Would you use the name everyone hates?

Not keen, but it's your choice.

If a few people didn't like it, its them. If everyone hates it, its the name.

I wouldn't have said it to your face, but I'm with them. Hideous name. Conjures up 80's sloan rangers in pearls and headbands, braying about horse trials and ski chalets.

I think its awful, sorry

I'm a forinner and never heard your name before or have any associations with it but to me it sounds really nice, OP.

I think it's pretty

Ar/amin/ta is lovely op! Your family are being silly.

Tabitha is gorgeous too and quite popular. Nothing weird about it these days at all.

My brother is called the same name as the springy thing in the magic roundabout, I imagine it raised some eyebrows at first, but now there is literally no other name for him, people really like it. People just have to get used to names that they’ve not heard of before

I think Araminta is fine OP. It's easy to spell and pronounce compared to something like Lalage or StJohn if you haven't encountered them before.

I wouldn't worry about it being unusual as it's an actual name. I have an unusual name (Welsh, in England) and although I do get some eh? comments I mostly get compliments. Although some of the misspellings are spectacular

I think it's lovely! I have a cousin called Araminta - she's a minty too.

It is a name that stands out - but not in a negative way, I don't think. People will think "ooh, that's posh/fancy/frilly", but I don't think many people would think it was unpleasant. I do think "Minty" is inevitable.

(I know you weren't asking for an opinion on the name, but it does factor into whether or not your family have a point!)

I like Ari as a short version too

I like it, it’s not really out there at all? Your family members had/will have their own kids and get to decide on the names. This is your child and so I’d tell them quite frankly to bugger off.

Araminta is perfectly good name. Not unusual to me as once had odd situation of working a team of three where both the other women were called 'Minty' - and of course both equally irritated at for once in their life not being the only Minty in the room!

All well and good you using the full version, but remember you can't control nicknames and she will undoubtedly be Minty (which is lovely) amongst friends. I expect family will end up doing this too if not a fan of Araminta in full.

Great name with a big variety of short versions. They'll get used to it.

Araminta is a gorgeous name, take no notice of your families' comments it is nothing to do with them. We had similar - although after he was born - as DS' name is in a very similar vein, traditional, unusual, a bit posh...my dad joked (in a nice way) that "he sounds like he owns half of Wiltshire", but other family members were less kind and some were bl**dy rude.

The name suits DS perfectly and I am so glad we stuck with it, so don't allow yourself to be pushed about, your baby your decision and everyone will get used to it once she's here.

There is nothing 'wrong' with Araminta

Just because it isn't to someone else's taste that doesn't give them the right to be rude

If it is your preferred name then please go ahead and use it and ask your family to keep their opinions to themselves

I worked with someone called the name you're considering. We attended a lot of meetings together where we'd meet people who didn't know either of us previously and at least 9 out of 10 times they'd comment on her name in a sort of "that's unusual" kind of way (not in a mean way but a bit of a way). Maybe in another 20 years things will be different but is that really something you'd want your child to live with just for the sake of... well what exactly?

Tabitha is the name for my next girl. Tabitha Kathryn. Love it

It really depends on the reasons for their hate, I guess. If it’s just a personal taste thing then yes, I’d still use. If they have genuine concerns re it being burdensome or inviting teasing, then it’s worth listening.

I love love love the name Tabitha.

@Rjd13 I think the name Tabitha is lovely 😊

I had exactly this with my first DC. I mentioned quite casually over dinner that we loved the name Tabitha for a girl, my family were horrified. Genuinely horrified. I was really surprised and devastated! I hadn't expected people to be so openly rude. I thought well maybe they're just out of touch so tried a friendship group, got similar reaction - 'disgusting name' and 'cruel' if I chose that. I couldn't get my head around it as I think it's the most beautiful name. Ended up having a boy, but I'm pregnant again now and it has put me off using Tabitha if I have a girl this time.

The reactions if others have ruined that name for me, and as much as I believe it's my choice and people will get used to it, you don't want to feel nervous telling people your child's name. And you do want other people to like the name, especially family and friends. I didn't like the idea of people talking about what a horrible name I'd picked behind my back, or worse people being nasty to DC due to their name.

This time around I'm keeping my cards very close to my chest!