Love Victoria but hate Vicky

I go by Tori or Victoria. Except dh and mil forget how much I detest Vicky and occasionally call me it.

It’s hard not to feel insulted by all the hatred of my name
But it’s important to think of all the possible nn’s and how you’d feel about them.

I went to school with lots of vickys but the 3 Victoria's that I'm close to all go by Vic

I know a Victoria who is a Tor.

I echo the posters who say you cannot control your child's name. I know several Victorias who don't abbreviate their names, but this doesn't mean that your Victoria won't want to be called Vicky, aged 13. I remember a Rebecca at school whose mother was fighting an uphill battle to stop her being called Becky. I also disagree that if you enforce the full name or choose an alternative nickname then that will stick; she may choose Vicky for herself later.

If you dislike the most intuitive nicknames then avoid the name.

My cousin goes by Victy, which I haven't heard anywhere else other than a musician Victy Silva.

Haven’t RTFT but my daughter doesn’t go by the traditional diminutive of her name. Because we outlined our chosen diminutive from birth it’s all she’s been called, she’s never once been called the more common shortening. Would never occur to her, or anyone else, to call her it-it just isn’t ‘her’

I know a Tor (Victoria). I cannot imagine her being a Vicky at ALL.

Also Tori / Tory like Tori Amos.

Just always introduce her as Victoria, correct family members who call her Vicky. You won’t be able to control it once she’s older but within the family you can

Oh and I know one called Ria - to the point where I forget Victoria is her actual name!

Funny, I know a Victoria whose mother was Ria - full name Gloria.

I'm a Victoria, and I'm known as vicky/vix/vixey to everyone.
I hated victoria growing up, as a pp with the same name said: stuffy, formal.
I longed for some kind of cooler, simple name.
Now I'm am 33 and don't mind being called Victoria. My DP who is 18 years older than me sometimes refers to me by victoria to people who don't know me.

If you really can't stand Nn vicky or the above, i wouldn't use the full name. Your DD will eventually decide what they will be called.

However to add, I do know a twin set where one is called Victoria and she remained a victoria into adulthood.

Tor? That's a boys name.

And Tory is a member of the Conservatives!

Victoria is beautiful as it is.

I know a Victoria who has gone by Tori her whole life. She is about 16 now and has never been called Vicky.
I think if you call her Tor or Tori as a nn she will be more likely to go by the same at school and with friends rather than deciding herself she’s going to be Vicky. But again it will be out of your hands so if you really hate it I wouldn’t go with it

Don’t use it if you hate Vicky so much, you may be able to control it but it is a very natural shortening so probably not. Use it as a middle name, it’ll be used in its entirety then.

I know 2 adult Victorias who are known as Victoria. Beautiful name and so easy to say.

I wouldn't shorten it at all.

I don't know any Vickys. All the Voctorias I know go by Vic, Tor or Tori. A few of then just go by Victoria and I've never heard them be called anything else.

You wil have zero control over nicknames as your child grows.

Your child herself may like the name Vicky, friends may start caling her that.
And you really don't want to be that mother who corrects other people " actually it is Victoria"- very unappealing.

Give a name that can't be shortened ( athough nicknames will always be found) or one that you like the sound of.

Better still relax a little over names. My DD had the nickname of Gustav ( coined by her history teacher) at high school, her own name is not similat at all.

It’s really pretty much I also can’t stand Vicky although I know one - an adult who goes by Tor.

I love Victoria but hate Vicky too!

I don't mind Victoria but share your aversion to Vicky. DH has an ex who shortened it to Tori, which I'm still not keen on.

I would also caution against going for a name which you hate the shortening of. I have a name which has an 'easy' nickname (like how Davids nearly always get Dave) and I frequently get it shortened by people I don't know from Adam. You can't really control it, especially with a name like Vicky/Victoria.

I remember a guy I went to secondary school with- others who went to the same primary school used to say his mum would rail on anyone who called him Ben instead of Benjamin, even other small kids. Life is just too short to be worrying about that shit, so I'd go with something else.

I just realised why I don't like Victoria, it reminds me of 'sticky vicky' from benidorm 😂🙄😢

Ive a few friends name victoria..none of them called that, they are knoen as, vicky, Tors or Tori.
My mum wanted to call me Victoria, I would have liked to be known as' Tori "I think

I actually don't know any Victoria's my age who go by Vicky. One is Tori, one is Tia and one is Vic.

I think of even Victoria as quite 'common' now if you get my drift every Victoria I know was parents trying to level up the status by naming what they though was 'posher', I prefer alternate names ie violet, toria, ria ect

Vix is now used as a nickname too. Vicky less so. Seems a bit old fashioned now. Tori is also commonly used.