Hurt by comments on name , should I change ?

Stella is a lovely name.

I’d reply.

I’m sorry you don’t like it, but you did insist on asking. So now you know. We’re not changing it.

Stella is a lovely name, and your mum is rude af.

Oh I adore Stella!! Beautiful name m. Classic, strong x

Just ignore OP I can always remember when I took DS into work the wanker guy I worked with commenting "you named him a funny little name didn't you" some people either don't think or in his case he was a childish and a bully.

Oh I Remember stupidly mentioning baby names to my mum and being told how horrible and awful they were!
If I was in a position to have another one I’d keep my mouth firmly closed!

Not sure if anyone has already said this but I think what you're up against is that Stella was quite a popular name many years ago - my mum has many friends called Stella and she's in her 80s. Your mum may just think it's old fashioned or have some 'friends' who tarnish the name for her.
She will get over it. It's a lovely name which has risen in popularity again recently but is still not common.

Your baby name is betw you & DH. Don't let others, even your own Mother, make you doubt & change your mind. If you like it, then go with it.

I have a friend called Stella and she really is a star in my opinion so I only have positive feelings about it.
In all likelihood your Mum will get over it and it won't be an issue. The only thing that occurs to me otherwise, is that you said it was a strong reaction and out of character that I did wonder if there is maybe some underlying reason she feels so strongly, like maybe she was bullied by a Stella as a child or something. I might be inclined to give her a call, tell her you were shocked and upset by her reaction but also ask if there is reason why she dislikes it so much. If its just a personal preference thing then that's just tough, stick to your guns, but if there is a genuine issue for your Mum, I guess you might want to at least know that and consider if its going to impact on anything.

Don’t change it. Stella is a lovely name.

I struggle a bit with it being the name of a beer but I do actually love that name! Reminds me of stars. When my MIL heard DC1s name she said ‘ is nice’ and made it clear she didn’t like the first name. It was a bitchy comment (so was your DMs comment). Just ignore. not her choice

if we all loved the same name everybody would be called that & than you would have arguments about why are you calling your child x name (Oh wait we have people saying that!) In short op you cant win your baby your choice -

But Stella is so pretty! Don't be put off it. Any objection she has is really subjective anyway- I do understand a grandmother querying a name that would hold a child back in life or be embarrassing in some way, but Stella?! She probably just knew a horrible one when she was 10 or something. She'll get over it.

When I was pregnant and close family said negative things I gave them answers like;

Oh I don't like that name
Good job you won't have to use it every day

I wouldn't name my baby that
Good job it's not your baby

I don't like that outfit
Ok when baby wears it you don't need to hold them that day

My baby wouldn't be called that
You can name your next baby/ per what you like

Just give sarcy uncaring answers even if you're struggling inside.
I mentioned a few names to close family/ friends and got really pissed off if people slagged it off. So when we chose the name months before baby was due we kept it quiet.

Your babies, choose what you want.

Stella is beautiful . My friend’s dgd is Stella Lucy and it means starlight. I love it.

Stella is a lovely name. As is Estelle which is even prettier I think.

My MIL was very vocal about hating our name choices and I foolishly listened and changed DSs name about 6 times when pregnant. 😩

I personally hate the name but having said that it’s none of my business and I would never say that to a parent as it’s just plain rude

You just did.

Not her baby, and if she hates it so much, she can stay away.
I like Stella and know two - and they are delightful little girls!

It's a lovely name.

You'll never get a name that everyone likes. The really popular ones get called "overused" so you can't win. FWIW I think it's a lovely name.

Your mum needs to fuck off. Dont engage any further with that discussion.

It's nothing to do with your Mum. Your children, your naming rights - and who cares what anyone else thinks. It really doesn't matter whether she learns to like it or not - can't see the problem tbh. You need to worry less about what other people think. By the way, Stella is a lovely name.

I had a friend called Stella. Lovely person, lovely name.
I'd be tempted to point out you didn't ask her opinion.

I told my mum fake names because I knew she would be like yours. I said we were going to call baby Horatio all through pregnancy. When we told her DS name she said 'well I guess it isn't as bad as Horatio' now she loves the name and it really suits DS. Also Stella is lovely.