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Using the same name as my ex...

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LittleLL · 27/09/2020 16:53

We were together in our early 20s and it was a really formative relationship for me (definitely first love stuff) but we broke up over 10 years ago.

We have had nothing to do with one another in that time - no contact at all for 10 years. I live in a completely different part of the country. No mutual friends. I am now married to my soulmate and he is also married.

I had my daughter 2.5 years ago, and obviously we never used the name we had planned for a boy. Since then, my ex has had a son and used my boys name. This is just coincidence, and I only know about it because I'm still friends with his brother on Facebook.

I'm now expecting my second baby and would like to use the same name if we have a boy.

Is this weird? I have really mixed feelings about it but think I'M probably just being weird.

What do you think?

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TenThousandSpoons · 28/09/2020 11:01

Absolutely fine. Would be a bit odd to use your ex’s actual name but his DS’s name is fine,

Enko · 28/09/2020 09:47

Completely fine

ZoyaTheDestroyer · 27/09/2020 22:01

Unless you still hold a candle for him (and it doesn’t sound like you do) it’s really fine.

Whatsyourflava · 27/09/2020 18:38

Completely fine

BluebellsGreenbells · 27/09/2020 17:38

Same thing happened to me, but no FB then so we didn’t know. Bumped into him with his boy at a gathering. Just a strange coincidence.

AltoCation · 27/09/2020 17:23

It’s fine.

Obviously don’t reference your ex or his child’s name, just get on and name your child. No big deal, no deal at all.

Ughmaybenot · 27/09/2020 17:08

You’re not really in any sort of contact and you’ve no mutual friends, I don’t think it would be weird given that it’s a name you’ve always loved.
Chances are it’s not that unusual a name anyway.

Runkle · 27/09/2020 17:08

It's fine.

HumbleCrumble · 27/09/2020 16:55

I thought you meant give the baby your ex's name at first, which would be a bit odd! But the same name as his son is fine.

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