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Girls name: which spelling?

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anonymous1234567890 · 11/10/2020 10:01

Heard this name recently but unsure of which spelling....
Indie/Indi/Indy

To add I immensely dislike India (its a country name), Indigo (its a colour) and Indiana (again a place name).

I knew someone many years ago who named their daughter Indira Violet and thought that sounded gorgeous.
But I would ideally like to use middle name Matilda.

Which spelling do you prefer? Indie/Indi/Indy
Which would sound nicer? Indie/Indi/Indy Matilda or Indira Violet?

Many thanks.

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CleanAndPaidFor · 13/10/2020 07:00

The OP seems to be a person who tells everyone to #bekind and is very much #notkind herself

ArnieLinson · 13/10/2020 06:51

How bloody rude.

emilybrontescorsett · 13/10/2020 06:45

I quite like Ingrid.

MaryShelley1818 · 12/10/2020 20:40

@UsernameNotValid

Don't like Tiana at all, I work in a very deprived area in Children's Safeguarding and Disney names are very common amongst the families I work with. Not a judgement thing, just a pitfall of working with children!

The fact that you specifically mentioned that these names are common in your families with safeguarding in a deprived area shows that it is absolutely a "judgement thing". Reminds me of when KH suggesting that certain names seemed to be more popular amongst "chavs"...

I've worked with children and families across the board for almost 18 years and names are a total mixed bag depending on the trends of the time.

It's because of these trends that it's put me off the name...be uppity all you like but I don't believe anyone who's ever worked with children have not been put off names by people they've worked with. I've done the job 20yrs, it's just a normal reaction. Having negative connotations down to real life experiences is not the same as "judging" a name to be "chavy" based on preconceptions. Surely you can see the difference. I'm sure you've taken the names of the worst families you've ever worked with and used them as inspiration though - you're clearly very virtuous. I am not as good as you so yes working with abusers/neglect/DV etc has put me off using names that remind me of that.
MikeUniformMike · 12/10/2020 09:51

@anonymous1234567890, DD2 has a friend called Ingrid and she is far from dowdy or old fashioned. It really suits her and is unusual without being out there.

Matilda and Violet are fine but Indy is a bit unaspirational.

MimiDaisy11 · 12/10/2020 07:43

I think if people don't read your message properly it's best to just ignore their comment rather than be rude to them. They might have accidentally misread your message or don't have the best reading skills or they think you might appreciate something out with what you're asking for.

When you post saying which do you like better X or Y, you are going to get people telling you they're both awful or suggesting new ones. It might not be helpful to you, but best to ignore rather than respond to them.

Nancydrawn · 12/10/2020 03:41

Indeed.

Girls name: which spelling?
UsernameNotValid · 12/10/2020 00:43

In all fairness whilst the OP's response was rude she didn't actually ask for opinions on the name or for suggestions so those resources could have been considered rude too.

FWIW i don't believe in "sophisticated" or "disney" names - we all know what the snobbish insinuation is there 🙄 - but I'd much rather use Indie than Ingrid because I just don't like the sound of it.

SBTLove · 12/10/2020 00:31

Indie, it’s a bit 90s now surely and pretty overused tbf.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 12/10/2020 00:29

I think Ingrid is too sophisticated for the OP

She should stick to the Disney name

bringbackfonzi · 12/10/2020 00:22

The funny thing is, Matilda is one of those names that a pp mentioned that used to be old-fashioned and is now popular, like Ingrid. Also, if the OP wants popular names (because they're popular for a reason), Ingrid is much higher up the charts than Indira and roughly as popular as Tiana (I checked on darkgreener.com).

EarlGreyJenny · 11/10/2020 23:03

In the spirit of your manner, I won't sugar coat this. Tiana is a dreadful name.

StayClosePooky · 11/10/2020 23:01

Bloody hell, what just happened Grin

AlwaysLatte · 11/10/2020 22:56

Well that went well.

UsernameNotValid · 11/10/2020 22:44

Don't like Tiana at all, I work in a very deprived area in Children's Safeguarding and Disney names are very common amongst the families I work with. Not a judgement thing, just a pitfall of working with children!

The fact that you specifically mentioned that these names are common in your families with safeguarding in a deprived area shows that it is absolutely a "judgement thing". Reminds me of when KH suggesting that certain names seemed to be more popular amongst "chavs"...

I've worked with children and families across the board for almost 18 years and names are a total mixed bag depending on the trends of the time.

Ginfilledcats · 11/10/2020 22:31

Indie Matilda is lovely

You are not!

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SionnachRua · 11/10/2020 22:11

So goodbye. I will not be back. You are not people I wish to associate with.

😂😂😂 Like we should be begging you to stay or something. Don't let the door hit your arse as you go...

Jaysus, what an overreaction from OP. Ingrid is much nicer than Indie, anyway. Indira is the best of them all!

Hmm12121 · 11/10/2020 22:06

Ingrid is a beautiful name.

ValancyRedfern · 11/10/2020 22:01

Well that escalated fast! In case you come back OP. I think Indira is lovely. Not keen on Indie (it's an adjective to me) but I don't think it matters how you spell it. I also love Tianna.

MJMG2015 · 11/10/2020 18:33

@anonymous1234567890

The mumsnet people seem to dislike any current top 100 names and expect all children to be named really obscure names. Popular names are popular for a reason before they are gorgeous and well loved! Names like Ingrid aren't popular because they are dowdy and old fashioned. End of. Mumsnet get so much bad press as being stuck up and bitchy. And that is definitely not what I want. I want names that don't make my child different and potentially bullied for their name. So goodbye. I will not be back. You are not people I wish to associate with.
I will not be back Let's hope that's a promise.
percheron67 · 11/10/2020 17:51

Indira is lovely. Indie is a fast and dangerous race track in America?!

BackforGood · 11/10/2020 17:45

Names like Ingrid aren't popular because they are dowdy and old fashioned. End of.

....says the poster complaining about people being judgemental about name choices Confused

Mischance · 11/10/2020 17:34

Not a Disney princess please!

Indie, spelt however, makes me think of independent - e.g. IndieSage.

But Indira is nice.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 11/10/2020 17:32

So goodbye. I will not be back. You are not people I wish to associate with.

Bye!!! Biscuit

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anonymous1234567890 · 11/10/2020 17:30

The mumsnet people seem to dislike any current top 100 names and expect all children to be named really obscure names. Popular names are popular for a reason before they are gorgeous and well loved! Names like Ingrid aren't popular because they are dowdy and old fashioned. End of.
Mumsnet get so much bad press as being stuck up and bitchy. And that is definitely not what I want. I want names that don't make my child different and potentially bullied for their name.
So goodbye. I will not be back. You are not people I wish to associate with.

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