are still name calling, then this is what we call verbal bullying. The verbal bullying can be anything about weight, appearance, racist, sexual or homophobic bullying.

Important things are "over time" and "still". Something that happen once is quickly forgotten.