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Would you stick with the same letter?

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Ohhgreat · 12/02/2020 18:16

I have two DS (several years apart) and their names start with the same letter. Say Nathan and Nick (not actual names!). We're expecting our third and wont find out the sex until birth. Would you keep to the same letter? Would it depend if the next baby is another boy or a girl? Btw we didnt choose the second name because it was the same first letter, it was just the only name we could even slightly agree on, and tbh I still dont really like it...

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Emijen · 12/02/2020 22:19

I would if I loved the name, but if not I wouldn’t deliberately try for it

saraclara · 12/02/2020 22:18

Or stayed= it started

saraclara · 12/02/2020 22:17

Oh the post thing is awful. One of my daughters had the same initial as me. And once she was of an age to get mail or stayed to be a total pain. And if three boys have the same initial...

Coffeenofilter · 12/02/2020 22:15

*loved, not lived.

Coffeenofilter · 12/02/2020 22:15

I view it the other way. I wouldn't have thought one would feel left out if he didn't have an "n" name, but if I were the third son, I'd possibly feel like my name hadn't been chosen because my parents loved the name but because it fitted in with my brothers. I'd rather have my own name that my parents had lived just for me, rather than be called nigel just to fit the pattern ;)

ElphiasDoge · 12/02/2020 22:09

I actively wouldn’t, especially for same sex siblings. DH and I have the same first initial and that’s enough of a postal nightmare without adding to it. We said no kids with this initial thought even though there are loads of lovely names.

They won’t want to be opening each others bank statements and fighting over who needs to go to the depot for a parcel when they’re older.

bridgetreilly · 12/02/2020 22:03

I dont want them feeling like the odd one out, wondering why they didnt get the same letter as their brothers!

This is never going to happen. Pick the name that you like most and don't worry about matching.

Omashu · 12/02/2020 20:06

I wouldn’t worry about them feeling left out. Just make it clear that it wasn’t deliberate and it doesn’t matter!

TatianaLarina · 12/02/2020 20:01

I know three sisters who all start with T. Tbh it’s hardly noticeable. The only real issue is getting post mixed up.

saraclara · 12/02/2020 18:39

I doubt they'll even notice, never mind care, that their brothers' names start with the same letter. It's weird to think that they will.

And no, I wouldn't choose names that all begin with the same letter. It's tacky and unimaginative.

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Ohhgreat · 12/02/2020 18:33

Interesting. I think I'd only want to keep the same letter if it was another boy, I dont want them feeling like the odd one out, wondering why they didnt get the same letter as their brothers!

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 12/02/2020 18:26

I definitely wouldn’t.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 12/02/2020 18:26

No, I wouldn't. I find a run of more than two siblings all with the same first initial a bit teeth-clenching. I can't explain why, it just seems oddly deliberate and somewhat 'staged' to me.

ChelseaCat · 12/02/2020 18:25

Agree with PP - very tacky

HotGlueGun · 12/02/2020 18:24

Personally, I think it's a bit naff, but each to their own. If it makes you happy, then go for it.

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