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Name Regret

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wanderlove · 14/01/2021 20:08

I keep coming back to my daughter's name and fixating on it. The name we'd chosen for her didn't fit and we called her Rosie. It wasn't a name we'd spoken about before and although I don't dislike it at all I sort of feel neutral about it. When I'm feeling more balanced I like to think of it as the name found her but when I am feeling unbalanced I feel really sad that she hasn't got a name I love. I really love my daughter and have really bonded with her, so I try and think of the name as summing her up. She's 15 months at the moment and I think it's getting worse not better. Everyone else in the family loves her name and she does suit it so it's not an option to change it. I was hoping to hear some advice really from anyone who has felt this way and things you did that helped

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Alexandernevermind · 14/01/2021 20:35

I wouldn't admit this is real life, but I went through this with both my children. As they get older the name is them and represents them, rather than the other way around, so you begin to love it again.

Twickerhun · 14/01/2021 20:31

I had that to a degree but the older my dd has got the more she has fitted her name. It’s now her name. I love her but not entirely her name but that’s ok. I don’t need to absolutely love her name but I do absolutely love her. It’s one of those things that I’ve just adapted to and I try not to give head space to.

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wanderlove · 14/01/2021 20:30

I honestly couldn't think of another name at the time. I don't regret not calling her the name we had picked out but my mind went blank and I think we just rushed it.

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wanderlove · 14/01/2021 20:28

She's called Rosie and I know it's a personal taste thing but I probably do prefer Rosie to both Rose and the other options like Rosa or Rosalind etc. I just don't quite know how to make peace with it

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BestJamInTheVillage · 14/01/2021 20:26

Call her Rosie-Skye then op as long as you do it before she starts preschool and school it will stick

Plussizejumpsuit · 14/01/2021 20:24

What was the name you wanted? I think Rose and Rosie are lovely. Is she actually called Rosie or is it a version of rose. Just rose is a bit more adult.

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wanderlove · 14/01/2021 20:22

I wonder about changing but the problem is don't really like any the 'Rose' names you mentioned that would be easy to change but keep Rosie as A nickname with both options. I love her middle name which is Skye and I actually like the name as a whole 'Rosie Skye' but not Rosie by itself.

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Scotstar · 14/01/2021 20:21

@meltedgalaxy my 3yo is Andrew too, a few folk call him AJ as a shortening in messages (andrew James) but really glad it hasn't properly stuck! Hes definitely an Andrew. What really drives me crazy is the assumption he will be an Andy before too long, not by me he won't!!! Apparently that's my fault though for giving him a name with such a popular shortening. What's wrong with just Andrew!!!

Greenmarmalade · 14/01/2021 20:18

How about just changing it a bit? Rosa, Rosalie, Rosalind, Rosamund, Rosita.

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wanderlove · 14/01/2021 20:15

Thank you that is what I'm hoping. I haven't even told a soul because I would hate for her to ever know that I didn't love her name (or any aspect of her). It's just over the last few weeks it's gone from being a little niggle to something I think about a lot.

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meltedgalaxy · 14/01/2021 20:11

I chose Andrew, after my husband and I loved it. Until everyone started calling him AJ (junior) he isn't a junior, it's not on his birth certificate. He's 15 months old too and he goes by AJ, I can't really do anything about it. I did ask everyone to call him Andrew but did they? Nope!

It's grown on me but I certainly do not love it and I'll continue calling him Andrew as he gets older, if he really wants to be AJ then so be it.

Only advice I can say is, I think once you watch them grow into the name it does start to help

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