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Major name regret, reassure me please?!

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hellosunshine5 · 13/04/2020 18:15

Hi everyone,

This is my first ever post - I’m a longtime lurker though!

I had my DS when I was 17. I’m now 25 and he turns 8 in May.

I was so young and deluded at the time which obviously had an effect on the name I chose for him...

And to make matters worse his name is also heavily connected to his Dad’s, who he has no contact with.

His name is T.J.

On his birth certificate it’s T (his Dad’s name) Junior, but he has only ever been called/known as T.J on a day to day basis.

Now I’ve matured (slightly Grin) I hate the abbreviation and just find the whole name a bit cringey? I dread telling new people that I meet his name and am actually a bit embarrassed by it!

Realistically I know there’s nothing that be can be done now, his name is part of his identity and I just need to get over it of course. But I just can’t help but think he’s gonna hate me for it when he’s older...

I would have such a different view on names at this age, ah isn’t hindsight such a wonderful thing?

Anyway, just looking for some reassurance that it’s not as bad as I think it is...

Apologies in advance for any offence caused by fellow Mum’s of T.J’s.

Smile
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Spied · 13/04/2020 18:24

Well I won't lie. It's not great, no.
Your ds I presume is happy with his name. It's who he is and am sure he doesn't even think about it.
If he hated it you could ask him what he'd prefer and maybe nn him 'junior' or somethingConfused but no way I would bring it up first and chances are he will never have thought about it.
I do think you need to stop worrying about what others think.
If in years to come he wants to change his name then he can.

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