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Theo or Raphael?

107 replies

MrsMummyBx · 27/12/2019 04:45

Help!!! Need a name for our DS2 who is already here!! DS1 is Hugo. DH and I like Theo and also Raphael but can’t agree which one. I like both and don’t have a particular preference - thoughts on both below.

I like Theo but worried it’s well used in his age group, though I personally only know one Theo who doesn’t even live in the UK. We live in the south east. Also worried it might not be strong enough / with enough gravitas. I don’t particularly like Theodore so would only name him Theo. However I do think it goes nicely with Hugo.

I like Raphael but not sure if it’s too ‘arty’ for more serious things when he’s older- also the name with a ‘ph’ spelling seems to be a Jewish name (we aren’t Jewish), but at the same time it’s also the English spelling of the name - so not sure I care about inference of another religion. The spelling ‘Rafael’ is a Spanish etc spelling but I want an English spelt name as hubby is Italian so the child will already have an Italian surname and want an English first name to reflect both sides of his heritage.

Also like Jasper but yet to convince DH.

Preferences on the above two names please - also suggestions on any others are welcome!! We need to decide ASAP!!

Thank you xx

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FluffyEggsontoast · 29/12/2019 23:46

Jasper is cool OP how about Casper or Rupert?

MrsMummyBx · 29/12/2019 23:22

@ProperVexed I like Angus a lot but it doesn’t really go well with the Italian surname and certain English names sound a bit odd but on the other hand we do definitely want an English name ..Not sure about pulling off Horatio...

@FluffyEggsontoast hmm this is my one and only reservation about Raphael is that it is non English sounding and combined with DHs surname the bubba will sound 100% Italian and not at all English! On the other hand because DHs surname is Italian, Raphael goes really well!

@HotSince82 DH is also Catholic, can I ask, are you English? I like your name list! Have you had good reactions to Raphael?

DH and I have had a ‘name summit’ this evening and sat down and talked through the names. Alexander is out as we don’t want either DC to feel bad that we have reused a name. We both still have Raphael as preferred name, with me also liking Jasper and Monty. We are making progress! We will mull it over more tomorrow!!!

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HotSince82 · 29/12/2019 19:34

Others we liked;
Reuben
Xavier
Christian
Hector
Eden
John
Oberon
Malachi

HotSince82 · 29/12/2019 19:30

I am biased obviously as my DS is Raphael.
We are catholuc though and he is named after the archangel who came before both artist and turtle.
Theo is nice, as is Jasper.
Hugo and Raphael/Jasper go well together.

FluffyEggsontoast · 29/12/2019 19:26

I MUCH prefer Rafferty @MrsMummyBx (Raphael I don’t like) . Sounds much more English to me

ProperVexed · 29/12/2019 19:25

Monty is lovely but a bit Labrador! I'm really not keen on Alexander. Rafferty is nice but not as nice as Raphael. If you have discounted Barnaby, could you consider Angus (Gus) or Horatio or Rupert?

MrsMummyBx · 29/12/2019 18:44

What about Monty?

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MrsMummyBx · 29/12/2019 18:39

@PlantPotting thanks that’s a great list, have run through them with DH!

@northernknickers haha glad it’s a gripping one...will be posting when we eventually decide which needs to be asap!! We have 2 weeks to register his birth - Yep that’s right the bubba is one month old with no name 😂😂

Sooo tricky...I WISH we hadn’t used Alexander as a middle name as that would be perfect. Feel bad pinching it from DS1s middle names though.

I’m wondering about Rafferty instead of Raphael as it sounds more English... do people like this??

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QueefLatifah · 29/12/2019 15:09

Toby?
Finn?

QueefLatifah · 29/12/2019 15:06

Can we have a picture 😍
Ralph:Ralphie?
Rudy?
Stanley?
Felix?
Sandy?

northernknickers · 29/12/2019 14:56

Is anyone else checking in regularly just to hear what name OP chooses? ☺️

PixieN · 29/12/2019 14:50

Alexander is lovely. Also like Elliot, Marcus and Edward from TobyeBella’s lists. As a teacher I have aversions to some of the other names suggested lol Grin

FluffyEggsontoast · 29/12/2019 14:40

How about Laurence (Laurie) if you like Leo?

FluffyEggsontoast · 29/12/2019 14:27

Not Raphael sorry

Love Alexander

PlantPotting · 29/12/2019 12:33

Meant to tag you OP @MrsMummyBx

PlantPotting · 29/12/2019 12:33

If he has 2 middle names then not really an issue no.

I love the name Alexander. One of my very favourites! How about Peter?

Don’t like Raphael sorry

Here are some suggestions:

Ones with good nicknames:

Christopher nn Kit
Wilf(red)
Barnaby
Nathan/Nathaniel - Nate
Rafferty / Raffy
Sidney

Other ideas:

Eli
Ellis
Miles / Milo
Seth
Cole
Otis
Eric
Casper
Rudy/Rudi
Dexter
Blake
Angus
Dominic
Idris
Percy

MrsMummyBx · 29/12/2019 11:10

Hi All

DH and I have mulled it over and we are back to Raphael having discounted Theo however we also like Alexander as a late entrant. Any thoughts?? Problem is that Alexander is already our DS1s middle name as we thought it went really well with Hugo, he has 2 middle names. Is this an issue??

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Pinkybutterfly · 29/12/2019 07:35

What about Teo?

TobyeBella · 29/12/2019 07:33

Also?

Tobias
Robert
Eric
Dominic
Marcus
Miles
Daniel
Angus
Rory (Roderick)
Liam
Joel
Benedict
Timothy

MrsMummyBx · 28/12/2019 21:13

@TobyeBella a fab list of names! Thank you!

@LarkDescending unfortunately one of his lovely cousins has this name!

@littlealexhorne hmm definitely Rufus does remind me of a dogs name but I do really like it anyway!

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littlealexhorne · 28/12/2019 17:40

Rufus makes me think of a dogs name more than a persons name! I like Rory best out of those still in consideration.

LarkDescending · 28/12/2019 16:33

Raphael is lovely.

Bruno also came to mind, though may be too rhymey with Hugo.

TobyeBella · 28/12/2019 16:29

Maxim
Gregory
Alistair
Alexander
Gabriel
Caspar
Elliot
Henry
Thomas
William
Jonathan
Christopher
Felix
Dexter
Oliver
Louis
Lawrence
Fredrick
Samuel
Benjamin
Edward
Edwin
Wilfred
Edmund
Quentin
Victor
Vincent
Hector
Julian
Nathaniel
Andrew
George
Alfred
Charles
Owen
Evan
Euan
Percy

Congratulations!

MrsMummyBx · 28/12/2019 16:23

@OhHolyNightWaking I know exactly what you mean! I had liked Sebastian originally but he’s definitely not a Sebastian!

As above, I’ve now discounted Theo - so it’s Raphael or any of the new options suggested by you lovely people!

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MrsMummyBx · 28/12/2019 16:14

@MikeUniformMike DH loves Leo also but I’m off it as I’ve gone off Theo since posting the above due to over popularity. I know one also who is just a month older than my DS2 so I think there’s probably something in it.

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