Anyone named their child something they didn’t like because their partner likes it?

I really wasn’t keen on the name of our first son but my husband really liked it so I went along with it. It wasn’t that I hated it, I just didn’t particularly like it either, and I had no idea what else to call him.

He’s 6 now and I adore his name - it just took a while to grow on me.

I think I am a bit mean, but I refused to name our children after dead family members and I would 100% refuse to name our child a name we didnt both like. Both DDs have middle names that are the same as my DS and his DS, so there is a family connection, but they are both very normal middle names and we both liked them. Their first names are 100% their own, chosen by both of us (which was INSANELY difficult as we are both teachers, so have a very long list of names that we had bad associations with. We spent months saying no to literally hundreds of names).

IMO I think a name is so important and it should be something both parents can agree on. There are enough names in the world to find one both of you like.

I would never.

Don't be pressured into giving your child a name you really don't like. You'll only end up regretting it.

No, it should be something you both like! My partner really wanted to name our DS Marcus but I couldn't agree because I really don't like the name. Thankfully, we both chose a name we both love & suits our DS.

I hope this baby is having your surname?!

And a big fat no to you having to name your own baby a name you dislike.

My partner is named after his father though he goes by a different variation of it to most people. It's confusing when you get letters through etc. Ok in the beginning when they're a child but when they're a teenager and young adult still living with you. Also when people call for one and the other one answers.

Thankfully partner agrees that it's a bit silly and egotistical to do it - not to mention it's always the male line as if the surname isn't enough.

Like others said you both have to agree. There are some names I like that were vetoed but we have some we agree on.

No, it should be a name both parents at least like. He might want to name a son after himself, but you don’t. Maybe you could make a list to pick from together instead.

Do NOT back down on this. You will regret it when you’re hormonal postpartum, up all hours feeding etc you have to love the name you give your baby.

Compromise, use DHs name as a middle but put your foot down on this trust me

I would say stick to your guns. As a compromise, use his name as the middle name.

What happens if you have another child of the same sex?
Older brother has dad's name and he gets a name that doesn't have the same significance? I can see all sorts of issues there.

I think it's much better to choose a name you both like rather than one which one of you loves and one of you hates. Middle names are slightly different as nobody ever calls you by your middle name in day to day life.

Not so much I dont like it it just wasnt my first choice. I thought ds2 was going to be a girl Dh thought boy. We were stuck on names so as long as we both liked them I would of had my first choice for a girl and dh got his choice for a boy. Like I say I didnt hate it and now hes older I couldnt imagine him being called anything else.
Is it not a name you can shorten?

I don’t really like DDs middle name, but it was my partners late mums name so couldn’t really say no!

Dp wanted to give a baby his name. I said absolutely not, and that was the end of it.

My husband is DYING to name a son after him (and his dad, grandad, great grandad tbf) - he has a son already from a ONS but he doesnt have his name or surname. I don't dislike DHs name just think it's crap calling a child after yourself, like a pp said they deserve their own name. Luckily we have 3 girls so wasnt an issue

WTF?! No.
This is so egocentric and outdated.
Both parents need to like the name, and if you really can't agree, the mother gets the final word.
Assuming you're not married (you say DP not DH) you have to register the birth - he can't do it without you - so it's your call.
I'm guessing someone like this has assumed baby should get his surname, too. But you should give baby your own surname, either by itself or with his surname added.

I didn’t dislike my son’s name, was ambivalent really, but my husband adored it, so we went for that.

Fast forward a few decades and DS decided he didn’t like it and changed it himself.

You need to stand up to this. Don't call your baby a name you don't like. Is using it for a middle name a compromise? Why is his choice more important than yours?

You should both like the name, having two people in the same family with identical names is confusing, wanting your child named after you is egotistical, they are their own person, stick to your guns, use DHs name a middle name.
However if you did name your child with a name you don't like I think you would soon associate the name with your child whom you love and it would change your feelings about the name, but I wouldn't do it!

No way!

Your son deserves his own name, one you also love!

I had a bad time with XP who didn't want a baby. I had two names I liked, but was undecided. I thought he might bond with DD better if he chose the name. When I was in the late stages of a very difficult labour, he gave me two options. I didn't like either of them, but chose one. I hate it, she hates it and he left us anyway. I have to say that she hates my choices too!

We've chosen family names from a couple of generations ago and I know friends who have used their names or their parents names as their child's middle name. I think a child named exactly the same as a parent might cause identity issues?

Yes, DH wanted to use a name important to him and his family. I really don't like it. However I understand why he wanted to use it so it's DS middle name.

I think it would be a real shame to settle for a name you're not really keen on. Is the difficulty that if you veto it you'd have to admit you don't really like your partner's name? Could you not just stress the point it would be confusing? Because it would. Unless he's keen on using "junior", in which case omg, poor you!

Ds1 has his grandfather name, which is very similar to his surname. I was not happy but unfortunately, during early pregnancy I saw the two couples I knew who were pregnant or had a newborn argue about their babies name. It was not pretty sight. So I asked my dh if he would like to name the baby if it is male and I will chose if it a female. No back talking allowed. No harmful names allowed. Then next pregnancy we get to pick opposite gender names.

Dh liked the plan and agreed to it.

Now ds1 is called something similar to John Johnson. It’s the same name twice right?