Snobbery to popular names

I think that it is a good idea to give a blunt opinion on here because in real life people just say it's nice.

I've noticed that many posts focus on the first and middle names. You need to think about potential nn if the name is long or if it could be a bit silly with the surname.

When I was at school there were duplicated names, you know like 2 Ava Grace Smiths or something, so they would have nicknames.
And yes, they would be Big Ava and Little Ava, if one was taller than the other.

Are you even pregnant op or are you getting mock offended on principle that someone might not like a name you might not ever use?

@Tblock you don't need to ask me specifically, it's a PUBLIC forum where people give OPINIONS.

But it's ok, I accept your apology.

@Girlyracer but why would you apply a hypothetical title as a way of choosing your child's name? It's such a bizarre and arbitrary way of making a decision, as if you can steer your child's life based on the name you choose.

I mean can you ever imagine a prime Minister Boris? Oh no... wait.

I might also direct you to a lawyer named Cupcake LyVatt Brown who opened her own law office in San Diego in 2016. Graduated near top of her class. Her name doesn't seem to have slowed her down any.

Names don't have to denote class or skill when you have intelligent enough adults to look beyond previously conceived notions of what is right or proper.

I found it really hard to pick names for my dc because whilst I didn't want them to be one of 5 in their class, I also didn't want them to be so unusual they were the only one in the school. I was the only one with my name in both my primary and my massive 7 form entry secondary for the whole time I was there. Stuff like that bothers kids.

Isn't it because lots of people grew up in classes with multiples and remember how awkward and irritating it was. I was the "fat" one of 2 in my class. It was shit. So many Rebecca's and Sarah's in my year group, I definitely wanted to avoid that for my kids, but that might be my own issues.

I agree with a previous OP, I don't like shortened names entered on birth certificates. Nickname fine in day to day life. But Alfred is the proper name, Alf or Alfie the shortened version.

I always apply the judge test. Would it pass as a His Honour/Her Honour/Lady Justice etc

When I was due my dd now age 14 I was absolutely stuck on a certain name that I had loved for ages and wasn't a popular choice. Then a character in a popular soap came along with the same name and it put me off as then all of a sudden their were babies being called this. I really regret now using it now as it was a name I have loved for a long time. X

@Tblock, you said Chelsea was slightly chavvy, yet a pp gets flak for saying Alfie is silly.

She specifically called parents selfish for picking a name like that. You clearly can’t read.

I did not say anything of the sort. I never mentioned selfish at all. You clearly can’t read. And you clearly don’t want to read anyone’s opinion but your own. But then don’t post on here and ask if you don’t want to hear the answers.

But lots of people come on here and want opinions on names and that includes popularity doesn't it? So they can decide if that is a factor that bothers them or not.
I've seen posters on her start threads saying "I like unique very rare names -so am thinking Arlo for a boy or Luna for a girl"

I think some people having a baby for the first time think "well I don't know anyone called [Arlo] so I expect it's really rare" so I think it's helpful if people tell them about the explosion of popularity in names like Arlo, Roman, Hunter, Luna, Arthur, Isla etc
I'm more familiar with the official chart lists now but I never used to be. If I heard of a baby named Noah or Ava 3 years ago (before my own kids) I'd honestly have thought it really unusual and would probably comment "wow that's unusual"

@MerryChristmasToYou
Oh yes so I did. The Arabellas.

•Nicknamey names especially those without a formal BC option for adulthood.
•Names that are currently too popular.
•Chavvy Names, Wet/Twee Names, Posh Names & The Frilly/Princess variety.

People passing on names because they feel it’s to popular, despite them really liking a name. Sad really.

Can you see the irony here? You are judging people for the criteria that they use to name their child.

Popularity was an important consideration for me when I was choosing my own children’s names. Who are you to declare that ‘sad’?

@BritishTeapots, you missed out 'princessy' and 'frilly' names.

I wouldn't a very popular name for my dc to be honest. The school is full of Archie's, Thomas's, Emily's and Sophie's etc as it is

You see it depends if you crave a name to be different. Within the herds of people types, some want a very very unique name. Others want something a bit different...not unheard of, but not very widespread. Others want a name which is very widely known and doesn’t draw any attention for itself.

It really depends on whether you want to draw attention to your child and the methods you wish to use to do so. Some people really want attention and the name is a big way to do this. Others really want to avoid drawing attention and especially for such things.

The main name gripes on here, and off here, are:

•Nicknamey names especially those without a formal BC option for adulthood.
•Names that are currently too popular.
•Chavvy Names, Wet/Twee Names & Posh Names.

Even the "classics" feel boring when they're everywhere. I adore 'Jane' as a first name because it's humble, timeless, sweet and simple but I know that if it were to become as popular as Olivia, Alice and Sophie currently are then I'd feel a lot differently about it. When a name is everywhere, classic or not, we get bored of it...it's only natural.

The problem is none of us can predict the next round of top 25 popular names so there's not much you can do but choose a name you really like and maybe take a look at the top 100 list and avoid any high up so your LO isn't one of millions in their year group.

Ah, now I definitely do think this about some names. It's not a dealbreaker for me, though, because it all factors in to how much I like the name to begin with. So, for example, I love the name George. I don't care that it's really popular and has been for years. I'd definitely have used it for my ds (but DH vetoed). However, if there's a name that I'm not fussed about AND I seem to see/hear it everywhere, I end up not really liking it. Equally, there are some "out there" names that get absolutely derided on here but that I love. As for my own DC names - both have cropped up time and again on here. One is apparently "downmarket" and the other is "try hard"! I definitely don't pass the mn name test 😂

I personally wouldn’t call them that, but wouldn’t insult someone who chose that name, which is exactly what you did to me

No, she didn't.

I actually cannot get my head round why anyone would want to call their child such a silly name, IMO, even though I accept that is the case

She called the NAME silly.

No one has called you silly.
No one has suggested your a social inferior for liking Alfie or other popular names.
No one has been spiteful.
You're so very desperate to be offended for is not all fawning over your name choices

Ahem www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-474267/Couple-barred-calling-baby-4Real-settle-Superman-instead.html