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Is it cruel to give a child a long name?

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RyvitaBrevis · 15/03/2020 23:00

A family member has told us he was terribly embarrassed as a child to have a name with three full syllables (think Christopher). As a result, he and his wife gave their children shorter names.

Now, I wasn't particularly bothered by having a three syllable name myself, but I'm wondering if he has a point. I don't want to be cruel or to make life harder for my DC. We currently have some 3-syllable names and even a 4-syllable name on the list.

Are 4 syllables beyond the pale? Does anyone have experience of raising children with long names - and do they mind?

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s3tut0y3r · 21/03/2020 20:48

I think it is fine as long as the surname hasn't got too many syllables. I think a simple surname like Smith works well with a multi syllable first name. However if you have a long especially hyphenated surname I think it can be OTT

MikeUniformMike · 19/03/2020 16:13

But who would say randomly that they were embarrassed by their name?
Most names get shortened.
I know plenty of people who go by a shortened version of their name and dislike the full version.

PureAlchemy · 19/03/2020 01:28

I’ve known plenty of people with 3 syllable names - I think I know people with most of the 3 syllable names mentioned upthread - and never have I ever heard any of them say that their long names were embarrassing.

ReturnofSaturn · 19/03/2020 01:22

I've got a Zachariah. Goes by Zac though. Never even thought about the syllables thing!

Staffori · 19/03/2020 01:10

I have a three-syllable name that can't be shortened nicely, therefore I think it's important, if you choose a long name, that it can be shortened nicely. Christopher to Chris or Rosemarie to Rosie are fine. Helena to....what, exactly?

MikeUniformMike · 17/03/2020 10:45

You might love a name like Mariyonnita but seeing it truncated might make you feel sad.

MikeUniformMike · 17/03/2020 10:44

Ryvita, it also applies to things like usernames, name registers and so on.

PerfectParrot · 17/03/2020 06:29

My name is 4 syllables and I like it. I have a shortened version I use most of the time, but like having a formal version for job interviews etc.

cece · 17/03/2020 06:21

One of my children has a long first name, two middle names and a reasonably long surname.

It quite often doesn't fit into forms!

Yeahsurewhatever · 17/03/2020 00:11

How painfully dull of them.
They can’t have many issues or things to think or talk about if having a 3 syllable name is a big issue for them and they need that badly to fit in.

As a child I remember learning to spell and write my name (v long) in the same amount of time as someone with a 3 letter name, and we were both praised equally and I was incredibly unimpressed. I have managed to continue on into adulthood fairly unscathed though and only sought a handful of therapy sessions for this.

RyvitaBrevis · 17/03/2020 00:01

Good point about forms, thinking about limits when combining first, middle, and last names.

@SumAndSubstance "Eccentric" is the preferred term Grin

@Quizeerascal To be fair, I doubt the Queen is self-conscious about anything so maybe not the best standard for comparison!

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RyvitaBrevis · 16/03/2020 23:55

Thank you all! The family member in question grew up in the 1950s when maybe shorter names were in vogue, but I think we can safely conclude that his experience was far from universal. Grin

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PanicAndRun · 16/03/2020 22:36

Well DD was furious with me in nursery for giving her such a long name as it took ages to write unlike Rose,Luke,Marc,Ava etc.

She's over it now.Grin

She has several nicknames, including one for about 3 years that she gave herself that was completely unrelated to any of her names. Think Stephanie with nn BuBu for example.

Crunchymum · 16/03/2020 22:32

DC2 full name is 8-9-8 letters.

She is 5 (reception) and can only spell her first name Shock

MikeUniformMike · 16/03/2020 19:58

Christopher is a very traditional name and popular.
It's a saint's name. Sir Christopher Wren etc.
Very popular in mid 20th century but has stood the test of time. It looks a lot longer than, say, Oliver.

Long names are usually shortened.

The long names in my age group are things like Deborah, Nicola, Rebecca and Victoria.

Candyapple49 · 16/03/2020 19:40

Ds 4 is Christopher - never in a million years do I see that decision as cruel !

percheron67 · 16/03/2020 18:31

I don't think that a longer name will cause problems. More choices of nick names for one thing. Much better to have a longer name than some of the names I have seen on here. Giving a child a surname as a first name is a big no-no.

JellyfishandShells · 16/03/2020 18:10

Well, I did have mild regret when I saw my 3-syllable and letters with loops named daughter still writing her name laboriously whilst her friend Amy skipped from the table, but she just learned to write it faster - and she resisted all attempts at shortening it.

We also gave her a Welsh name, traditional in our family, which sounds a bit like but isn’t the same spelling at all in England so that always requires explaining.

She survived - and then changed her surname on marriage to her husband’s very interesting name, but which is also not spelled like it sounds.......

Lordfrontpaw · 16/03/2020 18:01

I have a 4 syllable name. Not shortenable to anything nice/not embarrassing! I hated it as a but it came in handy when I started working in the City as it sounded quite grown up.

PorpentinaScamander · 16/03/2020 18:01

Ds1 has a 3 syllable name. Plus 2 middle names. Hardly anyone shortens his name.

Actually just realised ds2 has a 3 syllable name as well. Although his gets shortened more often

Like a PP I have a 9 letter 1st and surname. I can't always fit it on a form Grin

MikeUniformMike · 16/03/2020 17:56

Katherine Arabella Cholmodeley-Featherstonehaugh would probably not fit on many forms

Standrewsschool · 16/03/2020 17:26

All my nieces have three syllable girls names. I think they’re pretty, and give the child options on what they’d like to be called. Eg. Katherine = kat, Kate, Kathy Etc.

Maybe not so good if you name a child Katherine Arabella, especially if you have a long surname or double-barrelled surname.

MikeUniformMike · 16/03/2020 17:17

It depends on the name.
Names that are long sometimes get truncated or might not fit on forms.

If the trend is for shorter names, a long name will stand out.

CtrlU · 16/03/2020 17:10

Terribly embarrassed for having a 3 syllable name ?

Grin first world problems

Whattheother2catsprefer · 16/03/2020 17:09

My DPs in their wisdom decided to give me a 10 letter 3 syllable first name to go with a 11 letter 4 syllable family name. I used to (mostly) joke that what I was looking for in a husband was a short surname and I didn't hesitate to take DHs four letter one syllable name. I was a little jealous of my brother and sister who had shorter names than me but I wouldn't call it cruel. I dislike the shortened version of my name so much prefer people to use my actual name but lots of people just automatically shorten it.