Name Regret

When I worked in Preschool there were quite a few children with 'known as' names. It's more common than you think to have a change of heart. I'd bite the bullet and jut pick a date and say from now on we shall be calling her This and when you register her school etc make sure you tell them the 'known as' name. It really won't be a problem x

@wanderlove hi my step-daughter is Rosalie but she's always ended up being called Rosie. Now she's 12 she's decided she prefers Rose. You'll probably finds it changes as she grows up.

Even if you don't love her name you certainly haven't failed her by naming her Rosie. It's not unusual, its easy to spell and not embarrassing. That makes an excellent name.

I also really like Rosie too (maybe nickname of Row?)

You may find a nn appears naturally. My ds acquired a nn at a few months old. At 6 he rarely gets his actual name.
Usually just at the school gates!!

Funnily enough I wish my own name was Rosie!! @CiderWithRosy

@wanderlove I think maybe this is going down the OCD route. There is no perfect name in existence. You have not failed her as you have no idea what her personality will be like when she grows up. You cannot predict what she will consider the perfect name for herself. You could spend days and days and months and months but you would be no closer.

You have given her a gorgeous name. Try and move on from this.
If she prefers her middle name when she's a bit older , she can use it day to day. Plenty of people do that and it's even easier now with social media etc to clearly let all your friends know what you'd like to be "known as"

I felt the same when my youngest was about to be christened. But I went through other Name options and none of those actually fit. So it helped me realise that the name we’d chosen was actually the right one.

I love both my children’s names and thought that I had thought up all the possible nicknames. I hadn’t, and that’s the name my husbands family call the baby. It makes my teeth itch.

I think Rose is a lovely name.

I totally relate to this OP but funnily enough, the name that I wish I'd called my DD is Rosie. At the time I was convinced I was having a boy and hadn't really thought of any girls names and looking back I rushed into it. I should of taken my time. I do like my daughter's name, it's just I don't love it. She's 5 now and she has grown into it and it does suit her.....but I do still really love Rosie and that name would of suited her perfectly 😊. Congratulations on your lovely Rosie btw!

You will move on, my dd is 19 and I'm not even sure how she got her name it certainly wasn't on my list, I was totally convinced we were having a boy and hadn't given the girl names much thought. My exes best mate nabbed the one name I liked for his dd who was born 2 months before so that was off the list think I've only ever met the child twice in 19 years but dd suits her name and she likes it so the fact that I wished i'd called her Aeryn is long forgotten

@wanderlove Sorry - I didn’t mean to sound hectoring. I just don’t think it’s something to focus on, especially if it could spoil your time with your lovely DD. You’re spot on that, over time, that name becomes “them”. If I’m honest, I don’t absolutely love my DD’s name (bit of a compromise with my DH). But she likes it and it’s “her”. So please try not to worry about it.

We have three DC. Eldest DC is 13 and I'm still meh about their name. Middle DC we absolutely nailed, perfect name. Youngest DC I'm pretty happy with, although not as much as middle.DC. But none of this even features in my top 100 parenting worries or regrets! It's only a name - Rosie is a lovely name without any negatives so I really would try to stop worrying.

I love Rosie, my own Rosie is an adult now and I think that it's a name that ages well as it has suited her at all stages. Dd loves her name as well which is always a bonus. FWIW Rosie was the first name I picked but just before she was born I was going to call her Holly but everyone had got used to the idea of her being Rosie so stuck with it. Now I look back and I'm glad I did.

I felt like that with one of my sons because we were really stuck on names and being felt like we were pushed for a choice. I didn't have any other name ideas either and it took about two years to get over it. But now I love it and don't regret it at all, his name is Henry

BTW I love Rosie, one of my Favourite girls names

I felt like that with my youngest’s name, spent a long time on here searching to see what others thought. I’m back to loving it again because it is who she is.

I really love my daughter and have really bonded with her

In the nicest possible way - this is what is important. Her name doesn’t really matter all that much. And she has a nice one. It’s a lovely, classic name. And it’s hers.

I thought you were thinking about calling your child Regret. (Wanders off....)

I thought I was having a boy (guessing) and picked out a boy name. My ex chose a girls name and I couldn't think of any.
His pick was Miley (yes after the singer) it's never been a favourite of mine but I love her so much that she IS Miley so therefore I LOVE Miley. It's only when I talk to someone new that I get a little 😬 when I say 'this is Miley' but the older I get the less I could give a f* and she loves her name so it's all good

How about not actually changing her name but calling her Skye? Quite a few people are known by their middle name.

I have 2 DDs and love DD1s name but I am very neutral on DD2. I always said to DH I was neutral, but I just couldnt find one I loved, so when she was born we just went with jt. She is 10 weeks now and I have found myself slightly adjusting her name and I like it better (think Sandra to Sandy). Maybe she will just fit a version of her name over time. It's ok to be neutral. I have just accepted it.

You do have the choice to tell everyone she's going by her middle name. My sister had this through her childhood, we called her by her middle name at home and at school she was her legal first name. She chose her first name fully in the end, and that worked out fine.

I know two men who go by their middle names as a choice. If you'd prefer to call her Skye, then do it! Or, as a PP said, call her Rosie-Skye.. then gently phase out the Rosie, people will go along with your guidance (or at least know who you're talking about!). Your daughter will eventually choose her own variant anyway!