Anyone named their child something they didn’t like because their partner likes it?

I compromised by giving DD the spelling of first name that DH preferred (think Clare v Claire - the name was my initial pick but the spelling his). I’m coming around to his spelling and tbh it’s lovely either way so it wasn’t a dealbreaker. But we had a rule that if someone disliked a name it was taken off the table and we moved on. It’s not fair for either parent to have to live with a name that they actively dislike.

FWIW I hate the idea of naming a DC after yourself. Children should have their own identities. DH’s middle name is his dad’s first name and when that I find a bit egotistical!

Fuck no. Compromise and give the baby his name as a middle name if you like, but you both have to like his first name!

I suppose you could use either his for name or his surname as a middle name as a compromise, although I still wouldn't if I didn't like it.

Whatever you decide to do, give the baby your own surname,

I really dislike it when parents do this. It is so chavvy and tacky.
I doubt your child will thank you if you do this.
Say to your oh let's go the whole hog and when we have a daughter let's call her my exact name, see what he thinks to that.
Through my job I've met men, and it is always men, who have the exact same name as their father and the vast majority are embarrassed by it.

Give the baby your surname.

Would you give your baby your first name?

A compromise might be to use the father's name as a middle name.

It smacks a bit of machismo.

My DS has a middle name I really dislike, I don't use it unless I really have to (passport for example) as DH was adamant. I wish he didn't have a middle name at all 5 years later.....

No, I think it's important that both of you like the name of your own child.

Don’t give in!

I really dislike the practice of naming a child after it’s parents (and it’s usually some macho crap as it’s almost always son after his father). Confusing and just silly. The child is more than the produce of his father, he’s his own person and deserves his own name. Definitely not if it’s a name the mother doesn’t even like. Use fathers name as a middle name if you must.

And no, I don’t think it’s right to pick a name unless both parents agree. I love the name Alexander but is a hard veto from DH for personal reasons and, hard as it’s been, I accept that. Also given that mum has to carry and push baby out, it’s definitely not fair to use a name she isn’t keen on.

I done get naming a child after a parent. It’s odd and think of all the practical issues. DH wasn’t keen on DD2 name but he has just seen me give birth and be whipped off for emergency surgery so he just went with it when I told the midwife DD2s name.

I gave my daughter a name i don't like, because it's the feminine version of both of her grandfathers' name (think DF and DFIL both called George, DD is Georgina) - it was very important to my husband. I didn't like the name, still don't like it on other people, but i love it on my daughter because it is her name. I knew i would, too, so it never really mattered to me.

So just give the baby his name? Exact same first name last name??

I never really understand it and it’s maddening that in 90% of cases it’s the father’s name that gets passed down, not the mother’s.

If your DP is a John and his father a John and his grandfather a John I can kind of understand it because he’s honouring his family but if he’s the first John and he wants a baby John it seems incredibly egotistical...