One family: Tom, Tommy AND Thomas?

@PissedOffAgain, I knew a family where every first born male was named William. Their surname? McWilliams! I quite like it, but imaginative it is not

Love Thomas. Go for it op!

Both of my male cousins (on the same side) have the same first name as my dad.

My uncle and his grandson have the same name.

There's also a liberal (and repeated) use of parents'/grandparents' first names as middle names and middle names as first

All have the same surname.

None of these names are unusual. I've never thought it was odd and it only ever occurs to me that some people think it might be when I see these threads. Although now that I have thought about it it does, as a PP noted, show a staggering lack of imagination on the part of that side of my family

It would have been perfectly normal for most of history! I say go for it.

I think that's fine. Especially a name like Thomas, which is such a classic. I really love the name Thomas.

We have two Alexanders in our extended family and nobody batted and eyelid. I would use my cousins' dc names without even thinking about it. It's so far removed. It's fine.

It seems a shame to use the same name when there are so many to choose from

Never mind the potential for issues for misunderstandings

I in have three sets of cousins called Joe and Chris.two maternal sets of first - so my GP had 2 x 2 GC with the same names. One maternal set of second cousins (so those GO’s great nephews). Apart from showing and outstanding lack of imagination on my maternal family’s behalf and a liberal use of surnames, it has been too much of a problem.

That's ok
In my family, my sister and 7 cousins an aunt and my granny all have the same name.
Granny and aunt have passed away. When talking about my cousins or sisters it does get confusing sometimes 😂

It's fine IMO.

I have the same name as my first cousin, but with a different spelling (think Sara/Sarah). We lived next door to each other! It honestly was never an issue. She was big... And I was little... Oh, and to add to the fun the girl in the next house had the same name too 🤣

If it’d been your siblings’ sons, I’d say not - but second cousins is one step removed (don’t share grandparents). So I think on that basis, it’s fine - especially if you don’t see them all that often and they see each other even more rarely.

I think it depends on how close you are to them - do you see them often? Are the kids likely to play together often? Etc. Having said that, Tom / Thomas is a very common name, so I'm sure they'll bump into loads of others during their lifetime - it would be more problematic if it was an unusual name. If you really love the name then use it, but personally I'd choose something different - there are so many lovely names out there, it seems a bit daft to choose the same one as lots of people you know. Other classic boys names you might like include: Harry, Henry, Jack, Fred, Finn, Sam, Ben, Will etc.

I think it's fine. I have 4 cousins, who share names... and plenty more cousinsvwho don't. It's not an issue. I do think Thomas will be very popular this year though because of Captain Tom.

It’s fine. Ds has a first cousin with a virtually identical name to his. When they first chose it I was a bit WTF but actually it’s fine.

It’s fine. My grandparents have two grandsons named Dave, never been an issue. It would probably be weirder if they were the only grandkids but there’s 14 of us so no one cared

Neighbours have similar. GF, S, GS and another close family member with either the name or 1 form of nick name. So to distinguish they get Old Name, Young Name etc. It works!

Seems fine to me, you are all using slightly different forms of the name, plus your DS is much younger. Cannot see anyone would be upset by it.

In my family there are 5 names that are multi generational but its always passed to a nephew or grandson never to your son.
So e.g. James Sr's nephew is called James but James Sr's son is called David after his uncle David - its complicated.
At this point we have 4 generations with shared names, but its just normal to us now and no one in the family finds it weird or confusing

I'd go with it. On my mum's side of my family I've got a cousin called Jessica, and another cousin called their child Jessica. I've never heard it mentioned.

I have a lot of cousins on my dad's side, many of whom live in Ireland. The amount of Marys, Patricks, Margarets, Theresas is unbelievable. And that's not including cousins children. Again, nobody's turned a hair.

We have three cousins who are Alex, Alec and Alexander. No one seems to notice or care.

If the kids were first cousins I'd think twice, but your child will be second cousin to each of the other children. I'd go with it.

I have 46 first cousins. I think it's fine. If you only have the two cousins and you seem them both fairly often it might be weird.

I think you should use it. I don't think the relations are close enough for it to be weird in any way that you have picked that name. I have a Thomas, it's a great name x