Would you use the name everyone hates?

Ursula
Dora
Wanda
Eileen
Myra
Irene
Myrtle
Jean/ Jane
Constance/ Connie
Nelly/ Nellie
Rosemary
Joan
Anne

Millicent
June
Betty
Matilda/ Tilda/ Tilly
Olive
Pearl
Elsa/ Elsie
Debbie/ Deborah

We didn't tell anyone our DC's names before they were born, but when DC2 arrived, and we announced his name, a lot of people, including family gave us a 'wtf' face. I reallllllllly don't care. It's a great name. It suits him. It has a lovely meaning.

If it's so unusual that even mentioning it on this post would be outing then I assume it's too weird to give to your kid.
But if you want a genuine opinion you need to say the name. It will give you an answer one way or another. Either 'you're family is crazy it's fine' or 'no they are right don't use it'

Is it Dorkas?
Or something super posh like Araminta?

Muriel
Phyllis
Gladys
Winifred/ Winnie
Vera
Edna
Eunice
Bernadette
Enid
Sheila
Mildred
Maude
Marjorie
Frances
Harriet
Gwendolyn/gwyn
Lorraine

Lesson I learned 25 years ago - told Dh's family the first name I thought would be nice for unborn DH (Guy) I thought it was nice and classic. They immediately said - Guy the gorilla you can't do that. After that I did not tell them a single name we were thinking of until he was born. Because once DS was born it was just his name and no one could make fun of it.

Pretty sure OP unless you have chosen wild and loopy you will not have chosen a name which would out you,.

Unless a boy - and Endeavour in which case people will just get a list of links to Morse

Beryl
Dorothy
Edith
Martha
Mary
Elizabeth
Florence
Gertrude
Ethyl

How can we know if you don't tell us the name?
Prudence
Patience
Peculiar
Virtue
Charity
Mavis
Agnes
Agatha

If you are too embarrassed to tell us the name anonymously, how will you cope when baby is born?

Post the name with an asterisk instead of one letter then it won't come up of Google's

Aside from the fact we cannot comment on the name as you are being obscure about it, this is the exact reason my DH and I NEVER tell anyone the name before baby is born. Before a baby is born everyone thinks they have a duty to give their input into your choice. After baby is born people are much more inclined to keep their opinions to themselves. Now that you have told everyone the name you intend to use, you have to either stick with it and tell everyone to take a long walk off a short cliff, or change it. That's it.

And for what it's worth, I think your families sound atrocious. Absolutely pathetic to ridicule a name choice, especially if it is in fact a Real name with Real Spelling -yes I am one of those twats who hates made up names/spellings.

I have 3DC, expecting 4 in a few months, and each time my mother has done a "oh that's an interesting name...um where did you find that one?" And I can assure you each of my
Children have real/regular names.

Well it seems to be us all everyone ever wants on MN is a unique name no one else has. So if you pick one most people hate it's win win. Doesn't matter provided you like it.

I loved the name Maud. Never met anyone else who liked it including dh so we didn’t use it.
I still love the name.

Really would love to know the name or a hint.

But they do sound awful for being like this. I don't under why people aren't just polite.

Sorry posted too soon
My mum actively hated the name I gave my DD tried to get all my family to tell me so, and tried calling my DH to get him to change it - spent a lot of my pregnancy calling me with names she liked - it put a big rift in our relationship
Ignore them, I did snd my daughter lives her name (she's teen now£

Ethel

If everyone you have etold has had a really strong reaction and hated it, I'm going to say yes, ots probably awful. Hard to say when you are so determined not to say what it is though. Infact the thread is pointless really.

What a rude family you have. Use the name. And don't in future share names with your family before the baby is born. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

What good is this thread if you won't say the name?

If you aren't open to people expressing their opinions on a name, then why on erth share it with people before the baby arrives ?

Once the little one is an actual person, with that name, then people will be much less likely to share their opinions.

However, I do agree with this :
However, if everyone you tell universally hates it, I would wonder if there was any weight to their criticism? Is there a specific issue they have, would this be a burden or inconvenience to your child?

Generally, although you might get one or two 'blunter' people, you'll have that balanced out with people trying to not say anything, or trying to think or a slightly positive comment about a name. If everyone has really said how awful it is, then I'm inclined to go with the 'no smokl without fire' train of thought.

Your thread is pointless if you won't share the name - maybe name change and start another thread if you don't want the name linked to your user name. Or do as a pp suggested and s p a c e it out.

I named my kid the name that is both (a) rude in another language, (b) polarising.
I did it anyway. And it really suits her. It's her name, and its adorable.

(I did ask about my choice of name on here, this was 9 years ago. The response was don't do it. I asked MN to delete the thread as it was possible to google her name and I didn't want that for her in the future. They did).

Who posts asking advice on a name and refuses to mention the name?!

Bizarre people about these days like

Just name change and post it as a neutral what do you think of this name post - as part of a list if you want - so if your rellies spot it on a google it won’t matter

Are your families reactions reverse snobbery?
As you said the name was quite posh. I'm wondering if the name itself is fine it's just their baggage around class maybe?
If that's the case then use the name you & your DH chose. If they keep pushing on it mock something about their names back until they stop.

Yes just space it out or put dots in between the letters.
Like G. e. r. t. r. u. d. e.
Tell us and we'll let you have honest answers.