Change of name

I know what you mean, I was the same and debated whether to change for months. Didn’t in the end. Hard to give an opinion without knowing the names. Thought of names like Sasha and Remy. Love both and had both on my girls list (both mainly boys names)

What would you change it to?

On the Continent Sascha (German spelling) and Sacha (French spelling) are mainly used for boys. It's traditionally short for Alexander.

Aubrey & Sasha are both girl names to me ?

Wattagoose90 the name could help teach your child and others not to be so obsessed with sexist "standards" and stop people from assuming stupid things.

I'm having the same thoughts about my sons name. It's not widely common and I thought it was strictly a boys name. However I've since found out that it's a girls name in the USA and that it's infrequently used as a girls name here too.

I'm having the same doubts about condemning him to a lifetime of ridicule. I love the name but I'm gutted.

I also thought of Sasha.

It really doesn't matter what we think because if you are unhappy with your choice it's definitely not too late to change it.

FWIW I think girls tend to carry off more 'masculine names' without any issues, compared with the opposite... (yes, I know society is ridiculous)

@BlouseAndSkirt you can change the original birth certificate until up to a year old. There is a box at the bottom of the certificate for it.

I don’t think you can just change the birth certificate unless there was a mistake www.gov.uk/correct-birth-registration

You can change by deed poll but that will give her a lifelong extra admin task.

You loved the name, I bet it is becoming more popular here as a girls name ( if it is Aubrey).

You can call her by any name you like. My DH’s name that he is known by to everyone except very official things, is not his birth certificate name.

Also desperate to know the name but without knowing it I would say don't concern yourself about which countries gender it which way. Little girls called Wyatt, Max and James etc is a thing now. If you love it and it suits your baby then just hold on to it. If however you really feel it was a mistake, change it. I have done it more than once inside the first 6 weeks and yes it was awkward letting people know BUT I'm so glad I did it

We need to know the name to give a sensible opinion as to whether you should change it or not, as some possibilities might have the problems you are concerned about, and others not. Is it common in European countries many of whose nationals now live in the UK, or where your DD might end up living herself? (I don't think it can be Aubrey as two people have suggested, as that's a boy's name here and not in other European countries.)

Luca? I would think of that as a boy's name, I must admit.

Nikita? Might be less of an issue.

What's the name? My son has an uncommon name, but we love it and couldn't imagine him as another name.

We changed the spelling of my daughter's name when she was 16 weeks. I was so scared and embarrised, but it was fine! Everyone was supportive and it was no big deal. It was 100% the right decision. So don't feel like you have to live with it and make the best of it. Don't be be afraid to make the change if it feels right. Feel free to PM me

I’m guessing Aubrey. Don’t let others opinions/potential opinions sway you OP. There is so much variety when it comes to names nowadays children are rarely teased for their names, and if they are the problem doesn’t lie with your child. Perfectly normal names also have plenty of teasing potential Will-Bum (William) Smelly Ellie...so you can’t guarantee they won’t be teased whatever you call them. Be kind to yourself OP and have confidence in your decision.

Feel free to PM me too! I’m dying to know as I looove the type of name you’ve described! I’ll tell you my dd’s super rare name in return hehe 😛

I find unisex names really cool. I have named my girl a unisex name. Wait a little longer, i found it very strange to name my daughter as you basically make up the name this little human will be known as for the rest of their lives! And you’re probably sleep deprived and hormonal, if you’ve always loved the name stick to it for now!

I'm soooo intrigued to know the name too. If you like then keep it, don't take any notice of what other people say. If you really want to change it just change it. What does your partner think? There will never be one name that everybody likes

I really hope her name is James, and it so is definitely keep it!

Remember why you loved the name

I’m guessing (wildly) that it’s Sasha. FWIW I think that it’s a fabulous name and was on my list for a girl (all boys here!)

It honestly depends. There are some names that don't "translate" well, but also some are totally fine. I have a name that is a man's name in some countries but female here - foreign colleagues sometimes get a surprise, and I get the occasional "Mr" in the post but it hardly affects my life. On the flip side, there aren't many male Lesley's about nowadays...

What is it? Difficult to call without knowing it.

I'm so intrigued by the name. We have given our daughter a very unusual/rare name, I believe it to be more American but definitely has more male connotations over here.

@mumumof2 yes of course