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Twins with very different names

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FirstTimeMumOfTwins · 21/06/2020 06:00

DH and I have very different taste when it comes to baby names. Before I got pregnant we talked for years about what we might one day call a baby, and could never find one name we both liked! We ended up having identical twin girls and eventually found two names we both love, although they are certainly not matchy. One is very English and the other is an old Scottish name (I am half Scottish). The only thing is that they both have the same number of syllables. Everyone keeps commenting on how they don't match Sad Does it matter? My response is usually that they are identical, so it's nice for them to have names that are very different. But it is starting to bother me and I kind of wish they had more similar names. What do you think?

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Mummyoflittledragon · 21/06/2020 07:12

What are the names? How old are they? I imagine this will pass. Many things in life do.

Tlollj · 21/06/2020 07:11

I don’t think they have to match.
What are the names?

SecondStarFromTheRight · 21/06/2020 07:08

Names don't need to match but I do think they need to complement each other to an extent. Each person is an individual but they are also members of the same family and it's nice to feel part of a unit. Complementary names aid that. Elizabeth & Katherine works better than Elizabeth & Kylie for example.

GirlCalledJames · 21/06/2020 07:07

I think it’s great they don’t match, they are individuals not a two piece set. Just come up with some good answers to rude people.

Bakeachocolatecaketoday · 21/06/2020 07:06

Like Vivienne Marcheline & Knox?? I thought that was odd - that Knox was given a matchy matchy made up name with his male siblings and Vivienne given an inherited family name.

beautifulmonument · 21/06/2020 07:01

This idea that children's names should "go together" is one I've only heard on mumsnet and not something I'd ever considered before. I don't get why it matters if their names are similar or not at all

fabulous40s · 21/06/2020 06:56

Think it's like all siblings - they should be of the same family of names - eg having a Charlotte and a Henry works better than Charlotte and Tyler for example

emilybrontescorsett · 21/06/2020 06:56

You see I don't think Gemma & Phoebe or Rosie & Laura are very diffetent.
I would raise an eye at twins or siblings called Anne-Marie & Hunter-Neuvoux.
Just as I would if one child was dressed in army camouflage, with wild hair, comfortable practical shoes and taken on outdoor pursuits whilst the other was dressed head to toe in sparkly sequined attire, impractical shoes, hair adorned with bows and ribbons and never encouraged to pursue outdoor activities.

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyear · 21/06/2020 06:49

I think it is lovely that they have very different names :)

BruceAndMarley · 21/06/2020 06:48

They’re individuals , just because they’re identical it doesn’t mean they seen similar names. Tell people you wanted them to be their own person and that although they’re identical they need some individuality . I know a few set of identical twins , some with very similar names / Maggie & Masie , Graci & Charli, Laura & Layla. Then I know a few with different names- Rosie & Laura , Phoebe and Gemma . They don’t need to be similar x

Fearofawelshplanet · 21/06/2020 06:43

My twins are have a Scottish and a French nameGrin mine are identical but I have ensured they are raised with lots of individuality. They are 13 now and great people .Smile

newphoneswhodis · 21/06/2020 06:38

What are the Names. I think I would raise an eyebrow at one called Mohammed and one called Rupert. But I wouldn't say anything. It's quite rude once they are born and named.

Phillipa12 · 21/06/2020 06:31

I would fucking hate to have a matching name with my identical twin, thank God my mum was sensible and saw us as 2 individuals.

emilybrontescorsett · 21/06/2020 06:10

Named.

emilybrontescorsett · 21/06/2020 06:10

There seems to be an obsession about names for some people.
"Is it too common?"
" I want a unique name. "
"I don't want her to be one of 3 in her ckass"
I suppose this is a part of that. Why don't you just tell people I name Anne and dh named Windcime ?

WellrushWanderer · 21/06/2020 06:04

My friend has twins called Cerys and Rosie and gets the same comments. I think they both have lovely names and surely that's all that matters.

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