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Honest opinions needed...Baby’s name is the same as a friends child

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Willow4987 · 08/02/2020 20:42

So a friend who I’ve known for 10 years (who I went to uni with) but don’t get to see that regularly due to where we both live in the country mainly

We were super close at uni, and I still consider her a close friend. When we are able to see each other, we click better with each other than most other people.

So the dilemma...her son is almost 2 and for the sake of the thread let’s say his name is John (it’s not but fairly common/traditional so kind of similar to the actual name). I’ve not had a chance to meet him yet (I have seen her however) but I’m due DS2 soon and the only name I like is the same as her sons

I’ve only ever had 2 boys names I’ve really liked, the first one I used on DS1

If you were the friend would you be offended if I used the same name?

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Rachelhaydenberk1 · 08/02/2020 21:29

*tell her.

Who knows, you guys might laugh about your similar taste and it may be fine! But if you nsme your child that name and dont talk about it first!, I think she may find it odd.

Rachelhaydenberk1 · 08/02/2020 21:16

I think you should call her and just tell you like that name too and see her reaction.

happymummy12345 · 08/02/2020 21:15

Our sons name is the same as one of my husbands cousins. Never thought anything of it, it was just the only boys name we liked

Strawberryshotrtcake · 08/02/2020 21:09

Out of my uni friends children we have 3 Isabel’s, 2 Amelia’s, 3 Oliver’s and 4 Thomas’s. Honestly it’s fine !
If it’s the popular normal type of names it’s not an issue

Nonnymum · 08/02/2020 20:55

I think it's fine. I don't see why she would be offended. It's not a surprise you like the same names. If you get on so well. And it's not as if you see each other all the time. If you are worried why don't you mention it to her.

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Willow4987 · 08/02/2020 20:52

@Standrewsschool no unfortunately it’s a name that can’t be lengthened or shortened. It is what it is...

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Matleavemadam · 08/02/2020 20:52

I wouldn't mind, especially as its fairly common and you don't see each other much.

Can you not run it past her first? And then just chose something else if she's says she's bothered

craftycrochet · 08/02/2020 20:51

My best friend from uni had a similar name to me. Let's say Julie / Julia. I married a guy called Mark, a few years later she married Marc. I had two kids by the time she got married. I called my son John. A couple of years later she went on to have a son, called John.
We don't see each other that often anymore but it does make me laugh!
*All names have been changed!

Standrewsschool · 08/02/2020 20:47

Can you call it a similar name. Ie. For John, call him Jonathan, luke -Lucas.

MayFayner · 08/02/2020 20:44

I would, but everyone here will tell you it’s a-ok 👌

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