Is it naff to call a baby boy my surname

OP, my friend did exactly this - it's fine. Works really well, actually, because the name is also a first name.

Who is James Cordon? Did he call his son Cordon? I do hope not.

@IDontLikeMondays88

It REALLY depends on the (sur) name. EG, I know a woman whose parents gave her her mother's maiden name as her middle name, her father's surname for her surname, and her mother's first name as HER first name.

So eg, her mother was called Sharon Mackie, and her father was called Dave Parker, and she was called Sharon Mackie Parker. It sounded bloody ridiculous and everyone thought 'Mackie Parker' was a double-barrelled surname, but it wasn't!

As a few posters have said, it depends on the surname. But you're not going to tell us what it is, so we can't really give a 100% honest opinion.

If you use your surname for work, I imagine your work colleagues would think it was a bit naff.

I think it's a lovely idea. I dont understand the posters saying it removes his identity.... either way someone else is choosing his name, a name that inevitably someone else will have so still wont be his "own." Theres no guarantee he'll like whatever you choose.

My baby is due soon and will have my grandfathers name as a first name, followed by my dads/husbands name as a middle (they have the same name) with mine and my husbands surnames double barrelled (I kept my maiden name).

I think it really depends upon the name and how much you love it.

James cordon and his wife did this

I think it's quite sweet.

Someone I know had maiden name Thomas and used as given name for son which I’ve always thought was brilliant.

Then we might know the same person. I also used to know a Blake who was named in the same way.

My Dad’s family often used to use the mother’s maiden name as a middle name for boys, although my grandparents’ generation seems to have been the last to do it.

My son has his father's surname unfortunately-we're not together.
I was the last in my family with my surname, I was devastated that it would stop with me but my ex wouldn't let me give our son my name so he has it as a second middle name instead, but he knows he has to give any future sons the name too!!! 😂 😂 😂

Yes, I think it would be naff, one of my cousins did this and it still sounds naff now.

But that shouldn't matter to you one bit. If you want to do it, just do it.

@purplerainn people can be married and have separate surnames. It isn’t compulsory to change your name upon marriage and therefore you don’t need to clarify they aren’t married, the statement could just be they have separate surnames.

OP, I think if the name works as a first name then I don’t see why not. If we have a son, the surname will be DH’s but my surname will be a middle name (can also be used as a male forename). I love it as a first name but we have a friend with that name and we’re trying to it use names already in our circle to avoid possible hurt feelings. In that instance the middle name will definitely be after me rather than after a friend.

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You sound pretty sane, OP, and I therefor doubt that you'd be calling your son Jackson or Harrison. That being the case, it's probably ok.

When my Grandad, my Mum's Dad died and as she was an only child her maiden name would have died out. We decided to give our only son her maiden name as a middle name so that the name would live on in some way. At the time it meant more to my Mum than to my son, however he is due to get married (cancelled and rearranged due to Covid) and will use his full name at the ceremony as well as using my Grandad's wedding ring which my Mum gave him as his wedding ring.

But that’s what I’m saying, OP. If you like your name, don’t change to your husband’s, and use it yourself. Your baby can use yours or both surnames, and merits a first name of his own.

Think ahead to if you will have more children. We gave DS1 my surname (married but didn't change my name for anything) as a middle name. Not double barrelled. Along came DS2. Ah, how do we make it so that DS1 wasn't favoured? So now they both have the same middle name.

Great idea

Miranda did this in Sex and the City! Her little boy was Brady Hobbes

Perfectly normal in Scotland. More often used as a middle name but also used as a first name. My DH's first name is his mum's maiden name (perfectly normal name) His middle name is his gran's maiden name. We almost used another relatives surname for both DS1 and 2, changed our mind but nothing to do with them being family surnames.

I think it’s a great idea. Someone I know had maiden name Thomas and used as given name for son which I’ve always thought was brilliant.

@Echobelly
I think you mean Henchard.
Or Durbeyfield
Depending on how long you have to discuss
😂

Can't give an opinion without knowing the name!