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Can I use the same middle names for both daughters?!

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lvra · 01/10/2019 18:43

Hi,

My first daughters middle name is after my mum, she passed away when I was a teenager, I've been wondering would it be strange for my second daughter to have the same middle name to?! Has anyone else ever done this?

Obviously the name does mean a lot to me because it was my mums name but I also just love the name.

Thank you in advance!!

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PillowLid · 01/10/2019 19:30

Yes

PetitsGateaux · 01/10/2019 19:28

What about ‘Hana’? It has so many lovely meanings in different languages, including ‘flower’: en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hana_(name)

Jemma2907 · 01/10/2019 19:27

Both my sons have 2 middle names and one of those names is the same. Mainly because all the men in my family are named that as their first name but called by their 2nd I.e my dad being Robert Simon Elliot Smith (everyone calls him simon), my brother being Robert Samuel George Smith (everyone calls him Samuel) NOT USED REAL NAMES It's only a tradition through the men though so I didnt need to use as a first name but wanted to use it as a middle name.

DonttouchthatLarry · 01/10/2019 19:25

Oops, was beaten to it!

DonttouchthatLarry · 01/10/2019 19:24

How about Flora?

yetanothernane · 01/10/2019 19:23

What about your mum's surname? (I'm assuming your DC has your partner's surname.) My friends middle name is her mum's maiden name.

If your mum's name is Fleur then you do have lots of similar choices. What about her favourite type of flower etc?

I don't think it's odd. I doubt most people would know both girls have the same middle name. If someone asks 'oh were named after granny'

Sowingbees · 01/10/2019 19:23

All my dh family have the same middle name. We have continued as it is for good, tho sentimental, reasons. Middle names are a bonus, I'm not keen at all on using the same first name as a deceased relative but middle names are rarely used. In fact mine love the fact they have to same name as each other and their dad.

user1493494961 · 01/10/2019 19:22

Flora would be nice.

SewMuchForThat · 01/10/2019 19:22

May is such a lovely middle name. It goes with most first names.

Rachelover60 · 01/10/2019 19:19

I don't see what not or if your mum had a second name, you could use that. Also spellings can sometimes be varied.

RueCambon · 01/10/2019 19:17

I like this idea. Hate using same or similar first names for cousins but this is different.

socialistmamma · 01/10/2019 19:17

Most (if not all) of the women in my generation of family (sisters/cousins etc) have the same middle name, not sure if it's a Catholic thing tho for us (note to self, ask mum why). I'd say go for it, it's special to you for a reason

Imicola · 01/10/2019 19:16

I have the same middle name as my sister and my mum, and now my DD also has it! No problem whatsoever, definitely not weird, and hardly anyone would even know!

Laquila · 01/10/2019 19:16

laundryelf you are being constructive and thoughtful, which is basically the opposite of smartarse! 😂

I honestly don’t think it shows a lack of imagination though, or that it’s a shame not to use another name you like - I just think It’s a nice way to honour your mum, and to give your girls something to share (I know that presumably they’ll share a surname too, but you know what I mean!)

Likewise though I think it’s lovely to use May - goes nicely with Fleur. Or maybe Rose/Rosalie or similar? Daisy?

Namechange8471 · 01/10/2019 19:15

If you REALLY love the name use it as a first name?

NameChange30 · 01/10/2019 19:14

I would use May if I were you.
Sorry you lost your mum at a young age Flowers

Cyberworrier · 01/10/2019 19:10

I was about to say maybe one of your grandmothers name as an alternative- perhaps your mum’s mum’s name?

DramaAlpaca · 01/10/2019 19:09

My friend's two daughters have her middle name as one of their two middle names. I also know a family where all five children, boys and girls, have the same unisex middle name. It's not something I'd do, but it's not uncommon.

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lvra · 01/10/2019 19:06

Ahh these are all such good suggestions! My mum was born in May, May is also my grandmother (who I am very close to) middle name. I think May is very commonly used but it does have meaning to me.

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PrincessLouis · 01/10/2019 19:03

If your mum was born in a convenient month you could maybe use that to honour her? Eg June?

Or perhaps her surname or maiden name? Her own mother’s ie your maternal grandmother’s name?

june2007 · 01/10/2019 19:02

No to me it is not personal. I knew a family of 3 brothers between them I think there were 4 names. One middle name was another first name ect. It showed real lack of imagination.

TeenPlusTwenties · 01/10/2019 19:02

You could give your DD2 your name as a middle name.

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lvra · 01/10/2019 19:00

@laundryelf my husband has no relationship with his mother so he wouldn't want to use her name I wouldn't of thought. I do agree, I would like our second daughter to have something different. I'm going to look for a similar name.

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laundryelf · 01/10/2019 18:58

Typed slow, not a smart arse honestly, but what about honouring your MIL by using her middle name?
I can't explain why properly but it just doesn't seem right to use a name again when there's so much choice out there. It seems a bit lazy or uncaring, which I am sure you are not.

Cyberworrier · 01/10/2019 18:57

My brother and I (female!) have the same middle name, it’s my dads middle name after a family member. I would go for it, in honour of your mum.

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