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Feel like I chose the wrong name!

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pigglepot · 16/01/2021 09:29

All the way through my pregnancy my favourite name for my daughter was Iris. All the letters I wrote to her whilst I was pregnant are addressed "Dear Iris" and we found out halfway through that it was my husbands Nans name too! Towards the end of my pregnancy I had totally overthought it and all of a sudden couldn't stop thinking of Isis when I heard Iris and suddenly the fact that it was a family name became a negative too!! Then when she was born she didn't "look" like an Iris. My hormones were all over the bloody shop so I couldn't decide on a name and it became so stressful as it's all anyone asks you. Finally we decided on Violet which was a bit of whim and I was deciding between the two right up until the morning we registered. Long story short she's now called Violet and half the time I'm not even sure if I like the name as it reminds me a bit of old ladies! And the worst part is that I'm now pregnant again and would love to use Iris if it's a girl but then that would be two flower names which is surely a bit twee?! How do I stop obsessing that I've named her the wrong name and, if I do have another girl, is Violet and Iris too much of a theme?! Help!

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ParisJeTAime · 16/01/2021 09:53

They are both lovely names! Use Iris if you like and you have another girl.

Scaredykittycat · 16/01/2021 09:52

I like it. Go for it.

whattodo2019 · 16/01/2021 09:50

i know two sets of Iris and Violet sisters plus a Violet and lily

IdentifyingCreamCake · 16/01/2021 09:42

Both would be lovely but I wonder if you would feel weird about having written letters “dear iris” that were for your first daughter and now they would have actually been for your second daughters name? If I were you I would have given iris as a middle name but that ship has sailed I presume!

I really like both names but I actually think iris is more of an old lady name than violet. Violet has been around a while but there are definitely more Nans called iris!

Rainbowsoup · 16/01/2021 09:39

I think having both floral names is lovely. And both great timeless names!

Courtney555 · 16/01/2021 09:38

Violet and iris are both lovely, individually and together. You've made great choices Flowers

Poppins2016 · 16/01/2021 09:34

I know siblings with nature names (floral theme) and I think it's lovely, not twee. If you love the name, go for it!

pigglepot · 16/01/2021 09:31

I've just re-read that and please ignore "the worst part is" as it sounds like I'm upset to be pregnant which I'm absolutely not, I'm thrilled and I know how lucky I am. I don't think I can edit the post to change it!

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