Would you warn a mum that your baby will share a name with hers?

I don’t think it really matters when you tell them, I do think you might need to accept that the majority of people will think you copied your neighbour and be sure that that won’t bother you.

My mums best friend and her have the same name for their sons. And they were best mates at the time as well. It was taken as a compliment!

Sorry, street not class.

If the name is fairly ordinary, then use it. Don't call her Tinkerbellina.

It depends on the name. It will look like you are copying your neighbour and they will be p*ed off that you used it. You say you like unusual names but it won't be unusual if she is Tinkerbellina S. because there are two Tinkerbellinas in the class.

There are so many names, look for another one.

I'd mention it when pregnant, probably, but not before TTC.

We named our dc names we liked, that both our families would be able to say (two different languages/ cultures) and that went with our surname. Did not care whether or not the names were popular, whether other people we knew used them or not, etc. My one regret is that we didn't use Roman: our surname is too similar to Polanski for people not to make the association but I wish we'd gone with it regardless, hardly anyone is going to care by the time ds3 is grown.

Tell us the name. We can can help judge if it is in fact as uncommon as you think.
My son is called Oliver he’s 34 now people were amazed 34 years ago it was so rare. Now not so much. 😀

We wanted our dd to have a unique name too. If someone else moved in with the same name, we would pick something else.

I'd just say, oh your dd's name is lovely, it's the one that we had picked for our dd, then add: at least they won't be in the same year at school!

I gave my children "common" names. It's funny that the kind of people at their school don't like common names so mine are the only ones with their really common names. Really uncommon ones are duplicated at their school though!

To be honest I would try really hard to find another name.

Not because the other mum might be put out. But because if you are in a smallish area and they are that close neighbours and in the same small school it’s going to be a bit of an issue. Not a big one but maybe a bit annoying. And think about it from the children’s viewpoint. Especially as you want a slightly unusual name. There were two girls with the same name growing up on my road and they ended up Jane X and Jane Y. Which kind of defeats the purpose of picking something different! (They weren’t Jane obviously!)

I actually would mention it but can see I’m in the minority! I’d just feel happier about the whole situation (not that it’s a big deal) to do it that wag

If the little girl over the road has the name it’s probably not as uncommon as you think. These things are cyclical and maybe there may well be a couple of children with the same name.

Yeah, 20viona that's why there are about sixty thousand threads on mumsnet (other parenting forums are available, and it's exactly the same on those) where mothers are 'furious', 'heartbroken', 'devastated' or some other hyperbolic expression because another set of parents have DARED choose the same name as they have/want to.

Is it really that unusual a name? Lots of names that we think are a bit different turn out to be quite popular after a couple of years so there will be a few more in the school eventually.

I think the clue here is "I wouldn't say we are friends"......close friends and relatives, I think you should mention it or avoid that name, but neighbours that you walk to school with, no.

"Warn her"? Why does she need a warning about a name? What might she do if she isn't warned?

Honestly no one except you cares what your babies name is I'm
Afraid.

Nope. It risks making a bigger deal of it than it is.

Name your baby and then when you bump into the neighbours and they comment on the name you can mention in passing that the name was decided months ago, and you obviously share great taste in names or some such nicety.

No, I wouldn’t. Your baby, your rules