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Asked if I like the name...and I don’t! Advice?

31 replies

Heh1991 · 03/09/2020 01:23

A very good friend of mine is pregnant with a boy. Her and her partner have finally found a name they both like and have fallen in love with the name Vaughn. She has asked my thoughts and if I like it.

No offence to any Vaughns out there but it’s not my taste. Do I tell her? I’d normally be honest but I don’t have a reason to discourage the name just my own personal taste. I’m aware of how much difficulty her and her boyfriend have had finding a name they both like and how emotive names can be.

Help!

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TitsOutForHarambe · 03/09/2020 01:58

The fault is with your friend for asking, to be honest. I don't get why people do this. Names are very personal, just like interior design, fashion, food preferences etc. Totally pointless asking someone else if they like the name that you have chosen, and if it someone close to you then you are putting them in very awkward situation where they feel like they have to lie to you. Your friend should choose the name that she likes best and then go with it. It doesn't matter what other people think.

Thisisnotnormal69 · 03/09/2020 01:33

Say it’s lovely and be done with it. It’s not an awful name and they’re obviously happy with it so no good can come of actually giving your opinion! This is one of those occasions when a little white lie is best!

HeddaGarbled · 03/09/2020 01:31

It’s not awful, so I think you should just lie and say you like it.

Tavannach · 03/09/2020 01:30

It's not your baby so you don't have to like it at all. Just say something like "That's so unusual - it's lovely." (It is lovely. To them.) By the time the baby's born they might have changed their minds. It's not awful. It'll grow on you as you get to know the baby.
Fingers crossed she's not on mn because it is unusual.

Enough4me · 03/09/2020 01:29

One of my friends said a name I liked for DD made her think of horses. I was a bit put out, but this friend and I are blunt with each other and also supportive when we need it. I used the name!

Honestly I think you are better off saying things like "how did you pick it?", or "is it a family name?", or "he won't be confused on registers with two in the same class", rather than a full negative comment.

Strokethefurrywall · 03/09/2020 01:27

Just say "I love it, it's so unusual!"
That's all!

FWIW I love the name Vaughn and was on the list for my mythical third DS!

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